Do you have a close family member that you HATE

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not dislike, but actually hate? I know it is a strong word, and it has taken years for me get to this point. But I hate my brother. I would feel nothing if he died, perhaps even happiness/relief.

He is pathological liar, thief, emotionally abusive, narcissit etc.

I look back and wonder why he has turned out like this, and one of the key reasons (IMO) is that there have never been any consequences for him.

It started in his teens with things like drink driving, driving without a license, shooting rabbits on other people land, and never a single consequnce from either of our parents (he never got caught so no consequences from police/farmer etc).

It then escalated to stealing £100,000s from his own father, being a 'rogue landlord' , incessent lying about big and little things, tax evasion etc.

Btw, if you met him, you would think that he was lovely....until you got to know him

Just here to rant really, and ask for other people's experiences.

Can't stand my brother, most people I know think I am an only child. He's a using waster who takes advantage of my parents.

I feel the same about my brother. He's the worst person I've ever met. No contact for 6 years and hope he doesn't see old age.

My birth father and my lovely step-dads oldest sister.

Birth father is a toxic, selfish, disgusting, poisonous rapist who has destroyed the lives of everyone he touches. I hate him and actively celebrated when I found out he was ill- I'm looking forward to hearing about the inevitable complications of his illness and subsequent slow death. Fuck him. He's a waste of skin. If I could remove his DNA from my body I would. I hate knowing he's a part of me and my dc.

My step-dad's oldest sister decided to poison her entire family against my mum when my step-dad was terminally ill. She threw him out of her house because he didn't die quickly enough, told all of her family that we'd stolen from her (absolutely didn't happen), accused my mum of starting an affair and then told everyone I'd attacked her (I wish I had). My younger brothers not only lost their dad but the rest of his family too through her behaviour. I hope she rots alone for the rest of her miserable, poisonous life.

Younger by 7 years half sister and yes I do hate her (not so much now as I’ve mellowed). There have been at least 3 occasions where she’s been a complete and utter bitch to me and people write it off as “oh M’s bossy etc”. I think she’s narcissistic or has a personality disorder. She can be lovely too.

Uncle through marriage to DM’s younger half sister. Again hate but mellowed. This man caused our family no end of grief, spite and unhappiness and it’s a shame my auntie was encouraged to marry him by her parents. They’re now divorced. Again I don’t hate him, mellowed but I definitely wouldn’t want to bump into him and will be relieved when he’s dead.

My dad's mother, who, thankfully, is dead now.

Not now, as she is dead now and her venom with her - I had nothing left to me, my BS swooped in, took all the jewellery, etc., sent me something I had bought (which was v v tacky but meant to be funny), went straight in the bin. The Bin of Life.

My exH’s SiL at 17, bruised and battered, left Dublin, 5 younger sisters, awful abusive father, for London and a better life, saving herself : on hearing that her father had passed, asked by MiL, did she regret not visiting him in hospital?
declared YES! so she could tell him how much she hated him.

At the time I heard this as an honest declaration of emotional pain and believed
that she wouldhave done, thwarted that she couldn’t, shocking though it sounded.

My MiL was horrified by this, kept up her Oh, Oh, Oh, face for hours - exH later
described to her how dreadful SiL life had been, beatings, random punishments, when my MiL said she didn’t believe any of it, which is just what SiL own mother
had told her! How can anyone close eyes and ears to a beating.
This is what the victim is up against. MiL was youngest of five, no idea at all of any other family dynamic.

I had a much older friend advise me to make up with my mother as “life is too short”
responding with yes, exactly - my friend had doting parents, could not understand -they don’t want to know : it’s a window into another world they do not want to see.

Looking back now I realise that as a child I hated her, she was hateful, hated me as I looked like my father’s side of the family !! as she told me regularly. As though I could do anything about that/it was a deliberate act on my part to spite her.
Thank you OP for this opportunity to unload.
Have a peaceful day everyone, unburdened.

Got a little brother. He always play games for like 12-15 hrs daily. He shoved all the food in like 3 days that's supposed to last our family for 2 weeks. When told he would be violent and shout at us. Made our parents cry and always blame religion (demons,satan, etc) for his wrongdoings. Always speaks of religion but his actions don't match his words. For just a month our parents spent $3,000 on the troubles my brother created and in my country that's a lot of money. I'd be happy if he'll just drop dead.

Yep

Similar to a pp, I had the audacity to be born after BS ( bitch sister ) had been the only and doted on child for 6 years. The nerve of me. Never to be forgiven. Was nasty to me all my childhood. Still drama to this day 50 years later as she is filthy angry that she can't sort anything without my approval as my parents finally cottoned on and made us joint everything. ( they are very elderly and unwell now).

Yes my mother

I don’t hate her (I hate my ex step father) but I do not like her as a person

when she dies it shall be a relief. she has caused so much pain, she is toxic and just causes damage and harm all around her

I will never forgive her for not protecting me. This makes others feel uncomfortable and I’m often told I should forgive. I’m fine with not forgiving

Wow- I wrote my post 14-15 months ago and the person I wrote about was apparently busy dying then (and making everyone dance to her tune because of it) and she is still alive now.

My mother has flown to her to be by her bedside when she was hospitalised over Christmas and her sister took one look at her and shouted from her hospital bed; 'What the fuck are you doing here? i fucking hate you'.

My mother still behaves like a punched puppy seeking approval around her.

My mother now says that I don't have to come back to NZ to help when the bitch dies (because I have told her in no uncertain terms that I will not) but she'd like me to send flowers to make a display at the funeral. No fucking way.