Pregnancy sharing

[FTMom2323]

DH and I had our first scan today after finding out we are pregnant. I’m older, was very worried about my fertility and ability to conceive and by miracle, it’s happened!

DH’s sister texts us often in group chat and has been anxious to know how it’s going. After the scan we got into the car and I said I’m going to respond to your DSis. He said ok. As part of the response I included a scan pic.

DH went NUCLEAR. Screaming at me down the motorway how I’d betrayed him, how I was disloyal and how I was not to be trusted for taking the right for him to tell his family about HIS baby from him.

I was stunned and really upset, trembling, crying. I accept his premise, however I said I was replying to which he said nothing and I clearly didn’t intend any malice by sending a pic. Hours later and he’s not talking to me and ignoring me.

I’m very upset and have taken to bed. WIBU to share the pic?

Spending a year in a refuge would be better than the next 20 with him.

Refuges support people to get back on their feet.

It's not going to get any easier to leave him.

I'm sorry you have such stark choices, but you do have choices at the moment.

You only have 2 realistic alternatives neither of which you will consider so you will be stuck with an abuser for at least 18 years and your child will have an abusive father. Suggesting a termination is not nasty it is an option albeit one which is unacceptable to you.

This is so sad. I can just feel that the OP won’t leave him, and that she’s going to be stuck for at least the next 18 years.

Or will be on here in a few years time talking about her abusive husband and how she can’t leave the country with his child.

I really hope I’m wrong.

I tried to send @FTMom2323 a private message, but it looks like she’s deregistered.

It’s really the worst of Mumsnet where a desperate woman posts, and she’s hounded into oblivion by people suggesting she terminates a much wanted pregnancy, at an age where she’s unlikely to get pregnant again.

Much more constructive and helpful to point her in the direction of embassies, refuges, charities etc