Getting married in the summer and I've put on 2 stone!

[Couscousmoose]

I need help! My house is a cluttered up mess, my diet is a mess and my bloody life is a mess. I don't want to start my married life overweight and come home to a mess.

We are getting married in June which gives me less than 2 months! Can it be done? Is it possible to lose 2 stone and sort out the house? We are going on a 'honeymoon' (camping with the kids) after the wedding and I really don't want to come home to all this clutter!

I feel like I need another year!

I wouldn't focus on losing weight as much as if you start making healthy choices and being a bit more active you'll feel better by your wedding day in yourself.

Dont crash diet, just put yourself in a 7000 calorie deficit a week?! 🙄

You can do this.

Start calorie counting today. I've lost half a stone in 3 weeks by calorie counting. You could loose a stone by doing it for 6!

We've got bank holidays coming up so plenty time to do stuff!

Start with just tidying, putting things away where they should be, the drawers/toys/clothes you've sorted out already, get them gone to charity shops / tip etc!

Then you can start organising when everything is neater.

Maybe box your nans clothes up for now and keep them somewhere safe, you don't want to throw them out and then regret it later. Box them up in and loft them.

Then start setting a timer for one hour every day and tackle one job.

Good luck!

Only one thing for it. Keto.

Oh sorry about your nan

Yes those things have to go - but don't feel bad about that, it is something you clearly needed to take your time over

It sounds like you've already made a start on the house. Even if it's a small task a day, clearing a cupboard, tidying a pile on the table, throwing rubbish out or taking to charity it all helps. Maybe leave your personal clothes until last as some will be too big once you've lost a few pounds upwards.

I really wouldn't crash diet - not good for your health and trying to find a happy balance once you've achieved your goal will be harder. Slimming World works for lots of people. If not, changing your eating habits will certainly help, ie even just some toast with a topping or sandwich is better than what you're currently eating. If you like something sweet with coffee/tea, just have one biscuit and if you've peckish later make sure there's fruit available.

I’d recommend The Organised Mum Method for getting on top of the house.

Weight loss. I highly recommend intermittent fasting. I only eat between 11am -7pm. If you can crack that first for a few weeks, you can focus on the “what” you’re eating after that.

Urm… yeah!! 🙄

Calorie counting is a great way to do it. Massively helps with understanding portion sizes and eating healthier.

I think if you're in a disorganised phase (and god knows we all have 'em!) then calorie counting might be a bit of a big ask. It requires a fair bit of brain space. Checking packets and possibly measuring ect. It also means having the will power to have only a certain amount of something. Which IME can end up with 'mental bartering'. ''I'll allow myself a few more chips at this meal but not have the yogurt later'' ect. And then later you're desperate for the damn yogurt and have it anyway so you've achieved nothing!

For me - when it needs to be simple - cutting out whole food items (bread/pasta/potatoes/cake/busicuits/choc) is easier.

Look up Anglo DoorStep collection and book one, then you have a deadline, 20-30 min a day, bag it up, then put it all out and they collect.

Divide the washing into 7 piles, and do one every other day, hang as much as poss in doorways to dry.

See each drawer as a container- ruthless declutter as everything needs to fit in a container- pick all your favs and go from there.

Losing weight- am on this journey too, lots of water, those baby carrots from tesco help as snacks. I personally try not to have breakfast and a small fruit/veg snack at school pick up time.

You got this!!

But a decent lunch and dinner are definitely eaten 😂

Great idea getting rid of the sweets and crisps.

Well I suppose I can't be more motivated than right now to sort myself out

She says, sat in bed after only changing the sheets today. Bloody hell.

Regarding the weight, start meal planning healthy easy meals today. Instagram has loads of great accounts which show you what you can eat to be in a calorie deficit to loose weight. You have got this.

The house is a shared ‘issue’ with your partner/future husband. You both need to make a commitment to sorting this out. Depending on kids ages, you need to block out mornings on weekends or evenings and let them just play or watch tv and dedicate the time to clearing the house. Alternatively, one of you takes the kids out for a few hours whilst the other cracks on with a list of jobs. Don’t take all this pressure on your own shoulders.

Break it down op. Thinking about the whole job can be paralysing (it is for me)

So, you've changed the sheets in your room? As your in there why don't you tackle one of your drawers?

If you really want to lose 1 to 1.5st in 6 weeks it would be possible on meal replacement. Something like Exante or the Cambridge Diet.

However it feels awful and so only do it if you absolutely have to e.g. if you have an expensive dress to fit in. If you have more leeway than that, going low carb or intermittent fasting would be a much better way although you won't lose as much.

I've lost two stone since August, I'm well aware of how it works. What I'm commenting on is your assertion that deducting 7000 calories from your diet a week is not a crash diet. It absolutely is, that is HALF your daily recommended allowance and is not sustainable. And given they are struggling to keep on top of the house, I doubt they have time/energy to spend very many hours a week in a gym.

1. Take your washing (and half-dry washing) to the launderette and get it all done in one go. Have two dryers on the go. Invest three hours and tick that off.

1. One night a week go through each person's chest of drawers and figure out if you really will wear that item of clothing even if you can fit into it again (story of my life). Bag it up and take it to the charity shop/recycling point.

1. Be brutal with getting rid of stuff. Organise what you do keep.

Kind regards,
oioimatey

• Also getting married in June and has a house full of clutter and half done DIY projects :D

Didn't read the full thread - but regarding your nan's stuff, keep the most treasured items and give the rest away. She'd like them to be used, no doubt.

Good luck!

It’s certainly not recommended to lose anymore than 2lb a week. For me to lose 2lb a week I would be eating around 1400 calories a day for a week. That is not half the daily recommended allowance is it.
It is obviously different for someone who weighs considerably more than that; they could consume more cals and still lose 2lb a week. It is all calculated based on several different factors, including height, weight, sex, genetics, and how active you are.
I commented that aiming to lose 2 stone in that amount of time is not possible healthily but potentially a stone is possible in that time absolutely.

Your nans things , you could have a memory bear made out of your favourite clothes

I've lost two stone In a month but I have a lot of excess stomach fat

I went from 83kg to 70 from March 12th to my weigh in April 13th!

My healthy weight is 50-63. So I still have lots more so it isn't entirely impossible!

Cut our fizzy drinks. Walk 10k steps. 500 calorie meal twice a day.

500 calorie meal twice a day.

How will you not just put all the weight back on when you stop doing that?

how much do I need to lose? I even put off reading this thread, that's how badly I'm doing.
I'm just sat on the sofa drinking tea and farting.

She used to donate her own clothes to the charity shop, I don't know why it feels different but thank you for giving me "permission" to do it. She wouldn't expect me to keep a whole wardrobe extra full of stuff. Trousers were easy, but tops feel different some how.