To ask you to share CF in law stories from your weddings?

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Please share your CF in law stories from your weddings. I need to know it's not just me that has one.

I got married on Saturday. We had a micro wedding for multiple reasons. Our daughter, our closest friend each and their partner, and our parents or in my case parental. No siblings or other family.

My Mother in Law is weirdly emeshed with DH's two older siblings and can't cope if they aren't included in everything.

As we were cutting the cake, and having our moment, She shouts out "Make sure you save a piece for BIL, SIL and grandad!" After we'd served everyone she hacked off a huge messy chunk for them, rather than take the finger slices we'd been cutting rendering the rest of the top tier unusable.

It sounds childish but out of all the "petty" moments of the day this one stuck out the most. I think it's because she "stole" my moment.

I'm sure I'll laugh about it in years to come, but it's been four days and amongst the nastier things she did I am beyond angry. So I'm using MN as a form of catharsis, in the hopes that other people have nightmare in laws 😁

My dh and I ended up choosing to elope because our parents are drunks, and his mother is a poisonous egotistical narcissist. Amongst other things. When we told MIL she had a strop and ranted "but what about MY big wedding? What about ME?" She wanted us to have a huge wedding just so she could try and be centre of attention. No, fuck off you horrible witch. This is exactly why we're choosing to elope.

I was bridesmaid at my friends wedding a number of years ago. At the time I had just gone through a big breakup and as a result was very short of funds - double rent and bills etc. My friend had put up a wedding list in a store in town but I couldn't afford anything that was left on it so instead I bought her a cheaper version of something of the list. She would have known what I was going through at the time and that I was pretty broke at the time.

A couple of weeks later she comes over to my house with said gift and returns it to me and states that this wasn't on the list and could I get her something off the list. I was completely flummoxed.

A couple of years later I got married and my friend (we weren't as close at this stage) attended with her sister. Some time after my wedding we were out for coffee and she was trying to get me to tell her who I hadn't received any gifts off i.e. who had showed up empty handed. I tried to refuse to answer many times as tbh it was none of her business but she kept pressing and eventually I gave in and told her that the only person who had shown up empty handed was her sister. Well that shut her up pretty rapidly.

My whole wedding was a shit show of things going wrong. Lots of people weren't 'trying' to cause issues but just seemingly don't think (like whoever cut and served our wedding cake which we where saving until the evening guest arrived - it even had a sign saying 'please do not touch' and god knows where they got the knife from).

My in laws where mostly fine (no issue/drama in the run up) but on the day they and the photographer buggered off for an hour and they did a private romantic photo shoot.

I actually have no romantic couples portraits of me and DH though (I mean who would think to photograph the BRIDE & GROOM on their wedding day) also no photos of my side of the family or me and my kids but loads of PIL.

To be honest it was misguided for in laws to go along with it but it was mostly a photographer issue than an in law issue.

He was awful, the worst thing about the day and ruined everything. He didn't get any photos of the important stuff (but loads of random stuff like IL photo shoot, loads of some random kid no one knew, pictures of the WRONG church, lots of useless pictures of windows etc...), ruined the wedding video and I was fielding complaints about him all day including complaint that he was perving on bridesmaids and female guests.

My wedding day was pretty rubbish. But the thing that sticks out is my aunt was going to her Christmas works do in the evening so only stayed for the ceremony and reception which I thought was a strange choice anyway. As she left at 6.30pm she took 2 bottles of unopened wine and a massive chunk of one of the layers of our cake made of various cheeses.

My husband’s father declined our invite to the wedding because his wife wasn’t going to be on the top table. The same wife he left my MIL for as he was cheating on her. My fiancé’s mum is still alive, as if she’d be on the top table when she has never been any kind of mother to my husband! Haven’t really spoken to them or had a relationship with them since!

"I have a lot to live up to" as the second Mrs [surname]."

Would have had me replying "Oh, I know your reputation. That's why I will be keeping my own surname, thanks"

We have one of those. Not as clever as he thinks he is though 😂

Exactly....you do you and enjoy every minute of married life ❤️

@OverTheHillAndDownTotherSide

DH has 3 brothers, all ushers. We had a lot of babies and small children at our wedding and not one of them had the brain cells to ask people to take their babies out if they were crying/noisy. As a result you can’t hear our vows on the wedding video for all the screaming kids. 😡

Agh we had that too. Fuckwitted family members who didn't take any initiative at all and then complained afterwards they they missed out on post-wedding leftover goodies because the groom side took it all.

I was annoyed at in laws for taking it all but was more annoyed at my gormless family for taking no initiative.

