Do you have a close family member that you HATE

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not dislike, but actually hate? I know it is a strong word, and it has taken years for me get to this point. But I hate my brother. I would feel nothing if he died, perhaps even happiness/relief.

He is pathological liar, thief, emotionally abusive, narcissit etc.

I look back and wonder why he has turned out like this, and one of the key reasons (IMO) is that there have never been any consequences for him.

It started in his teens with things like drink driving, driving without a license, shooting rabbits on other people land, and never a single consequnce from either of our parents (he never got caught so no consequences from police/farmer etc).

It then escalated to stealing £100,000s from his own father, being a 'rogue landlord' , incessent lying about big and little things, tax evasion etc.

Btw, if you met him, you would think that he was lovely....until you got to know him

Just here to rant really, and ask for other people's experiences.

Yes. Nightmare.

I suddenly feel so much less alone reading how other people feel as strongly as I do. Grateful for these posts

As an only child I never had any brothers / sisters to hate and a small extended family as well so no-one to hate there either.
I don't think I've ever hated anyone as in would step over them if found ill on the street , or be happy if told they are dead , so I guess that's a good thing.
I do however hold a grudge against people if they've upset me , even friends if they had said something in the past , they probably never realise but at the back of my mind it's still there hanging over our relationship.

Yes, my nephew. He's an arrgogant, big headed, narrow minded, rascist, biggot. I cannot bear him. It's not a secret in our family that I can't stand him. I won't go to any event that he is going to. I just can't bear him and I can't keep my mouth shut when he comes out with his crap. It's best for everyone that I avoid being in his company.

Yep my “mother”

I haven't seen or spoken to my stepsister for thirty years, I wouldn't say I hate her she just doesn't enter my thoughts ever. She hated me from the day I was born and made my life hell so when I moved away I never saw her again and never contacted her either. She turned up on my doorstep about 23 years ago, I didn't recognise her (terrible eyesight), she was offering an olive branch but I said no thank you and closed the door. I've no interest in knowing her, if I heard that she'd died I wouldn't have any sense of loss and wouldn't be attending her funeral or sending a card or flowers I'd probably feel it more if the neighbour's dog died tbh.

I probably don't hate anyone cos that requires emotion still. For those that have really wronged me it's indifference. So for an ex close friend and my SIL it's just that indifference.

Maybe not hate but as close to it as possible.
I’d not run them over if I was driving by them in the street and I wouldn’t be sad or go their funeral or actively wish them dead.
But absolutely dislike with a passion and don’t want to spend any time with them or even hear their name mentioned!

Yep I have a brother like that he's a total wanker and have nothing to do with him. my eldest daughter is just like him so I am very low contact with her .

I have next to nothing to do with my sister,she's a thief and a liar and if she had to stab someone in the back to get what she wanted she'd do it in a heartbeat.

BIL and his cunt fiancee. I wish death on them a lot.

Oh yes..... but probably best not to discuss!

No, I feel no hate. Im indifferent. I will feel nothing if I'm ever told my older sister is dead. Not joy, not sorrow. Nothing. She's dead already. Mental illness ate her from the inside out and the person there now is not my sister.

My sister. In fact I never even mention her if anyone asks if I have siblings. I utterly despise her. I would piss on her if she was on fire.

Wouldn’t.

I don’t but know my DH feels this way about his mum. She was very abusive towards him as a child and we don’t see her but he is very low contact with her to up date her on our DC. He is too worried to go completely NC in case she tries to get solicitors involved and he will have to talk about the abuse and report it etc. He often says he would be happier knowing she was dead.

My mum. I've been no contact a few years and repairing the damage she did to me is so difficult. I know she's slandering me to the wider family so I've lost them alongside her. But my children will never know the pain I knew and that's all that matters. The worst thing is, day to day she could be so lovely. Then suddenly before you knew it she'd have destroyed all your boundaries and alienated you from half your friends and family.

It took ten years for me and my sibling to twig the reason why we didn't get on was all down to her manipulation. Now we're incredibly close again, like we were in childhood.

My step mum. She could get mowed down in front of me and I wouldn’t bat an eyelid.

My MIL. Evil. Her siblings don't speak with her since 1990. Her own mother didn't want to see her on last day of her life.
Unfortunately, my MIL survived everything - terrible car crash (where every single person died), stage 4 cancer (even doctors couldn't explain how and she had zero reaction to chemotherapy and radiotherapy).

My father.

he killed someone in a traffic accident before I was born but when I found out about it he told the story in a joking fashion - about how much damage it did to the paintwork on his new (at that time) car. I was already on shaky ground with him but that was the nail
in the coffin for me. I couldn’t believe someone could talk about taking someone’s life in such a callous way….

Not sure if this counts as "close" family but SIL almost-ex-DP. I have never hugely liked him but started actively disliking him when I realised what an abusive, controlling, manipulative wanker he was.

He hates me with the fire of a thousand suns because I was the first one to see through him, and the most vocal and I think he blames me for their relationship failure. To be fair, I am at least partially the reason she finally saw sense and has kicked him out, but that's because of his endlessly shitty behaviour. I didn't just wage a random campaign against him!

Yes definitely I wouldn't piss on her if she was on fire!! Family let her get away with her narcissistic behaviour and I just told oh it's....you know what she's like!!!

My brother's second wife. I actually hate her. I've never hated anyone before in my life and I never thought I would, but she is evil. She made my nephew's life a misery when he was young. Her and her teenage daughter bullied him. She was always on the scrounge for money, tried it on with me when my dh had just finished cancer treatment and we were relying only wage only. Then she started on my poor mum, borrowing money from her and then sending her nasty letters when she wouldn't lend any more. She later dumped my brother and ran off with a really ugly but very rich man. I hope she's very unhappy.

I don't hate them but I very strongly dislike my mum, dad and brother. They've treated me like a shite all of my life. I'm v v low contact with mum & dad and NC with brother.

I hate to feel hate, but yep, My sister for treating my mother like a second class citizen when she (sister) started her gold digging career of looking for rich men, and finally caught one - mum was no longer considered good enough or classy enough, despite being a very elegant and well educated lady; living in a (whisper) 'COUNCIL bungalow' was not appropriate for the bitch's new life; then ignoring her for 7 years and only turning up when mum was actually dying. Ditto, my two female first cousins who sided with Bitch Sister. I will scroll by if I ever see any of their deaths reported anywhere