To think that most men on Tinder want women

[TheSlowRush]

To behave like a free sex worker?

Is this other’s experience?

The trouble with that though is the men are only after the sex so when they know most women put out on the first night is it surprising they expect it? And go on there for it knowing one date equals easy sex

It is obvious, @SaulSobieski, obvious to many women. But, again, it's men doing the thinking.

Yes, and maybe that's why they feel free to act the way op is describing.

I think many women aren't even tuning into/being realistic about the men's agenda. Maybe the men think they're ok with it (wheh they're often not).

Yes just basically what I’m saying is when men know all it takes is to go on tinder arrange a “date” and they are pretty much guaranteed sex for very little/ low effort, it’s not surprising that men act this way.

I've had some really good dates from Tinder and met my current wonderful DP there. Because there are sooo many on there (if you live in Central London), you have to be 1) very picky and 2) if you like them, meet them for coffee right away. Don't waste weeks chatting to someone, people are very different in real life.

Also, the thing is, I did go on Tinder for sex! My current DP was meant to only be a one night stand! Women do have a choice and a voice, you know. Plenty of women want a shag too.

Women want commitment and a relationship. Men want sex and a casual fling. It’s been this way forever. Only difference is men couldn’t get the latter so easy years ago but they can now.

Of course some women may want no strings attached sex but men far outweigh women in their desire for this.

Not Tinder, but my dd signed up to a free site which matched you up with like minded people for chats, M &F
She put down dogs as one of her interests ( we have several)
The first message she got was from a man asking her if she was into bestiality 😒

All men want is sex, food and respect - regardless of what they tell you. Real life dating or online makes no difference.

I had 32 years of sex, including two marriages, before a man was able to make me orgasm, and that was with a one night stand.

I suppose to me sex is more like an enjoyable game of tennis than some huge emotional event. Or the emotional side of it is just separate.

I can't help believing that there are more women like me out there than you might think, simply because I had so much mental baggage around sex and it wasn't until that was almost ripped away by life that I suddenly found that I could enjoy it purely as a physical pastime.

I loved tinder when I didn't want a relationship and just wanted a shag.

I'm female.

I’ve had a couple of hook ups from dating sites, I am divorced, have children but wanted some sex and didn’t have the time/inclination to have a relationship. It’s a bit like voting tory, you don’t tell anybody about it in real life but you might admit it anonymously online (I’ve never voted tory btw).

Has Tinder changed quite a bit in the last 7 years? This was not my experience of tinder. Every guy I went out on a date with was super getting into a relationship. I actually hated it because it put too much pressure on the first date. Maybe try a different app?

I'm similar (not the 30 years with no orgasms 😱), but I find sex to be an excellent hobby, and it doesn't have to be a huge emotional bonding moment for me. I think there are lots of us around. Maybe societal pressure means we keep it quiet, who knows?!

Is having sex "acting like a sex worker" ?
What happened to mutually enjoyable fun ?

@BatshitCrazyWoman plenty of orgasms, just none with anyone else involved!

You can see the mental baggage that I used to have all through this thread (basic morals... just like a prostitute... spoiling men, giving them what they want... why would he buy the cow if he gets the milk for free etc etc) and I accept that for some people it's meaningful, but for me it isn't.

Is this ad for tinder😁 Have users dropped or something?😂
Tinder is hook up site. Nowt wrong with a one night stand if all parties wish to do so.

it's pretty easy for men to go on there and get sex the same day so not surprising they expect it.
It's pretty easy for women too. There was a saying "if you pulled on night out and her underwear matched, you weren't the one who pulled😉" Women actually make the decisions. We do have more power when it comes to casual hook ups then men. It's also easier for us to get someone!

Sometimes i see a downside to contraception. In that's its trained a whole generation of men to expect no strings sex whenever they want, with zero consequences

I’ve had lots of fun chats and been on about ten dates from tinder. None of them asked for sex. Though clearly would want it in a relationship.