Cannot visit dh in hospital with cancer because we have a disabled child

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Dh has cancer and will be having hospital treatment in a hospital 2 hours away for a few months and is likely to be during school holidays. We have a severely autistic teenager. We have been given support in the home but have been told that because of ds's needs I am expected to be there all the time which means outside school hours I cannot leave the house unless ds is with me and I cannot visit dh.
AIBU to think this is unreasonable?

I didn't say I find it hilarious but it's laughable in an ironic way that people think it's just a matter of asking for respite and they will give you it ,there are thousands of families around the country waiting for respite and even those of us who have been granted it can't access it because of the shortage of staff.

@x2boys maybe instead of coming here and calling people stupid and saying they live in clouds and their suggestions are laughable etc…. Rather than being condescending maybe you can actually offer some advice to the OP… since you’re such an expert after all.
Amazing how all your posts are name calling and talking about your own life…. Nothing constructive at all

OP’s situation is very different to yours.
She would be a higher priority for it than you in her situation.
I’ve given plenty of advice other than respite… what advice have you offered?? Other than name calling others ?

Yoir responses to others are unnecessary… you could just respond ‘Sadly the demand for respite is higher than the need’….. rather than being so nasty

Sorry I meant ‘sadly the demand is higher than the availability’

Not really I had a child in intensive care! And we still.haven't been seen .