What's your relationship like with your sister in law?

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As in husband's brothers wife?

Dbro 1 dw is bloody awful so judgemental and has a superior complex, she constantly thinks she's right and will roll her eyes at people. She's younger than me by 3 years and younger that dbro by 10 years, her immaturity shows. My family tolerate her but know what she's like. She's up my other dbro arse and sil even though she mad mouthed them previously

Dbro2 dw is nice enough although we don't see each other often due to distance. I don't have a close relationship with dbro as there's 5 years between us.

DH sis1 we get on very well, although she moved away a couple of years ago so distance has got in the way. We have been to visit and our children are close.

Dh sis2 is alot younger and has her own problems. It's hard to relate to her due to the age gap.

We got on fine til she retired. But since then she likes to takes extended breaks in our part of the country, and invites herself (and husband) to stay with us rather than use a Travelodge. DH and I both work full time and find this really difficult and DH is too scared to say no. She is now the cause of many arguments between DH and I, which is very sad.

I only ever even met my (STBX) husband’s siblings once (separately). They’re not close and all live far away from
each other. I met BIL’s partner once (the same time I met him) too.

However, I don’t think my in laws are representative of anyone. They’re weird, unwelcoming and generally the result of MIL being an angry, toxic nightmare and FIL being an arrogant, avoidant dick (the two of them have been divorced for 35 years!).

I do feel bad for BIL’s partner. I know several things (via H) that make it obvious he’s not a good choice.

He has form for cheating in her with ransom men he meets in bars, for example. She definitely doesn’t know.

NC for 10 years

I have nothing to do with her. DH and his brother don't speak. He extended them an invitation to our wedding and they threw a fit over the location and demanded we change it because it wasn't close enough to them. Imagine us being so entitled as to expect them to DRIVE to our wedding!

I'd met my SIL once and she sent a really long text to me sternly citing all the reasons why I ought to heal the division between DH and his stuck up prick of a brother by moving our wedding to the venue he had "kindly viewed on DH's behalf." In the list were reasons why our wedding venue didn't strike the right chord and showed we came "from different backgrounds, which is obviously not something you need to draw attention to on your wedding day!"

That's fair. We come from different worlds, almost. I come from Wiltshire, where we only farm, whistle in birdsong, and walk in bewildered circles when we see an aeroplane. He comes from London, where they're all very rich or very dangerous and there is no other variety of person at all. And the stately home we got married at definitely said "village idiot/knife crime"

@Sceptre86 I think my SIL was jealous of my relationship with my lovely MIL (her mother). She didn't have the same relationship with her MIL.

Also, she has a massive chip on her shoulder about far too many things. I suspect this comes from some of her life choices. DH thinks she is jealous that our life choices have enabled us to do more with our lives - in terms of children (although that choice was made for us by DD's arrival much later in life than we anticipated), careerwise and lifestylewise.

Polite.

DH's sister is about 3 years older than me, nice enough person but we have nothing in common. She also lives a considerable distance from where we are, so we rarely see her. I don't have her mobile phone number, for example.

Also to be accurate your husband's brother's wife is not your sister-in-law.

She is your husband's sister-in-law.

great when we see each other, both brothers’ wives. But we live scattered about so it’s funerals, weddings etc usually. Very occasional visit. But they put up with my brothers and both deserve a medal.

My husband’s sister in law hasn’t talked to us for 5 years following massive fall out about not getting invited to husband’s son’s wedding. It’s a shame, but she’s holding that for ever.

Mine is very nice but we don't have any sort of independent relationship.

She’s great!
We don’t each other as often as we’d like to but we’ve always got on & when we do meet up, it’s always fun

Now, the mil is another story….

One of mine is utterly batshit. We don’t speak any more.

She has said herself that it stems from jealousy, there are three brothers and she was the only wife for about ten years before I came along, I came with children who were immediately accepted as grandchildren and it pulled focus from her and later her son.

She tried to wreck our wedding, spoiled many an occasion with drama and batshittery. She’s a deeply unhappy woman and I cut her out about three years ago and have never looked back.

Absolutely awful. Snide and hurtful. Deliberately plays the victim whilst being underhand and mean. We don’t talk.

We don't meet often because of distance. Its OKnwhen we do see them for visits but I'm not sure that we'd be good friends if they lived nearer as we don't really have much in common.

I have 2 SIL .one abroad ,one here locally.Both really nice girls .Quite different to one another .Very kind and caring

Dh doesn’t have brothers but he has 5 sisters (including half and step). 3 of them I’m really close to, we meet up for drinks, we go on girls holidays.
The other 2, one is distant geographically but we are in touch and one is just distant from the whole family, Christmas meet ups is the only time we see her. She’s a nice woman and we get on fine but we aren’t close otherwise. Dh isn’t close with her either!

My SIL is lovely! She and BIL live 100 miles away so we don't see each other much throughout the year, but she is a great person and she loves my two DS' to bits.

I’d say we’re like sisters. We regularly go out just the two of us, she’s good craic and I’d like to think if she hadn’t been an in-law we’d still be friends if we’d met outside of family.

SIL (DH’s brother’s wife) is fabulous. She’s a great friend. I only wish we lived closer and we could hang out more. She’s one of the cleverest, kindest and most downright sensible people I know.

SIL (DH’s sister) is nice. She’s a senior officer in the military and we don’t see a lot of her. She’s kind and loves our DCs, but she is a small-c-conservative and rather closed and rigid (military suits her). She’s possibly on the spectrum and seems to find it hard to be open enough to make friends. I’d say we have a good and cordial relationship, but not close - very different people.

She is absolutely my best friend, the only one who truly gets my humour ( including DH bless him) and we have the greatest times possible!
Which is an issue as my asshole of a DB has had a number of affairs and now they are getting divorced!

She is dead so it's the best relationship. Before that she was the nastiest cow
(Sorry cows) to everyone.

Ex H didn’t have any brothers, but he has a sister. Initially she and I got on well. When we had children, she backed off. Eventually she went NC with me and Ex H, reason unknown, but she had previously been NC with her parents. I believe she made contact with Ex H when I left, so I guess she didn’t like me, but I don’t know why.

After years' of disagreeing with just about everything the other one said, my SIL and I finally found one thing that we are completely in agreement about - that I don't talk to her and she doesn't talk to me. It suits us perfectly and we are both much happier with nothing to do with one another.

I never met her. She was convicted of manslaughter and no one has seen her since her release. My BIL , a lovely man, hasn’t remarried. In fact I’ve never seen him with a woman, ever - which is odd coz he’s tall, attractive and loaded.