She's 20, first year of uni. She isn't enjoying her course although she likes the actual uni and has lots of friends. She has suffered with really bad anxiety. She's contacted her gp and the student wellbeing service and the gp has prescribed antidepressants. She doesn't want to take the antidepressants. She's currently living back at home and commuting in to her part time job.
I feel like the world's most awful mother because she messages me about 25 times a day telling me how awful and anxious she feels. Obviously I'm kind and I always reply trying to make her feel better, but it's really beginning to take its toll. I have a sibling who is extremely ill who I am driving up to visit every couple of weeks and when I go, my dd messages me day and night telling me how worried and anxious she is. It's really beginning to wear me down. I can never have a break from my phone- dd will text at 3am despite being in the same house as me.
She doesn't talk to dh about it and he just thinks it's all part of being a mum. I've started an exercise class which I really enjoy but I dread turning my phone on after as there will be at least one panicked message.
I cook for her every night, I've spent a fortune on things she decides might help (supplements, calm apps, pillow spray etc). I'm always ready for a chat. But it's becoming all consuming and I barely have time for dd2 who is in the first year of a levels or dh who is having a tough time at work.
I know this is AIBU so someone will say I sound selfish but I am getting to the end of my tether. She's on the pill and I wonder if that is making things worse but she won't come off it. She does have a part time job but I've said she can give up and we'll support her financially but she doesn't want to do this. Anyone else with anxious young adult kids?