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Original poster

Is this my gut or nerves re new job

64 replies

Galaxyfaraway1 · 19/04/2023 17:59

I’m supposed to start a new job on Monday and I really don’t want to!

Ive worked at my company for a long time, we get good benefits, the salary is ok but I would most likely be on track for a promotion this year. It’s a big company so could move internally if not.

The new job has a bigger salary but a long commute which takes a lot of it. I would be about £200 per month better off. Im so worried about the work life balance. I currently wfh 3 or 4 days and I enjoy it, we live rurally and I have time to run etc.

Also at the new job there is a high turnover and I’ve been chatting to someone who used to do the role I’m going into and they spoke negatively of it. Currently I have a team beneath me who do a lot of the admin work and in the new role I would be doing this.

On top of that. I want to ttc and I would lose my maternity benefits in a new role. Currently I receive 8 months on full pay.

Is this just nerves? Am I crazy?

OP posts:
Soproudoflionesses · 19/04/2023 18:04

Can you stay at your current job?

Original poster
Galaxyfaraway1 · 19/04/2023 18:06

I should add that I can stay as my current job are quite desperate for people and I am good at my job.

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mynameiscalypso · 19/04/2023 18:07

What are the reasons you were looking to leave?

IrregularChoiceFan · 19/04/2023 18:08

Stay.

Motnight · 19/04/2023 18:09

Why did you want to leave?

Lovestodrinkmilk · 19/04/2023 18:13

Stay. Reasons: long commute, no maternity pay.

Unless you are really short of money currently, you don’t have to go through life always picking the thing that is the best financially.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 19/04/2023 18:15

I think you want to stay and it sounds like you should.

Nordicrain · 19/04/2023 18:16

I would never swap a wfh/ hyrbid job in for one with a long commute if I was planning a baby.

AtrociousCircumstance · 19/04/2023 18:16

It’s not enough of a pay increase to justify a move you’re not super excited about. I would stay.

BeetleBailey · 19/04/2023 18:26

From your post I'm struggling to see why you're leaving your current job

devildeepbluesea · 19/04/2023 18:28

Stay. £2k a year isn’t enough
compensation for what you’d be giving up.

mackthepony · 19/04/2023 18:29

Stay at current job

It's not worth 200 a month

greenplantspinkflowers · 19/04/2023 18:29

Can you negotiate a pay rise at your current job and stay?

swanling · 19/04/2023 18:30

Why did you look for the new job, apply for it, interview, accept an offer and resign from your current role?

GoodVibesHere · 19/04/2023 18:31

It's a bit late now! I assume you've handed in your notice and worked your notice period. It's just nerves, you'll soon settle in to the new role.

I mean there must've been a reason for you to leave in the first place?

Daffidale · 19/04/2023 18:41

Some people love long commutes. Most don’t. There’s tons of research on how bad they are for your physical and mental health. Honestly I wouldn’t do it for an extra £200 a month.

Good admin support is also worth its weight in gold.

you’re in a tricky position having left it so late, but I would talk to your manager pronto tomorrow and explore options to stay. Have you had those conversations? They may even we willing to match or part match the higher salary to retain you. Or at least you can have a solid conversation about what you need to do to secure the promotion later this year.

good luck!

batsandeggs · 19/04/2023 18:42

Why did you start looking for a new job in the first place? It may be that neither job is the right one for you, but something prompted you to start looking elsewhere. Are you positive this isn’t just last minute jitters?

Mortimercat · 19/04/2023 18:43

Well you applied for a new job, interviewed, accepted it, handed in your notice. You must have done that for a reason. Is there any guarantee you can stay where you are anyway?

daisydaisy21 · 19/04/2023 18:46

Apparently you have to earn 40% more to commute over an hour each day in order to be as happy as someone with no commute.
Commuting is one of the biggest contributions to unhappiness

I'd stay

RL79 · 19/04/2023 18:49

Based on your response about staying seems to me you already know what you should do

Coffeetree · 19/04/2023 18:53

As others have asked, what made you job-hunt in the first place?

I felt similarly a few months ago, leaving a job I enjoyed for a new one, but it was a £10K increase so I felt like I couldn't turn it down (turned out to be the right decision).

There must have been good reasons you were looking for new jobs?

Original poster
Galaxyfaraway1 · 19/04/2023 19:16

I wasn’t looking but a recruiter did come to me. To be honest I wanted more money. But now I’m feeling that it isn’t enough. I’ve already had several conversations with my manager so they are aware I’m weighing up the decision.

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Original poster
Galaxyfaraway1 · 19/04/2023 19:16

It’s a £7k increase, but after commuting and salary deductions it’s only around £200 per month!

OP posts:
Whatabouteverything · 19/04/2023 19:29

Galaxyfaraway1 · 19/04/2023 18:06

I should add that I can stay as my current job are quite desperate for people and I am good at my job.

Use it! Say to your boss I've been offered X amount to start at new job. If you match it I'll stay here.

Itsanotherhreatday · 19/04/2023 19:38

Check your contract you may be penalized for not going to the new job