Getting married in the summer and I've put on 2 stone!

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I need help! My house is a cluttered up mess, my diet is a mess and my bloody life is a mess. I don't want to start my married life overweight and come home to a mess.

We are getting married in June which gives me less than 2 months! Can it be done? Is it possible to lose 2 stone and sort out the house? We are going on a 'honeymoon' (camping with the kids) after the wedding and I really don't want to come home to all this clutter!

I feel like I need another year!

Oh I have bagged up a few things to get rid of, kids toys mostly but I have 2 big baskets and 2 black bags of dirty washing that I just can't dry afast enough ( although the weather is warming up) abut my drawers are already full to bursting!
I almost ordered another set of drawers but that's not fixing the problem is it?

Start the diet today
Make a list tomorrow of what needs to be done
Tick something off every day
With a break one day a week
Have a lovely wedding and a long and happy marriage

Get the bags out of the house

Be ruthless in your drawers

Personally, I wouldn't do this.

You love each other and are getting married.

If you want to get fitter for health that's fantastic but a crash diet for one day will probably mean that you'll put it all back on, and more, in the weeks following your wedding.

However, I do love a good clear out!

Can you take the washing to the laundrette and do it all in one fell swoop?

I wouldn't put loads of pressure on yourself to get everything sorted and lose loads of weight before the wedding. Could you set yourself an alternative goal that's not related to losing weight/having a tidy house? Something to do with you/your DH/the family?

I've joined Slimming World for the first time ever as my weight had steadily crept on. 2nd weigh in tonight, lost 3 lbs first week and should be on for another 2lb of my scales are correct!
Mainly cutting out white bread, sugary drinks, alcohol & treats.

Absolutely, buy yourself a really good planner highly recommend fox planners and get going on your goals. Xx

You really don't need all the stuff you think you do. Just get rid, sell, donate and recycle. Be ruthless or it won't make a difference. Don't get more storage - it just hides the problem.
If you are holding onto children's paintings for example, take photos and bin them.
Clothes - if you aren't respecting them, do you need them?
Toys, donate to a refuge. So many children have so little.

Go to Slimming World ASAP, it will cost £50 for two months and it will be worth it.

Take 1 bag of clutter out per day starting today.

I think the stress of sorting things out made me lapse, I've never been this heavy before. I hadn't noticed, I've been having pot noodle and microwave burgers, the junk stuff for ease of time.

and my nan died last year and I have all of her clothes just shoved in my drawers, I feel bad but I don't want to keep it all, maybe one or 2 things but it all smells like her so it feels a bit wrong.

Then we have all the kids toys and clothes that don't fit. I've got 6 weeks and 1 day to sort the house before the holiday and slightly less for the big day. 😅

I've got about 5 black bags in the hallway. I'll send them to the charity shop this afternoon after trying trying get another bag or 2 full.
Thanks everyone, we do love eachother and it's not about that. I really need to get motivated, I'm having a couple of people round for the pets/ plants while away and I really don't want to come home to a mess or loads of washing.

Before my wedding I put on weight. Not as much as you, but around 7kg. I had ordered my dress already and was between sizes so sized down thinking I would lose the weight. I didn't and when it came into store I couldn't fit it. I had about 6-8 weeks and I was VERY motivated by the huge costs of altering it (getting close of the price of the dress), so I went on a very calorie restricted diet, and exercised an hour a day. I think probably consumed about 1200-1400 kcals and exeercised about 600kcal off. I was successful and managed to keep at that weight for a good while after too. However, it was really not fun. At all.

So, it can be done (or at least some) but you have to be really super strict and motivated. And be ok with the fact you will, at least to some extent, be quite miserable for a while. I think losing 2 stone in 6 weeks is not possible with any of the more senisible approaches (unless you are really overweight otherwise).

