Do you have a close family member that you HATE

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not dislike, but actually hate? I know it is a strong word, and it has taken years for me get to this point. But I hate my brother. I would feel nothing if he died, perhaps even happiness/relief.

He is pathological liar, thief, emotionally abusive, narcissit etc.

I look back and wonder why he has turned out like this, and one of the key reasons (IMO) is that there have never been any consequences for him.

It started in his teens with things like drink driving, driving without a license, shooting rabbits on other people land, and never a single consequnce from either of our parents (he never got caught so no consequences from police/farmer etc).

It then escalated to stealing £100,000s from his own father, being a 'rogue landlord' , incessent lying about big and little things, tax evasion etc.

Btw, if you met him, you would think that he was lovely....until you got to know him

Just here to rant really, and ask for other people's experiences.

Oh, and BS (bitch sister) didn't come to our mother's funeral as she felt 'it may cause discord on a very sad occasion'. Actually more likely because she knew that both me and my eldest dd would have no qualms in slapping her (after the funeral obvs!)

Yes, my mother. She’s pure evil.

I'm no contact with my birth family. I don't hate them but I have no feelings for them at all.

Im not close to my eldest sister at all, i find her very selfish, we lost our dad recently and on his death bed she he asked her to put a hat on it was one from the army (he was a soldier previously) and she refused saying "i dont want to look stupid". Luckily my nephew (her son) stood up and done it for my dad. Since my dad died we've hardly spoke, shes in constant contact with my other sister and tbh i'm just shat out. I think mostly because she dislikes my husband.

But hate wish it would be my in laws, my husband doesn't have a relationship at all with his mum, sister or brother. His mother is toxic lies about mental health issues, she told my husband she wished he died as a baby like honestly that's your son, she also threatened to stab our daughter when she was 5 months old just because we were getting her christened and she didn't like the godparents. When my husband was younger he was sexually abused by his brother, he reported it but said mother forced him to tell the police he was lying.

My daughter is coming up 7 soon and none have been involved and it has honestly been the best thing. Even if she does get dirty looks from her so called grandmother when we've been in the same place.

I think we are brought up too stand by family and not hate them but sometimes families are worse than anyone.

Sister

Have barely seen her in over 10 years and wouldn't even know what she looks like now. Hope it stays that way.

She's never met my nearly 2 year old daughter and she honestly doesn't deserve to

I'm not normally a spiteful person and i don't think there is anyone else in my life that I have ever truly hated but I occasionally fantasise about her being sick and needing my kidney / bone marrow etc. Just so that I could say no

For context this is someone who used to buy cakes with her school lunch money just so she could throw them at the fat girl in her class and she said some horrendously racist shit about the guy I was seeing in high-school (who is now my daughters dad) . I doubt she's changed and tbh I wouldnt trust her if she said she had 🤷

My father

I love the abbreviation and think I might need to borrow it when discussing my own BS 😂

MIL

Yep same with my brother. He treats family like crap yet everyone tiptoes around him so not to upset him. I don't see him anymore.

My sister in law (brother in law’s wife). She is an absolute witch. Hate her with a passion - rude, aggressive, nobody can stand her. I genuinely think brother in law and nephew would be happier if she dropped dead tomorrow. Obvs I say nothing and everyone thinks I’m one of the rare few who like her

Same as you. My brother. He took my dad's redundancy money,13 grand and never paid it back. Hounded my dad for more money on his deathbed. Not spoken for 4 years. He and his wife are toxic.

Not a family member but I despise my ex (father to my eldest 3 kids) with every fibre of my being. He is a narcissistic, violent abuser and I wouldn't shed a tear if he dropped dead. Thankfully me and my kids are now NC with him and that's the way I'd like it to stay

My whole family

My mother is a narc,she's turned my brothers into narcs and my father enables it for a peaceful life

They've turned the wider family against me-i have a cousin who's up on pedophile charges-theyve stood by him-my brother is a druggie-theyve stood by him (manys the times when hes stolen something and ive taken the blame)

ive done nothing wrong (apart from being able to see the bollocks for what it is) and I'm hated

I've even moved over 100 miles away and they are still trashing me

People believe them!

I've been told to my face by the flying monkeys that I'm an 'unpaid hooker',a thief,I belong in Broadmoor,a shit mother,I 'fiddled with kids and am now in prison' (that explains why I'm no longer living in my hometown),I'd shag your bloke-so many lies I can't keep up with them

My attitude is 'I'm past caring-they don't pay my rent'

I've built a lovely life with dp

My sdd-she had nowhere to go after her mother threw her out so we took her in

She refused to get a job,was unbearably rude tried to break my relationship with dp,stole,told lies,wasted so much stuff which she expected me to replace,spied on me,recorded any rows I had with her dad and sent them to my family,shit stirred with my friends,tried to have me fired from my job,told everyone I was sleeping with my (darling) fil,tried to destroy my home and much much more

As soon as we both stood up to her and said 'no,you need to get a job and stop sponging and while your at it quit with the lies' she flounced

Straight to my family and told so many lies about me-everything flared back up and the hate started up again-they'd make new fb pages just to get round the fact I blocked each one

I'll never forgive-i hope they all fall into the cess-pit of life and drown

It's only a matter of time as the only thing keeping them all going is my mother bailing them out over and over again

Once she goes,they'll all turn on each other

Oh and as soon as sd couldn't feed them anymore info about me,they dropped her like a hot brick-shes left wondering what the hell happened

