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Original poster

Left over chinese

107 replies

Sophie89j · 29/04/2023 07:26

Light hearted(ish), I’m completely expecting people to say IABU however I think I’m not and I am slightly devastated by this.

So I went to bed early last night after we had a Chinese take away, I’d left my leftover plate in the microwave in the dream of being able to pick at a bit of chow mein when I indefinitely get up several times throughout the night with the baby.

I was up with baby at 1ish, I was so exhausted but I noticed my plate had been moved, didn’t think anything of it in a zombie state.

Got up at 5 with baby for the day, realised what I’d noticed at 1 then the penny dropped, my plate had been cleared or eaten or something, whatever, the leftover Chinese food I had been savouring in the hopes of a pick me up had vanished.

DH must have eaten it, AIBU to be boiling inside at the shear audacity that he’s eaten my leftovers?! He had his own food but no, he’s also decided to eat my leftovers?!

I’ve checked the food bin, he hasn’t scrapped my plate as there was quite a bit left. I highly doubt our 11, nearly 12 year old ate it as I don’t think he would have had the balls.

I’ve WhatsApp’d DH, accusing of eating my plate. Is this grounds for divorce?!

OP posts:
Batalax · 29/04/2023 07:51

A microwave doesn’t have magical properties. It’s still kept at room temperature.

SeasonsBleatings · 29/04/2023 07:52

Leftover Chinese is breakfast in our house. Individual mains are always always kept for the person who orders them but noodles, rice etc are communally up for grabs to the first to the fridge!

Popsicle42 · 29/04/2023 07:57

Good grief, a lot of posters have woken up on the wrong side of their beds this morning!

OP, your husband was bang out of order. You must LTB immediately. The whole point of ordering a Chinese takeaway is because too much food arrives so you get leftovers.

Leaving food in the microwave for you to heat up in the night is something I would consider doing if I knew I was going to be up half the night feeding.

oh, and my partner and I often message each other, even if we’re in the same house. We’ll often message when we’re in the same room if we don’t want the kids to hear what we’re saying!

Oblomov23 · 29/04/2023 07:58

This would piss me right off. Touch my left-over Chinese or curry, at your peril! Dh wouldn't dream of!

QueSyrahSyrah · 29/04/2023 07:59

And to think the human race survived for thousands of years before fridges! 🙄

I'm always a bit stunned by the high level food poisoning paranoia on this site that I just don't encounter in real life. It's one thing to be cautious yourself, it's a new level to randomly attack someone else for their extremely low risk choices.

OP can you start packing his things? This is a true LTB situation.

coffeecupsandwaxmelts · 29/04/2023 08:00

Batalax · 29/04/2023 07:51

A microwave doesn’t have magical properties. It’s still kept at room temperature.

I always leave food out in the microwave or oven overnight - it goes in there to cook down away from the cats and then as it's out of sight, I inevitably forget to put it in the fridge.

Always eaten it the next day (either as or re-heated) and never once had an issue with food poisoning.

PinkButtercups · 29/04/2023 08:03

OP will be fine leaving it in the microwave! Well if she actually got her food but she didn't.

Deadpalm · 29/04/2023 08:04

😂😂😂

Op you just gave some mumsnetters nightmares for week!😂

JesusMaryAndJosephAndTheWeeDon · 29/04/2023 08:07

Bury him under the patio now. No jury would convict you

Iloveburgerswaymorethanishould · 29/04/2023 08:08

Ah!! Magical morning Chinese!!!
If my OH did that, he'd be spending the next 3 nights back at his mums, blocked on everything!!! (Joking like).
I also leave it in the microwave and rarely eat it warmed up!! Saying that I let all my food go cold before eating!!
He owes you at least a new Chinese!!!! 🥰

Original poster
Sophie89j · 29/04/2023 08:08

😂😂 I’m glad at least 50% of the
MNer’s took my post as the lightheartedish post it was supposed to be.

To the other 50% I apologise profusely for my disgusting habit of leaving food in the microwave, I will add looking into food hygiene or health and safety courses onto my to do list after I’ve looked into solicitors Tuesday morning.

OP posts:
SargentSagittarius · 29/04/2023 08:10

Surely leaving food in the microwave is signalling it’s there for the taking??

Otherwise you’d leave it somewhere normal, like … the fridge….?

So - YABU.

SinnerBoy · 29/04/2023 08:11

No, no, no! Don't bother with the solicitors. Be patient and get another Chinese and stash the remnants until the following week.

Put the week old remnants in the microwave and allow your revenge to take it's course naturally.

Original poster
Sophie89j · 29/04/2023 08:11

Also he hasn’t submerged yet however he has been active on WhatsApp with no reply as of yet! He must be absolutely petrified!

To the MNer’s who are bound to call me some
sort of stalker for checking his WhatsApp status, I am currently in sleeping baby jail on the sofa with little else to do other than stalk and potentially plan his disastrous demise.

OP posts:
Dragonsandcats · 29/04/2023 08:12

SinnerBoy · 29/04/2023 08:11

No, no, no! Don't bother with the solicitors. Be patient and get another Chinese and stash the remnants until the following week.

Put the week old remnants in the microwave and allow your revenge to take it's course naturally.

😂

EatYourVegetables · 29/04/2023 08:12

Use your words next time!

”DH, the rotting food in the microwave is mine, can you please not eat it for your midnight meal as I’m planning to eat it for my 3am meal?”

EatYourVegetables · 29/04/2023 08:14

And Chinese takeaways are to share, so you can have a bit of everything. I do not understand these concepts of “mine” and “yours” when it comes to Chinese takeaways.

Owchy · 29/04/2023 08:14

I’m with you OP.

He has to shop and cook today and the portions better be big.

Yuasa · 29/04/2023 08:17

coffeecupsandwaxmelts · 29/04/2023 07:47

@strawberryfluff and it's not your business and nothing to do with the thread 🙄

Loads of people eat leftovers that have been left out all night - if you think it's gross and unhygienic, just don't eat it.

Precisely. Op’s choice and her dh clearly didn’t find it too disgusting to eat. I wouldn’t either.

Of course, we’ve had the obligatory appearance of ‘grim’ too.

aSofaNearYou · 29/04/2023 08:17

Do you normally leave leftovers you're planning on eating in the microwave? If you'd left it in the fridge I wouldn't have touched it, but if it was still in the microwave at bedtime I'd think you'd forgotten about it and might have eaten it.

Mortimercat · 29/04/2023 08:18

Leftovers would be fair game in our house, unless I suppose somebody had specifically said they wanted it, but that has never happened.

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 29/04/2023 08:22

Leftovers from your plate are your own leftovers, surely?
I wouldn't dream of touching them.
Leftovers that hadn't been plated up are fair game.

MillicentTrilbyHiggins · 29/04/2023 08:22

Yanbu. Not even the tiniest bit.
Ex DP used to do that when I was pregnant. Tbh he's lucky he survived!

And I'd leave food out of the fridge and then eat it. I ate chilli this week that had been left in the pan for 2 days. I clearly have a cast iron stomach. Plus my kitchen is freezing.

Clarabell77 · 29/04/2023 08:23

strawberryfluff · 29/04/2023 07:39

So you messaged him while he was asleep? Or if he's awake in bed why don't you actually talk to him? Do you normally message each other in the same house?

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We message each other in our house if it’s to ask a very simple question that doesn’t require a conversation. Or I’ll text my daughter to say dinners going out for example - she’s always wearing headphones so it’s easier to text.

bussteward · 29/04/2023 08:26

I’m still stuck on leftover Chinese as a night feed snack. Just keep a packet of biscuits by the bed surely?