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To be so bloody happy to have another BOY on the way

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blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:41

Lighthearted thread

But I see so many threads with gender disappointment towards having a boy

My reasons for being over the moon for DS#2 in my tummy....,,

I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!)
Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble

I'm just here for it all

What are your reasons if you love being a boy mum like me?

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Takemehome7 · 26/04/2023 21:49

Cantthinkofaname2203 · 26/04/2023 21:47

Have you actually read this?

it’s written in 2011 and cites Bill Cosby.

Bill fucking Cosby as an authority on gender differences.

fucking hell

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Um, you clearly have not read this.

"Clearly the average personalities of men and women are systematically different. Does this mean, however, that Bill Cosby's metaphor, that men and women are from “different species,” is apt? We would caution against adopting such a dramatic interpretation of the pervasive gender differences in personality that we report in this study. All of the mean differences we found (and all of the differences that have been found in the past – e.g., Feingold, 1994; Costa et al., 2001) are small to moderate."

Gender Differences in Personality across the Ten Aspects of the Big Five

This paper investigates gender differences in personality traits, both at the level of the Big Five and at the sublevel of two aspects within each Big Five domain. Replicating previous findings, women reported higher Big Five Extraversion, Agreeablenes...

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3149680/#B12

Bluekerfuffle · 26/04/2023 21:49

You’re not allowed to have light hearted threads here. Whatever you say, it will offend some and others make it their life mission to argue aggressively with the OP of any thread.

SheikYerboutiii · 26/04/2023 21:50

blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:52

@Sissynova no you're misunderstanding 🤣 I mean that the mother/son relationship is such a special one and I find my DS and nephews to be so loving and protective towards their mothers. I think it's lovely 😊 of course I'm not saying girls don't love their mums. It's just different. No need to take offence :)

I wonder if MN will be around when your wikkle princes grow up? I hope it is, because any future DIL is going to need a LOT of advice about how to deal with …. this.

GemmaFoster · 26/04/2023 21:50

MakesMeFeelSad · 26/04/2023 21:13

"my little boy was the love of my life"

I wouldn't be questioning someone who put was in a sentance like that

Can you not see why that might not be the best idea?

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Thank you so much. I love my gorgeous girls dearly but miss my dear boy so much. X

Hadjab · 26/04/2023 21:50

blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:41

Lighthearted thread

But I see so many threads with gender disappointment towards having a boy

My reasons for being over the moon for DS#2 in my tummy....,,

I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!)
Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble

I'm just here for it all

What are your reasons if you love being a boy mum like me?

🤮

Irequireausername · 26/04/2023 21:52

They're not less emotional, my brother was often violent, confused and depressed growing up. My nephews (not related) have also suffered mental breakdowns in their teens.

georgethegeranium456 · 26/04/2023 21:53

I am so happy I have a child. I love him/she/it/they/them and he/she/it/they/them love me.

Who the hell cares what breed/gender/sex/identification they are.

strawberryfluff · 26/04/2023 21:53

georgethegeranium456 · 26/04/2023 21:53

I am so happy I have a child. I love him/she/it/they/them and he/she/it/they/them love me.

Who the hell cares what breed/gender/sex/identification they are.

I mean breed is kind of important..

georgethegeranium456 · 26/04/2023 21:55

Yes sorry, human breed. Obvs 😝. But my point still stands!

waterlego · 26/04/2023 21:55

WhiskersPete · 26/04/2023 20:05

Less emotions to manage.

This is why suicide is the biggest killer of men under 45.

The rest of your list is also a load of gendered nonsense tbh.

This is exactly the thought I had. It’s worrying if there are parents out there expecting their sons not to express their emotions 😕

Srin · 26/04/2023 21:57

Delpi65 · 26/04/2023 21:30

I've got 4 boys - lucky me - it's an awesome ride - no time for how do I look ? / Where's my best coat and shoes - just get out there and enjoy

I can tell you don’t have girls.

