What's your relationship like with your sister in law?

[Flora838383]

As in husband's brothers wife?

Is your husband’s brother’s wife your SIL?? I’d say she was your husband’s SIL but not yours?

Husbands sisters - lovely, like my best friends.
My brother's wife - she devil.
Could not be more opposite.

@Flora838383 so what’s the AIBU?

Your husband's brother's wife isn't your sister in law though. Your sister in law is either your own brother's wife or your husband's sister.
But to answer your question, I barely know my brother in law's wife. I have probably met her less than a dozen times but she seems like a nice enough woman. My actual sisters in law I have one I like, one I am largely indifferent to and one I'm not keen on. But since I don't see any of them more than once or twice a year at most, it doesn't really matter.

One I adore and think is great get on really well the other I cannot stand she is ridiculous. So 50/50.

She's lovely. Get on better than DH and his dB

Distant but polite and friendly. We don’t have much in common, and to be honest I don’t have enough time in my life for my closest friends so I’m not going to expend much energy fostering new relationships unnecessarily, especially if they would likely be unsuccessful.

We see each other once or twice a year and get on well enough. I wish she had the resources to stand up to her bullying husband and sons though. They treat her like a skivvy.

It’s ok. We get on and chat well when we see each other and there are certainly no bad feelings between us. However we don’t have a close relationship or friendship independently of being SIL. We don’t see her that much so it works well, if we saw each other a lot her personality Would annoy me, but we don’t so it works.

She is my best friend and just like a sister to me. We hit it off from the minute we first met and have regular nights out/weekends away on our own.

We live 2-3 hrs away from mine. One is lovely but new in my brothers life so not really seen her much. But the times I have she’s been lovely.

The other is also nice enough but seems to have a vendetta against me and turns DHs family against me. So she’s kinda started a whole thing. When we see each other I do my best to be polite and make small talk but she looks down her nose at me and then bitches about me to MIL after we’ve gone. Thankfully we only see her 2/3 times a year.

We live on opposite sides of the world but feel like family when we're together. I'm a few years younger than her (my dh is the younger brother), and we have quite different personalities but since we've had kids our bond is pretty solid. I don't think we'd be close if we met in life without the existing family relationship, but I guess I like it that I'm close to someone different but brilliant.

She's lovely, and I like her better than my BIL, who is a pillock.

A bit meh. We get along fine enough when we see each other. But they live 150 miles away and DH and his brother aren’t at all close so that doesn’t happen very often.

My husband has two brothers, I do not have much to do with either of their wives.

I really like her, sadly we don't see her enough due to logistics and she's a bit younger than me so cultural references can be a bit different.

We aren't close-we barely message each other but it's not awkward when I see her.

My husbands sister is younger but an absolute legend! We are really close.

No relationship. She’s a horrible person.

She is pleasant enough, we don't have much in common so I wouldn't describe us as friends but it's nice to see her a few times a year and have a catch up.

Distant.

She's a nice person and we got on really well until I got pregnant.

She's very child-free and that changed things for her somehow.

She's not your sister in law. She's your husband's sister in law, but nothing in any way, shape, or form, related to you.

Anyway, if you're interested, my relationship with my husband's sister in law is fine. Friendly, see her at family get togethers and have a good time, but wouldn't say we were 'friends'. But I do like her and enjoy her company.

DH's brother's wife is very quiet and they tend to keep themselves to themselves. Will probably see them when either MIL or FIL pass away at the funeral 🤷

One I get on with very well and wish we lived closer .. three I haven't seen or spoken to for years and one we are polite but not exactly friendly. I expect they would say the same about me.

She throws shade a bit, behind your back. On the surface, we get on ok. But she's not someone I trust.

We met through our DHs but we’ve become good friends independent of them. We’re very alike in terms of background, politics, values, and outlook on life even though we’re from different countries. She’s musical and centred and calm, and I am none of those things, and when I meet with her I always come away feeling restored and rested. She’s a wonderful and much valued part of my life.

She's an ex now but they have a child so we still see her occasionally.
Personally can't stand her. She has an elevated opinion of herself beyond anything I've come across before. Grew up in South Africa so everything is much better out there compared to the UK. If she has a friend with her then they're always whispering and you feel like they're judging you and sniggering. She doesn't have anything financially/asset wise, manages to borrow or use people to get what she wants and is just very unpleasant indeed and her daughter is now growing up in a very similar manner