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To think he actually enjoys trying to make me feel jealous?

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FloJao · 18/04/2023 20:28

I have been with my boyfriend for a few years. We don’t live together. He is a lot older than me but throughout our relationship he has always accused me of being jealous.

A new next door neighbour has recently moved in next door to his house. I asked him what he was doing today and he replied (sorry for the graphic language) that he was ‘going to lick the minge of the next door neighbour’. When I asked him if he’d even met her he went on to add that she was ‘a little blonde bird’ and then said he could feel me getting jealous.

I mean this isn’t normal behaviour is it? Throughout our relationship he has made me feel like I’m acting irrationally whenever I raised concerns.

OP posts:
Nanny0gg · 19/04/2023 13:34

FloJao · 18/04/2023 20:42

I don’t know. I have been for counselling (on my own) to work through why I appear to have an attachment to him. We got together at the time of the death of one of my parents and my therapist thinks that I might have formed some attachment at that time and am associating the relationship with the loss of that makes sense.

He is in his 50s.

He's disgusting.

How old are you?

I'd much rather be on my own than have anything to do with that.

What do your friends and family think?

NCforthis123456 · 19/04/2023 13:45

Your bf is the following:

Foul
Vile
And a prize a CUNT.

Bin this piece of shit off.

Bambooflowers · 19/04/2023 14:11

I don’t comprehend why that would make you jealous though, I mean it’s clearly not going to happen and for most other women it would just be a major ick moment, I mean Christ I’ve never even met him and I’ve rhe ick,

W0tnow · 19/04/2023 14:14

He sounds chronically insecure, which is a very unattractive trait.

DigitalTranny · 19/04/2023 14:18

Is there a way you could get his next door neighbour’s number and send her the messages he sent to you about her? If yes, do that. Then dump him.

Anothernamechange3 · 19/04/2023 14:31

That is gross and extremely disrespectful to both you and the neighbour he is talking about. It’s giving me the creeps just reading about it.

Bambooflowers · 19/04/2023 14:37

DigitalTranny · 19/04/2023 14:18

Is there a way you could get his next door neighbour’s number and send her the messages he sent to you about her? If yes, do that. Then dump him.

Please don’t do this. Please don’t bring her into something so utterly dysfunctional. It’s not fair.

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