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To think DP is being unbelievably petty?

57 replies

PandoraRocks · 26/04/2023 15:56

I'm working away this weekend with DP who is also in business with me. We live separately but have been together a long time.

We always take my caravan to this event for us both to sleep in obviously. I paid for the caravan and all associated costs eg servicing, tyres etc.

The organiser of the event has decided to start charging £10 per night for electric hook up. We are there for 4 nights. These costs come out of the business. DP has told me he doesn't need electric for Thursday night as he is taking a flask so won't need a kettle and doesn't need heating or hairdryer like me. He has told me to pay the £10 myself😱. I told him he was being unbelievably petty and he can sit in the dark cause he won't be using my caravan battery then 🤣 so he said he will sleep in his van instead. AIBU?

OP posts:
BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 26/04/2023 15:58

Does he always take his van too?

OhmygodDont · 26/04/2023 16:00

Tighter than a ducks arse mate.

ItsCalledAConversation · 26/04/2023 16:01

Wtf? Is this a joke?

Tinkerbyebye · 26/04/2023 16:01

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

i assume the van will pull the caravan

yes he is being petty but as the business pays just claim it all. And if he gets arsy tell him you will charge the business for the use of the caravan, or he can get a hotel, or indeed sleep in his van

SpringleDingle · 26/04/2023 16:02

my fanny would clamp more tightly shut than his wallet at this level of petty tight-arse-ness. Yuck!

TempName247 · 26/04/2023 16:02

Off point but is there such thing as a battery pack that you can charge at home and plug your appliances into? You can get USB chargeable lamps

pussycatinfluffyslippers · 26/04/2023 16:03

Time to start charging him "rent" for the bunk in YOUR caravan.

Peachy2005 · 26/04/2023 16:39

What a cheek! Let him sleep in his van and work out future accommodation per night charge for any nights he sleeps in the caravan. He can’t be much fun to be in business with!!

Watchkeys · 26/04/2023 16:42

If he wants to sleep in his van, let him.

Can't imagine your relationship is much fun, if this can be an issue.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 26/04/2023 16:43

If you had to stay in a hotel for the business it would have to pay. How is staying in a caravan any different ?

Floralnomad · 26/04/2023 16:44

I really wouldn’t be wasting my time , either socially or in business with somebody that tight .

Topseyt123 · 26/04/2023 16:46

Well, he sounds like a barrel of laughs! 🙄😠

NoSquirrels · 26/04/2023 16:48

He’d throw this level of petty strop over a tenner? What’s really going on?

MysteryBelle · 26/04/2023 17:09

I think you need to disentangle yourself from that psycho, romantically and financially, and caravanally.

Rosula · 26/04/2023 17:15

The cost to him of that one night is going to be minute when you take into account that he's effectively only paying half and you can claim it against tax. Does he really think you should both sit in the dark, drink lukewarm tea and eat sandwiches, and wash in cold water just to save, effectively, a pound or two? Is he always that mean?

I think you should start charging the business for use of the caravan, including fuel, insurance, depreciation and maintenance costs.

ThatFraggle · 26/04/2023 17:15

Would dry up so fast...

Aquamarine1029 · 26/04/2023 17:18

Pick any man off the street and you'll do better. Bin this selfish prick right off.

Pixiedust1234 · 26/04/2023 17:22

Yes hes very petty, which leaves me wondering what he's like the rest of the time.

Personally, given that level of pettiness, I would think hard about how to split the business so I could split from him. Why? I wouldn't want kids with him. Or a house. So why bother with him when you can just use him as a FWB since he must have a golden cock.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 26/04/2023 17:23

Aside from the extreme pettyness, is it even possible to get a hook-up for only certain nights? Would it not be you either have a hook-up for the duration (maybe given a specific HU-enabled pitch) or you don't have a hook-up facility at all?

Would he really not want to make use of the electricity at all for that one night? No light, no phone/device charging, no shower, no toaster etc.?

Is he one of these people who will insist that they don't need something that others pay for, BUT then suddenly decide that, as you've paid for it anyway, he might as well use it after all?

You would think that, considering you provide the caravan and everything else that goes with it (including the gas bottle that he'll presumably be expecting to use too), he would be grateful for his bargain; not begrudging of a few quid for what YOU require, even if he supposedly doesn't.

This is a humungous red flag and one you'd be well advised to take heed of long before you ever get anywhere near the point of considering having children with him. He certainly doesn't see it as an actual partnership.

Sugargliderwombat · 26/04/2023 17:26

I mean there's tight and then there's just being a dickhead. Happy to use your caravan for free for all these years but can't cough up half the electricity. This would give me enough of the ick to dump him.

Sugargliderwombat · 26/04/2023 17:27

Oh and I agree with PP this is a red flag. I couldn't live my life with such a selfish arse.

OhmygodDont · 26/04/2023 17:31

On a side nope though op have you thought about one of those portable solar panels to top up your battery while away and not wanting to use hookup anyway? I see quite a few when camping who don’t want the hook up but still want to use some power.

ExtraOnions · 26/04/2023 17:31

…he sounds very attractive …

GoldDuster · 26/04/2023 17:32

Tell him he's welcome to luxuriate in the back of his van shivering with his flask and do what you need to do to jettison this joyless tightwad from your life. Unreal.

ShowUs · 26/04/2023 17:36

What time are you planning to get there Thursday?

If it’s late then I wouldn’t pay for that day either.

Surely you don’t need to use your hairdryer on the day that you get there?

If you are there all day then he’s a tight arse.