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To feel a bit sorry for Robbie Williams’ wife Ayda?

174 replies

Guarentinaflo · 26/04/2023 15:18

Not a huge fan of hers as she bought her last baby from a poorer woman but he sounds like an arse who dictates when they have sex according to this

https://uk.style.yahoo.com/robbie-williams-ayda-field-how-often-have-sex-094415256.html

So when he was on testosterone they had sex all the time and were ‘insatiable’ but now he’s off that they’re both apparently cool with their sex life being dead? And ‘everyone knows’ married couples don’t have sex anyway?

Robbie Williams and Ayda Field say they hardly ever have sex and ‘cuddle’ instead

Robbie Williams has discussed his sex life with wife Ayda Field revealing the reasons the couple hardly get intimate.

https://uk.style.yahoo.com/robbie-williams-ayda-field-how-often-have-sex-094415256.html

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NetZeroZealot · 26/04/2023 20:03

I love Robbie.

He can do no wrong in my eyes.

And now it seems he and his wife have a similar sex-life to me & DH - I love him even more for validating the joy of cuddles.

Endlesssummer2022 · 26/04/2023 20:06

I’m becoming concerned about the increasing homophobia on MN. There’s a lot of it on here and the dreaded surrogacy threads. It’s like we’re back in the early 80s. It’s offensive as well as depressing.

JussathoB · 26/04/2023 20:14

Hmm … admit I haven’t read the whole thread … but surely it’s a proven fact that in general, married people have more sex than unmarried!!!
But Ofc if a married couple decide they don’t want to have sex, that’s fine ….
The point is, a married couple is just that, two people who are considerate to each other, and lifestyle is agreed, not imposed or demanded by one person.

alabamathunderpussy · 26/04/2023 20:29

Interesting. I don't have particular feelings about either of them but i think its great to have people normalising no/low sex relationships. Its more and more common over the last 3 years (there are multiple studies on it) but people still feel pressure to 'conform' in many instances. I've seen loads of threads on here from people in relationships where they have stopped having sex and many of them seem to be seeking reassurance that thats ok rather than actually being bothered about it.
I hope it prompts more discussion and openness around the subject tbh

CurlyhairedAssassin · 26/04/2023 20:37

Nap1983 · 26/04/2023 15:26

Tbh I feel sorry for her because he is clearly gay.

Well, I always thought she probably was and it was a marriage of convenience.

OldFan · 26/04/2023 20:39

I don't think he acts effeminate, does he? He's kind of blokey. Like a tortured rogue.

LongAway · 26/04/2023 20:41

alabamathunderpussy · 26/04/2023 20:29

Interesting. I don't have particular feelings about either of them but i think its great to have people normalising no/low sex relationships. Its more and more common over the last 3 years (there are multiple studies on it) but people still feel pressure to 'conform' in many instances. I've seen loads of threads on here from people in relationships where they have stopped having sex and many of them seem to be seeking reassurance that thats ok rather than actually being bothered about it.
I hope it prompts more discussion and openness around the subject tbh

There are a lot if porn sick or sexual activity over focused,obsessed people around.

I gather due to porn many men have death grip so are unable to ejaculate and many men want to do odd things like strangle women and harm womens digestive tract with demands that they partake in anal sex, so many women are staying single.

dailytalk · 26/04/2023 20:42

Endlesssummer2022 · 26/04/2023 20:06

I’m becoming concerned about the increasing homophobia on MN. There’s a lot of it on here and the dreaded surrogacy threads. It’s like we’re back in the early 80s. It’s offensive as well as depressing.

Where is the homophobia?

Also gay men can't have babies naturally. Just because science allows them, doesn't mean people need to agree that it's ok (for anyone).

Frankola · 26/04/2023 20:51

Nah. I think she's very similar to Chrissy Teigen. Knew exactly what they were getting into. Used marriage as a launchpad to make themselves a bigger celebrity than they'd ever be without their husband.

OldFan · 26/04/2023 20:55

Used marriage as a launchpad to make themselves a bigger celebrity than they'd ever be without their husband.

@Frankola He's not unattractive. I don't think a woman would necessarily need an ulterior motive to marry him. He's probably hard work though.

Isaidmaybeee · 26/04/2023 21:00

I thought they always seemed happy together 🤷🏻‍♀️

alabamathunderpussy · 26/04/2023 21:10

@LongAway - not sure if this is actually clever irony? Thats my point, its totally ok to not to have sex, totally normal for millions of people. Its not cos they are all so into porn that they have death grip (though agree porn can be problematic). Some relationships just don't need it and most social studies are tying the increase in this to people living and working from home together.

OldFan · 26/04/2023 21:12

I think the increase in couples not having sex could also be people just being a bit more open about it.

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Guarentinaflo · 26/04/2023 21:12

This has veered off into a discussion about whether RW is gay but the point I was making was that how active their sex life is seems to be predicated on how Robbie is feeling.

Robbie is taking testosterone and wants sex all the time - they have sex all the time.

Robbie quits the testosterone and loses interest in sex - they rarely have sex.

Seems to be all about his needs and also strikes me as quite sad at their age that their sex life is dead. Not the sign of a healthy marriage.

Off to bed now.

OP posts:
alabamathunderpussy · 26/04/2023 21:14

OldFan · 26/04/2023 21:12

I think the increase in couples not having sex could also be people just being a bit more open about it.

Exactly. And this helps people be open about it and normalise it

Iamacatslave · 26/04/2023 21:16

Who?

OldFan · 26/04/2023 21:23

@alabamathunderpussy More people are coming out as asexual/not interested in having a sex life,too. Although I still don't think that's all that common (and is also sometimes a result of traumatic experiences.)

Frankola · 26/04/2023 21:31

@oldfan oh I definitely agree. He's gorgeous. But whilst I'm sure she finds him very attractive, I do think she has utilised her marriage to him to maximum effect to get her own exposure. I don't think she would have had many of the jobs she's had if she were Mrs Williams

alabamathunderpussy · 26/04/2023 21:31

@OldFan yeah, i mean i dont find labels like asexual useful for me - though i know many do and thats great. There are times in my life where i could have felt that, and then a situation or person has changed and sex is something that features in my life again. I actually think its really healthy to say its something that can ebb and flow - for individuals and couples - and it doesnt have to 'mean' anything.
Op - sorry, i do agree that if there is an implication that its driven by one of the two that that can be an issue, but thats not particularly how i read the article

ClaudiaWankleman · 26/04/2023 23:03

LongAway · 26/04/2023 19:56

I didn't call RB gay.

I am intrigued how people think gay people found each other before dating apps?

Bless your heart you absolute idiot.

IncompleteSenten · 26/04/2023 23:53

Didn't Victorian gay men wear green carnations? I'm sure I read something about Oscar Wilde starting that.
I'm sure there would have been other similar things too.

SaveMeFromMyBoobs · 27/04/2023 00:16

Can't be arsed to read the clickbait, but surely EVERYONE dictates when they have sex ... because both parties have to consent...

If he says he doesn't want it he doesn't want it. Its not dictating, he isn't consenting to something he doesn't want. I'm sure she also 'dictates' by deciding when she doesn't want sex too 🤷‍♀️.

AmateurDad · 27/04/2023 00:28

Thank you!

TwoMonthsOff · 27/04/2023 00:34

Nap1983 · 26/04/2023 15:26

Tbh I feel sorry for her because he is clearly gay.

🤣🤣🤣

Mist001 · 27/04/2023 17:42

I always thought he was gay and the marriage was just for show? I'm surprised they had sex at all, unless he has a doppelganger!