I asked my niece to be my only bridesmaid. Medium size church wedding. Had been with my other half since I was in school and had waited ages to get married. SIL went out the next day and bought the bridesmaid dress that her daughter would wear to be my bridesmaid. I ignored it and took my niece out to buy her a dress of my choice. SIL stuffed the dress she'd bought into a bag on my wedding day and gave it my niece after the ceremony for her to change into 🤦🏼😆 I mean I can laugh about it now and am divorced but at the time it just so odd and stressful

My SIL called the registry office to change the day, time and room of our wedding to one the suited her. Which was bad enough but then my FIL and MIL made sure that my DH was 45 mins late to the registry office and we nearly lost our space as he was so late. I was stood twiddling my thumbs for half an hour wondering if he was actually coming or not 🤬

My Aunt made a huge fuss in the run up to my wedding about me not inviting her son's new girlfriend. I hadn't seen her son (my cousin) in over 10 years. They'd been together a few weeks. And I rarely even saw that Aunt.

On the day, I went to greet her and she full on snubbed me - turned her back and walked away. When I was paying a significant sum for her and six of her family to be there.

It hurt but I put it to one side and got on with enjoying the rest of the day. Towards the end of the reception, loaded up on the "free" wine I'd provided, she started screaming at the top of her voice how much she hated me! I was on the dance floor with my friends at the time and wondered what all the commotion was.

It wouldn't have been so bad but one of my friends witnessed her going round all the tables and putting any unopened bottles in her bag!

Suffice to say I've never seen her since and that was 13 years ago. I'm also happily divorced and getting remarried soon so guess who won't be getting an invite?!!

My MIL wore white to my wedding, told my parents she “didn’t agree” with myself and my husband getting married and then when I was pregnant told me my daughter shouldn’t be being born because my husband already had a child from a failed relationship who he should dedicate his life to and no partner of his should want their own children with him - they ought to be thoroughly obsessed with his daughter too.

Her main grievance was that I had requested my step daughter not sleep in our bedroom on our wedding night, oh and that the “poor child had to dress herself” - she was 8 at the time and bloody well should dress herself.

she sat miserable as sin through the whole wedding, except to bitch to her miserable sister and husband about everyone else there including her ex husband who actually paid for her to attend.

Anyway - she’s not spoken to either of us since then and I told my husband the day she’s welcome in our home is the day she fits in an urn on the mantelpiece.

😨 There are some awful stories on here but that really does take the biscuit! Literal sabotage.

Ex MIL swanning about like she'd paid for everything, not only did she not we also had to pay £1k the night before the wedding for the cars which she was covering apparently. That was the honeymoon money so we had a shit time.

My DH was ordered to dress up in the full football strip of his DF favourite team, he was ordered to change the venue of the wedding to his home town and not mine, and ordered to get married in church ( we are non believers, and had booked a registry office wedding).He was told that his DF would dictate who was invited and who wasn't.
My dear future SIL had a full on hissy fit because she wasn't asked to be a bridesmaid (it was never my plan to have bridesmaids, ever)
He had a full on rant to my mother about having the brass necked audacity to allow us to arrange our own wedding, to which he was told, "be there, be quiet or be removed"
Still now, 20 0dd years after the event, I'm still flabbergasted at the absurdity of it.
Needless to say he behaved on the day. Oddly.

My granny took all unused wedding cake and gave it out to random people without asking me.

I didn't even get to have a slice of the cake at my wedding as was tied up with other things when it was served. Only tasted the small piece DH fed me after we cut the cake 😭

insisted we had a fruit cake (neither of us liked it)

You already had one right there. Commiserations - so do we.

No wedding is worth the sort of aggro reported on this thread. I'm so pleased we opted out and went quietly overseas.

MiL makes clear, grand, passive-aggressive gestures to the tune that she disapproves of my choices: everything from breastfeeding to going back to work to keeping my own family name. It would be exhausting if I devoted any energy to it.

They went all out to ruin every Christmas for years. I suspect the only reason they were pissed off about our choice of wedding was that it denied them the opportunity of sabotaging it.

This!

My mil walked into my hotel room before my wedding just as I had finished getting ready (so I was in all my wedding finery) and said ‘how do i look?’ while twirling around in her hideous dress. Everyone (my mum, aunt, the hairdresser and his assistant) completely ignored her. I could go and on with more shit like that.

As the OP's aunt and uncle were here 'parental' relatives there is obviously a back story there.

Not every parent is a good one.

If you don’t like the sound of what’s on the menu at someone else’s wedding, you suck it up and buy a bag of chips on the way home. You don’t take an alternative buffet without a word to the bride and groom. Can you seriously not see what a massive overstep that is?

Cutting a wedding cake isn't a 'moment'??? FFS, your level of nit picking is off the scale 😂I mean, I hate weddings, I'm not married but even I know at weddings it's one of the 'moments' of the day.

He did. 🙄

i didn’t really mind him saying yes (although the question should not have been asked). It gave me a chance to lounge in the bath and detangle my hair from the day before!

Wow!! Honestly it's just unbelievable they can behave that way isn't it!