NooNooHead1981 · 26/04/2023 21:57

My dear departed late brother loved playing with My Little Ponies more than I did, had loads more female friends than me, and was gay. Definitely no gender stereotype there.

If I'm honest, my DS is totally more emotional than both my DDs, has the biggest meltdowns ever and is definitely a lot more sensitive. Then again he fits the gender stereotypes with his love of all vehicles, but my youngest DD has her eyes on his ride on tractor and motorbike too, so it's all game here.

MakesMeFeelSad · 26/04/2023 21:59

GemmaFoster · 26/04/2023 21:50

Thank you so much. I love my gorgeous girls dearly but miss my dear boy so much. X

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Sorry for your loss

I don't suppose the poster has apologised for that insensitive comment have they

SparklyBlackKitten · 26/04/2023 22:00

What bunch of crap
And this line
"Less emotions to manage"
Is beyond unbelievable.
Boys arent born with ' less emotions".
And The rest is some stereotypical gender biased bs.

Cantthinkofaname2203 · 26/04/2023 22:01

MakesMeFeelSad · 26/04/2023 21:59

Sorry for your loss

I don't suppose the poster has apologised for that insensitive comment have they

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I’ve only just seen it.

sorry @GemmaFoster , I didn’t pick up on the tense and it wasn’t clear you’d lost your boy.

strawberryfluff · 26/04/2023 22:01

jontymcjont · 26/04/2023 21:33

Oops I quoted the wrong thing last time and meant to quote this post rather than the OP! So I write again but in response to this...

How often do we read threads on here from mums who feel awful because they've found out they are having a second boy rather than a daughter?
How often do people complain about others saying "ooo would you like to yegf one of each? Never mind you can try fir a girl next time" etc?
I think the OP is just flipping this so she can shout about how bloody ace boys are.

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People saying oh don't you wish it were a girl or similar are also wrong! Posting a list of lazy stereotypes to somehow counteract these comments is ridiculous and only fuels the problem

Jennylou88 · 26/04/2023 22:02

I think it's lovely your going to have 2 best little buds!

Killerqueef · 26/04/2023 22:04

Jennylou88 · 26/04/2023 22:02

I think it's lovely your going to have 2 best little buds!

What if they hate each other?

My boy and girl are ‘best buds‘

Stop with all this stereotyping bullshit! It helps no one

waterlego · 26/04/2023 22:05

Delpi65 · 26/04/2023 21:30

I've got 4 boys - lucky me - it's an awesome ride - no time for how do I look ? / Where's my best coat and shoes - just get out there and enjoy

I imagine there’s not much time for anything when you have four children, whatever sex they are!

strawberryfluff · 26/04/2023 22:06

Delpi65 · 26/04/2023 21:30

I've got 4 boys - lucky me - it's an awesome ride - no time for how do I look ? / Where's my best coat and shoes - just get out there and enjoy

Were you ever a girl? Is that what you did?

And also look up some beauty you tubers - there's a lot of men

strawberryfluff · 26/04/2023 22:07

Killerqueef · 26/04/2023 22:04

What if they hate each other?

My boy and girl are ‘best buds‘

Stop with all this stereotyping bullshit! It helps no one

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I know a couple of brothers who had a massive falling out and don't speak to each other

FernGully43 · 26/04/2023 22:08

I've got 2 boys. I love it! Would've loved two girls as well of course, but I see no negatives about having my two laddies and feel very complete with them

OnMyWayToSenility · 26/04/2023 22:08

Teenage boys might surprise you op 🤣

Blossomtoes · 26/04/2023 22:09

strawberryfluff · 26/04/2023 22:07

I know a couple of brothers who had a massive falling out and don't speak to each other

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I think we all know about them. We were spared no details. 😂

Ilovemycatalot · 26/04/2023 22:09

If you were that over the moon about it you wouldn’t of needed to start a post to convince yourself.