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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think DP is being unbelievably petty?

57 replies

PandoraRocks · 26/04/2023 15:56

I'm working away this weekend with DP who is also in business with me. We live separately but have been together a long time.

We always take my caravan to this event for us both to sleep in obviously. I paid for the caravan and all associated costs eg servicing, tyres etc.

The organiser of the event has decided to start charging £10 per night for electric hook up. We are there for 4 nights. These costs come out of the business. DP has told me he doesn't need electric for Thursday night as he is taking a flask so won't need a kettle and doesn't need heating or hairdryer like me. He has told me to pay the £10 myself😱. I told him he was being unbelievably petty and he can sit in the dark cause he won't be using my caravan battery then 🤣 so he said he will sleep in his van instead. AIBU?

OP posts:
Crikeyalmighty · 26/04/2023 18:03

And his good points are??

caringcarer · 26/04/2023 18:04

SpringleDingle · 26/04/2023 16:02

my fanny would clamp more tightly shut than his wallet at this level of petty tight-arse-ness. Yuck!

😂😂😂

Freefall212 · 26/04/2023 18:05

I think this is great. You will have a warm caravan to yourself and his pettiness results in him sitting in a cold van with a flask. You come out on the good side of this. When you see him at the event, ask him how his tea was this morning and carry on.

LittleMie · 26/04/2023 18:06

How unattractive, ew

caringcarer · 26/04/2023 18:08

I'd be wanting to buy him out of the business. I'd not even want to work with someone so petty and mean.

SkaneTos · 26/04/2023 18:10

I read the title like "AIBU To think DP is being unbelievably pretty?", and I thought that I can't really know that without a picture...

OP, he is very petty!

Rinkydinkydoodle · 26/04/2023 18:13

So does he just not like sex or something?

1offnamechange · 26/04/2023 18:23

ShowUs · 26/04/2023 17:36

What time are you planning to get there Thursday?

If it’s late then I wouldn’t pay for that day either.

Surely you don’t need to use your hairdryer on the day that you get there?

If you are there all day then he’s a tight arse.

I wondered this. If you arrive at 9 and go pretty much straight to sleep then yeah I would just use electric from Fri onwards (if this is an option, as a pp said it might not be). It's also relevant how you're getting there - if his van is towing your caravan, so otherwise you'd be unable to get there at all, it's a bit cheeky

That is all 'whataboutery' though, I agree that the basic premise (that it's tight to quibble over a small amount based on who will use slightly more of a shared service/item when you are in a long term relationship) is very tight.

Nordicrain · 26/04/2023 18:28

oh god, couldn't be doing with any of this. Surely your relationship is on the rocks if you are arguing like this over a fiver.

chocolatehoovering · 26/04/2023 18:30

What a knob. I couldn't be arsed with a prick like this.
How is the business is arranged?
If he is in business with you, surely you'd just charge the electricity hook-up costs to the business and be done with it. Or do you have to get his agreement to charge stuff to the business?
Weird.

I'd want rid of the asshole but since my last relationship ended 5 years ago I have no patience for any kind of bullshit like this, so maybe don't LTB just because I think he should be annihilated with the electricity cable from the caravan.

Original poster
PandoraRocks · 26/04/2023 21:34

Thanks for the responses, it turns out it was a wind up he says 🙄. He was laughing his head off when I phoned him. He does have form for 'jokes' like this so I guess I should know better. Mind you a part of me thinks he meant it and swiftly realised what a dick he was being....
I actually tow the caravan but he does reverse it etc. Might be an idea for me to do a course and get a smaller caravan so I can fuck off on my own 😁. We don't have kids together - I'm past the age and that ship has sailed.

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OliveToboogie · 26/04/2023 21:42

Sounds a real catch. Meanness is not a nice trait.

GoldDuster · 26/04/2023 21:44

If his only redeeming trait is that he can reverse a caravan, I'd be learning to reverse a caravan.

Poshjock · 26/04/2023 21:51

PandoraRocks · 26/04/2023 21:34

Thanks for the responses, it turns out it was a wind up he says 🙄. He was laughing his head off when I phoned him. He does have form for 'jokes' like this so I guess I should know better. Mind you a part of me thinks he meant it and swiftly realised what a dick he was being....
I actually tow the caravan but he does reverse it etc. Might be an idea for me to do a course and get a smaller caravan so I can fuck off on my own 😁. We don't have kids together - I'm past the age and that ship has sailed.

Get a motor mover fitted. Game changer. Reversing a caravan is so last century 😂

Thinkingpod · 27/04/2023 07:00

The two of you are acting like spoilt brats

ImAvingOops · 27/04/2023 07:25

@Thinkingpod eh? OP hasn't done anything wrong here.

How is he generally with money? Who buys dinner or drinks when you go out? Does he buy you nice Christmas/birthday presents? Keep the work environment well supplied without moaning? Does he resent having to pay for anything in everyday life?
Since you think he might not have been entirely joking, maybe keep more of a closer eye on how he he in the rest of his life. There are some people who are happy to constantly use things owned by other people but would never dream of contributing anything since they don't own the asset being used. Or will try to do everything on the cheap. It sucks the joy out of life.

SchoolTripDrama · 27/04/2023 08:26

That would be £5 each! All this over a fiver! Wow he sounds thrilling.

SchoolTripDrama · 27/04/2023 08:29

chocolatehoovering · 26/04/2023 18:30

What a knob. I couldn't be arsed with a prick like this.
How is the business is arranged?
If he is in business with you, surely you'd just charge the electricity hook-up costs to the business and be done with it. Or do you have to get his agreement to charge stuff to the business?
Weird.

I'd want rid of the asshole but since my last relationship ended 5 years ago I have no patience for any kind of bullshit like this, so maybe don't LTB just because I think he should be annihilated with the electricity cable from the caravan.

I’m exactly the same about men! I’ve been alone 7 years and have become a bit of a man hater!!

greyhairnomore · 27/04/2023 09:29

Thinkingpod · 27/04/2023 07:00

The two of you are acting like spoilt brats

She's not , he's acting like a prick.
Let him sleep in his van.

SavBlancTonight · 27/04/2023 09:35

A joke huh? hahahaha. So funny. Not.

I bet this is just the tip of the iceberg. A million other 'jokes" that stress you out ad make you uncomfortable and/or a million other situations where he is a stingy, tightwad who takes advantage of you.

PuffinPuffinPenguin · 27/04/2023 09:39

Thinkingpod · 27/04/2023 07:00

The two of you are acting like spoilt brats

Wrong thread?

Cherrysoup · 27/04/2023 09:41

£10 a night per hook up is huge 😢

Rosula · 27/04/2023 09:59

Weird joke over just one night.

Swap your caravan for a camper van and tell him to make his own arrangements for these events.

BanditsOnTheHorizon · 27/04/2023 10:01

Let him sleep in the van. If he then wants to sleep in your caravan the next day as he's got electric, tell him it's £30 a night to hire YOUR caravan

quietnightmare · 27/04/2023 10:04

There's unfortunate that it's £10 a night at the site or it's £10 to enter the caravan each day and £10 on top to be in your presence 😉