Don’t crash diet. Just try and eat healthy. Aim for 2lb a week. If you’re throwing out a load of stuff why not do the same with any sugary high calorie food lurking in the cupboards and just enjoy a few weeks eating well and looking after your body. You’ll feel so much better for it, you’ll have more confidence and you’ll have wedding photos you feel super proud of x I hope you have an amazing day

I understand about with struggling keeping things out of sentimentality. I understand about panicing about your weight ...

But firstly what jumps out at me straight off the bat is why sorting out a messy house before you get married is all down to you?!

You can't lose 2 stone by June by losing 2lbs a week.

It can be done, you just need tod decide if your going to throw time, money or energy at it. Once you know what your expenditure is, you can make a plan.

Re: your nan's stuff OP.
She wouldn't want you to be keeping it all
Go through it all and start to narrow down what reminds you most strongly of her. If you can try and get it down to one or two nice things which are soft and smell nice like a jumper or two. Have you got any of her jewellery? A watch you could keep in a drawer where you see it often? A ring which you could wear on a necklace?

Re: the things which you don't decide to keep; take them to a nice charity shop which fits with something she would have liked to support. Animals or a health or hospise charity. She would be pleased to see that 😊

I know it's hard.

Don't fixate on the weight, I'd suggest joining a slimming club for accountability.
With the clutter, just get it gone bag by wretched bag. Get those 5 in the hall out of the house into the car and on their way to the charity shop. Don't wait to add more to it, your hall will look so much better when it's not there.
Declutter your cupboards and drawers of the tatty and outgrown things and the toys so you have room to put away the washing.

Obviously! 🙄 I wasn’t saying to lost 2 stone.

If you lose two stone by June that would be quite extreme, hard work and I’d be worried about the loose skin repercussions if you did manage it. You could definitely lose a stone healthily by June though if you tried. Maybe a little more.

You can't lose 2 stone by June by losing 2lbs a week.

No. But then you shouldn't be trying to lose 2 stone by June. It's not healthy and as PP have said, there's a good chance of putting it all back on again.

Re: your weight.

My advice would be to totally ditch the scales right now.

Today - start lowcarbing. If you can cut out bread, pasta and potatoes (and obvs cake and biscuits). Get yourself a big water bottle and drink loads of water each day.

Stick to those simple rules for the next 6 weeks and you will lose weight and you will lose any bloating really quickly. You'll feel it and see it in the way your clothes fit.

DOn't keep jumping on and off the scales. 6 weeks is too little time to be doing that. Resolve to carry on the good habits after the wedding too. It'll take the pressure off The Big Reason!

Re: the general declutter: 6 weeks is bags of time.
Do it room by room.

Do a bag for charity and a bag for rubbish.
When each bag is full get it out of the house and to where it's going asap.

Everything you chose to keep: make sure there is somewhere to put it. If you don't use it/play with it often, think about why you're keeping it.

As others have said cut out the sugars, carbs etc and try to eat healthier and get a few more steps in a day. House-wise do you have a friend or relative who could help you blitz a couple of rooms and take stuff to the charity shop with you? Having accountability to another person and someone who is not emotionally attached to belongings can really help

I wouldn't try and lose weight, certainly not crash diet anyway before June. Give your house a good sort out first. If it seems insurmountable, break it down into smaller manageable tasks- as small as you need to. And/or set yourself time limited goals: stick some music on and see what you can do in half an hour. I find that the thought that a task will take hours on end puts me off starting, so short bursts are better and more productive.

Sit down and think about what is causing you to stress out and procrastinate on so many things. Are you worried about your relationship, or is it just all the organisation of the big day, or being the focus of attention, family relationships which may prove difficult on the day, or is something else going on?

In terms of weight loss, I'd focus on making long term and sustainable changes to diet and exercise. You will probably lose a few pounds before June just doing that and certainly start to feel better. There were a lot of suggestions on this thread recently, some of which were mine:

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/4791949-please-help-me-i-need-to-lose-at-least-5-stone-and-i-just-dont-know-where-to-start?reply=125707418