What's your relationship like with your sister in law?

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As in husband's brothers wife?

We get on well, and have a lot in common, but they live over 2 hours away and my late DP wasn't that close to his DB, so we only see each other at family events.

My DH's bros wife is lovely! She's younger than me but we've clicked nicely and text most weeks.
I can chat to her much easier than my bil and he's nice too.
No siblings for me, so that's as close to actual siblings I'll get. And being an auntie too.

Awful.

She's a very cold person, she hates me for some unknown reason, she'll literally turn her back on me if I try talking to her, she pretends I'm not there.

No idea why. I tried for 10 years with her, before I saw the light! Now I refuse to see her.

Husband doesn't have a brother.

His sister is amazing - one of my favourite people and a brilliant human being.

Like both of them until they said something ignorant, racist to me without thought after knowing me for a decade so still friendly to them but I can’t overlook that tbh. We live far away from both and only see them a few times a year.

Dh's brother wife...largely great, I think she's lovely. Dh's sister...not friends

Harmless.

With dh's sis we are always polite and friendly, but don't socialise outside of family get togethers. There always seemed to be a wierd competitive dynamic of dh's family being hers, not mine, and needing to put me back in my place.

Id really like to think you were my SIL as I am 15 years youngernand live a bit over 2 hours from mine (.!amd.I think she's absolutely lovely)

Distant and polite.
She once told me that no-one was good enough for her family. At first I thought she meant her son in law and two daughter's in law, but I now know that included me.

It enraged DH no end, and he says that she is bitter and lonely because of her attitude.

She lives two and a half hours away and always expects DH to visit her while making no effort to visit us. She didn't even make the effort to visit him in hospital when he had to have life saving and life changing surgery.

So, DH only visits her when it suits him. She isn't very hospitable towards house guests and won't cook for anyone else other than herself, then wonders why DH rarely visits.

Sorry, this is DH's sister. He doesn't have a brother.

Brother’s wife, so wonderful I don’t think of her as a SIL, she’s my friend. I love seeing their family as she’s such good company. Husband’s sister is fine but odd.

Me too.

I like my sil more than my dh most of the time!

We used to be tight but since they’ve become parents they have become increasingly smug, preoccupied with social media, and boring (as in we are all not allowed to talk about anything other than their children). This is my bro (golden child) and his wife, so I appreciate I may have a huge chip on my shoulder about it 😂

She's a bitch. She is a very competitive person and hated my mil spending anytime with me when I was new to the family. She constantly tries to one up me and now her competitive behaviour has filtered down to her kids. It's tiresome. I find her very selfish, entitled and fake and spend very little time with her.

You've done two posts within a short time about sil's without giving any back details. What's the issue?

Oh yes she was also using me to bitch about my DM (which is fair) but I got fed up because my brother was once again getting out of doing his work.

Never met her. Dh is NC

DH sister is lovely. In fact all my in laws are. We’re just one family, I’m treated like a daughter and sister and it works both ways.

Husband‘s brother‘s wife- lives far away so only see her about once a year. She is totally lovely and I would love to see her more.

Husband‘s other brother‘s wife - lives down the road. Still rarely see her. If we go to visit them, she often disappears off out or upstairs.

Youngest SIL is an old friend, I knew her before I met my DH. We get along fine and she is quite close to my DH. She doesn’t have kids and is living a nomadic/hippie kind of life.

My DH’s older sister is a different story. She is a carbon copy of my snobby and judgmental in-laws and we do not have any relationship outside of official family gatherings. DH also does not have a great relationship with her, but we remain cordial.

DH sister - SIL - we get on fine. We are very different people , don’t see each other very often, but we can happily chat on the phone for an hour.
DH brother’s wife - I wouldn’t call her SIL, but whatever, she’s nice. They don’t live nearby, we see them about 2-3 times a year , and I like her. Has taken a long time to get to know her as we are both on the introverted side, but she’s friendly, has nice kids, is intelligent.

She is wonderful. I adore her, she is the sister I wish I'd had and I'm so grateful she joined our family. One of my life's great sadness is that they live 6 hours away and we can't live as a family helping each other with our children.

DH's brother's wife - never met her but would almost certainly get on if we did.

DH's sister - I'm indifferent. Never see her and am completely neutral about ever seeing her again.

My SIL is the sister I didn’t have.We have had a wonderful relationship for over 45 years.We live 4 hours away but holiday together and visit and stay when we can several times a year.We speak and text every week.I am so lucky.