Yup. I have a similar brother. Very selfish and entitled arrogant narcissist. Our parents fault. He was the golden child, the eldest son, the popular boy. Different rules for him than the daughters. Different expectations for him than the daughters. Parents never disaplined him. As adults he screwed me and my sister over massively and parents 'wouldn't get involved' when it was their money. It's not hard to see how he turned out as he has tbh. No contact for something like 3 years now. He could die I would not attend his funeral

I wish no ill on my cousin, but she left my uncle (my mum’s brother) in a coma and carried in with her party lifestyle because ’she couldn’t cope with him being ill’. Didn’t even enquire about him and feed back to my 88 year old gran who didn’t know if her eldest son would live or die (they live in a country where only a named NOK can get info about a patient).
My beloved gran died 3 weeks ago and 3 days after her death she was uploading party pictures to IG. She doesn’t give a rap, didn’t even call us up to offer condolences. The lack of respect hurt me so much as mum and I are with her until the end, and she was our world.
I wish her no ill, but she isn’t my family anymore.

My sister, thought she’d eventually grow out of the lying/stealing/heartlessness but she just got worse. Stole money from her Dad while he was seriously ill in hospital and I suspect still financially abuses him.
Our Mum now looks after my Nephew as he was removed from her care due to neglect, not a word of thanks which enrages me as she should be enjoying her retirement. She could have made changes to get her child back, but would rather stay with her partner who social services have said she would have to leave. She also claims mental health issues as an excuse for her shitty behaviour.
I’m very low contact but it wouldn’t bother me if I didn’t see her again.

my cousin. she called our dying grandfather a c*, had 2 kids and got divorced before she turned 24 and lets her terminally ill mother do all childcare whilst she goes to bed and naps all afternoon after her 4 hour 8am shift. that's her only shift of the day may I add.

Yes my eldest brother.

A nasty, violent, arrogant, incestuous pedophile.

I have had no contact with him for many years, and will never. One of my brothers is of the 'Be Kind' mentality and tried to persuade me to "forgive" him but nope.

I hope he dies lonely and alone tbh.

My brothers wife. She is the devil in human form. She has caused so many issues with her lies, gaslighting and bullying. Tried to ruin not only my marriage but my siblings marriages too. She convinced my brother to go along her schemes and made my dad pay the deposit for a house they bought, turns out it wasn't even theirs, they were renting. That money went on her going out and having a good time.
Even when we go no contact she harasses us with nasty messages. All my family have blocked and even her own family have no contact with her and had to go through police to get her to stop harassing them.
She is that toxic.

My Uncle, an abusing manipulative shit of a man. I hope he gets cancer of the knob.

I hate my mother's oldest sister. I will never call her my aunt.

She is an absuive nasty maniplulative piece of shit. It ruined my childhood (I mean that seriously) by being made to dance to her tune. A part of me leaving my home country for good and never returning at the age of 21 is in no small part due to her behaviour. My father refused to have anythinbg to dow tih ehr from the time I was about 8 and I used to go along to family functions to 'support' my mother. I was hit, slapped, called the little slut, called a fucking bitch, etc. When my mother's sister's husband sexually assaulted me from the age of about 10 I was told I was a fucking slag who asked for it and my own mother threw me under the bus to appease her sister because it was easier. I would not piss on her if she was on fire.

She is not too far from dying and my mother said to me that she would be grateful if I oeft my family in the UK and flee to new Zealand to help her (my mother) through the grieving process. My mother admits she hates her sister but feels like that makes her a terrible person and that she has to make amends for this by turning herslef inside out to help and cater to her sister. My mother is 75, her sister is 88 and I will never ever forgive my mother what she put me through all in order to appease her sister.

I will not be going anywhere near her when she is dying. i told my mother what I thought of ehr behaviour over the decades re this and her response was just tos ay that her sister was a stronger person than she was and it eas easier to do what she wanted. easier to stand by and watch her own child be abused.

I will never ever forgive it.

Excuse typos. It was cathartic angry typing.

That must be incredibly hard @MotherPandJ I’m so sorry for your older Sister and for you.

Im sorry to all of you who have these arseholes in (or out) of your lives.

My 'brother'.

He's living with an absolute witch. She is evil and she has grown like a cancer inside him, changed him to become bitter and twisted just like her.

She has said awful things about my DH and my parents but my brother just said I was lying when I told him of her lies.

She's like a cult. She's brain washed him. A total religious freak but not a normal religion; one of those weird ones. He's a weak fart. But I do honestly, hand on heart hate and despise the pair of them for the pain they have caused my parents.

I hope they both die agonising deaths.

My bitch sister. She was an only child for ten years and has never forgiven me for taking that status from her. When our father died when she was 16 she told my mother she must wear dark clothes and sit in a corner as her life was now over.

She has bullied both me and our mother for the last 30 years. My mother couldn't stand up to her, so would pass it on to me as well, expecting me to be happy being treated as a third class citizen to appease the Bitch. It caused me no end of MH problems (ended up in hospital) but put up with it for the sake of my mother, thinking she'd eventually treat me fairly. My old counsellor was often horrified when hearing how the pair of them treated me.

I stopped waiting when I had my daughter, and realised that she'd be treated the same way, another sacrifice on the altar of the Bitch. The straw was my mother telling me, having seen me in tears twice in four days and knowing I'd been crying myself to sleep every night due to the bitch's behaviour, that I couldn't stand up for myself and ask her not to come over on one day because she "might be upset". The fact I was upset was neither here nor there. That's when I realised how of little importance my happiness was.

My mum now has dementia and doesn't remember any of it. Thinks I'm totally to blame. I'm just waiting for her to die then I never have to have dealings with the bitch ever again.