To tell manager at 8 weeks pregnant?

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I'm 8 weeks pregnant and not even told my family. The father isn't supporting/talking to me.

I'm an anxious person and think that at 39 than I maybe too old to have a safe and healthy baby etc. So I'm trying not to get too attached. It's also not a good situation with the guy I was briefly dating.

Should I tell my manager? I have a 121 with him tomorrow.

I agree OP just seems to be trolling. You asked if you should and when told you shouldn't you decided you knew better.

I lost an opportunity due to pregnancy. I saw a woman I worked with elsewhere nudged out. And another woman protected from redundancy whilst very pregnant who eventually was got rid of very quickly on her return when she no longer had that protection.

No. Don't tell him. You only want to tell him because you need the validation.

People keep writing about probation as if it gives some kind of legal protection.

It doesn't.

No, but passing it would at least give her something to use as evidence were she later to be pushed out after announcing her pregnancy.

@Doyoumind

That's true.

@catchthedog no you are incorrect. If a manager came to us and said the staff member wasn’t a ‘fit for the team’ we would want evidence for this. 121s. Evidence they have been working with the staff member or put improvement plans or support in place. Even in probation.

I think people misunderstand what HR being on the side of the business means.

We are actually there to protect the business. From damage to reputation, from tribunal claims, from equality act claims, from shit managers who think employment legislation doesn’t apply to them, or that they can just get rid of someone because they don’t like them. From bad glass door reviews that could have been avoided. From any number of things. We aren’t there to get rid of people because they are pregnant soon into service.

If you have a respected senior manager saying they have someone within their probation period who they want rid of - HR facilitate that happening. They Help you get the necessary documentation together to enable the dismissal . never in 30 years of working in businesses have I come across an HR team try and talk a good manager out of a decision . they are the manager and if its not working dor their team - HR are there to support their wishes

@catchthedog Don't be silly.

@Littlegoth I think maybe you don't have much work experience or are purposefully trying to get women to put themselves at risk by putting themselves out there when in unsecured positions, which is very odd and unhelpful.

See how probation review goes. If they indicate that they are moving to dismiss id suggest telling them at that point that pregnancy may be a factor.

Offering you right to be accompanied at the review could be a giveaway that 'action will be taken' (e.g. extension or dismissal) although there is case law that they don't have to make you aware of this right. Depends whether they follow best practice.

@catchthedog Well you are entitled to your opinion. I just disagree with your view of HR as actually working in HR my experience doesn’t match yours. You must have worked at some pretty poor companies with poor HR practices. The HR teams I’ve worked in take their role seriously.

Op how is your current performance.

If you are anything less than perfect they will get rid of you on probation, I would not tell anyone until after your probation person but then that makes any midwifes apps tricky.

Your attitude is a bit off tbh. You seem to be saying you don't care about the quality of your work, and because you're pregnant that's fine and the company has to suck it up and extend your probation? Maybe I've misunderstood but it's all very "their problem" wrt your probation. Many of us have worked out arses off to keep jobs in these situations, I'm not really sure what you're expecting.

At my previous place of work, all probation reviews offered the right to be accompanied, whether it was going to be “you still haven’t addressed the issues we identified two months ago, we’re going to have to extend” or “no issues, keep up the great start” so it very much depends on company policy. You can’t always take it as an indicator of a problem.

I did say it could be an indicator.

In 30 years I've never heard of an employer allowing someone to be accompanied if alls well, but I can believe it happens. Wonder if everyone shits themselves given the right to be accompanied is generally accepted to mean "oh dear, somethings going down" 😬