To think that most men on Tinder want women

[TheSlowRush]

To behave like a free sex worker?

Is this other’s experience?

Only men on Tinder?! <mostly joking>

Yep.

I’ve never understood why they don’t just go and pay for it.

Not that I’m a supporter of this ’sex work is real work’, but since that’s all men want, why not be honest about it.

Thei entitlement is also getting worse by second, I assume it’s because growing porn habits and the violence and misogyny they jerk off to.

I've never been on Tinder but have found the same as you (on other dating sites), I agree, it is most men wanting this (in my experience)

Are paid sites better?

Dating sites 🙈

Jerry Hall 1956–
My mother said it was simple to keep a man, you must be a maid in the living room, a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom.

*She married Mick Jagger and Rupert Murdoch so advice best avoided imho!

I think it’s the online aspect. Those men would likely never behave in that way if trying to chat up a woman in a bar or at a party. It’s like how it’s quite common to see people behave really rudely or aggressively online. It’s not really reflective of how they’d behave in real life because they’d probably get battered but online people can behave exactly as they want with no repercussions. Quite scary!

I’ve never understood why they don’t just go and pay for it.

Some minimum morals?

These men on Tinder who want one-night stands want to match with a woman who also finds them attractive.

@TheSlowRush nope, the men on dating sites you have to pay for are no different! In fact I think the men expect even more from women as they have paid ££'s to be on the site themselves.

My husband (now ex of course) was on it saying he was 39 when 45... says it all really..

Some minimum morals?

Doubt it.
They seem to lack it completely.
Too stingy or broke would be my guess.
And ego, what woman wouldn’t love to get to know mr.man’s magical penis!?

I hate porn and the sex trade, but surely both sexes like having some sex if both parties have some libedo? I've not been in Tinder, my impression though is that it's a hook-up site. Is it any different from hooking up with someone in a bar or nightclub?

Who cares what they want?

A woman can always say 'no' and walk away.

Are you surprised? I'm on the relationships board and most women seem to sleep with men on the first date and advise others to do the same so it's pretty easy for men to go on there and get sex the same day so not surprising they expect it.

I wouldn’t like to date a man who’d been on an online dating site ever, and I’d never use online dating myself , for this reason.
If a man said he’d had 12 one night stands in the last 6months, it’d be pretty grim, but nowadays these are just called ‘dates’.

Well, it's kind of seen as a hookup site really.

I found it a lot on tinder and OLD generally. Fine if people were upfront and said 'I'm looking for casual sex only, not a relationship at this point'. No problem at all. Annoying when they'd claim otherwise and let you spend time chatting and going on a date or more only to announce it later. I don't know how much of this was having intentions of a relationship etc eventually, meeting a woman and thinking 'not my soulmate but shaggable' and carrying on with the sweet talk or how much was lying outright from the start with no intention of anything more serious.

I’ve been told by men that even if they’re ultimately looking for a relationship that if they meet someone on Tinder, they can’t get themselves out of a ‘this woman is only worth hook ups/FWB’ mentality. Whereas if they meet on Hinge, they’ll want to woo them. Which is frankly gross.

Direct quote from a single male I know " if I have to pay for it I'm doing something wrong".

He was talking about sex and this was in a male setting. All the others agreed.

Men can be grim

I've used Tinder, PoF, Match, Bumble - all the men on all those sites were the same mixture of entitled and genuine. Tinder no better or worse than any other.

I find after you talked for a while, it inevitably comes to well let's meet up see if we are compatible then we can go on a date.

So test the merchandise so to speak I guess.

I politely say no thanks not for me, hope it works out for you.

Move on, inevitably after a few weeks they will pop back up thinking still here, must be getting desperate now.

Men can be vile.

Isn't that what is supposed to happen? That you meet prospective matches to see if you are compatible and attracted to each other?

It didn't used to be like that! When it first started it really was what it was sort of intended to be. I met one of my best friends through it (we didn't really click romantically but as friends we did!) and another close friend of mine met her husband through it.

@curtaintwitcher23

Yeah, if it was a coffee or a drink to talk get to know each other.

When they are looking for sex then if you are good enough in bed, they may consider an actual date, coffee, drink. That is something completely different.

But that should be the date! The first meeting I mean.

Im not sure if the poster means they wanted to have sex first then it compatible to on a date, or if she meant they want to do a “walk about aimlessly” meet up the first time.