Is this too much drinking?

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SO many threads like this but I'm getting frustrated with partner's drinking and just want to gauge if I'm being controlling or not.

He definitely likes a drink but I wouldn't say alcoholic. I'd say he drinks on average 4 nights a week (less sometimes, more if on holiday or has a busy social week) and is fine not drinking on his off nights/doesn't crave a drink.

Of those four nights I'd say he drinks a min of half a bottle to a max of one bottle of wine. If we go to the pub he will drink beer instead but I'd say around the same quantity (could be a few as two or up to maybe six if he is out with mates).

I found myself getting annoyed yesterday as we came on holiday and on the flight over he ended up drinking six drinks (we flew business as a treat so I know he was thinking of it as 'free booze' and wanted to make the most of it and wouldn't normally drink that much) but we will be drinking probably a bottle of wine and a couple of cocktails together each night on holiday now (only three nights) so I would have liked him to just have a liver break before that - if you know what I mean!

Anyway what do you think? Does he have a problem or just like a drink?

It would be silly not to make the most of it when flying business class- I sure would! 🥂

Im not sure it’s a problem but that’s definitely a lot of alcohol from a health perspective. I don’t think getting annoyed about him taking the inclusive drinks on a place will help! Wait til you get home then maybe suggest you both do a health kick including less booze

Doesn't really sound like it's an issue other than annoying you.

It's a lot unless you are on holiday. Half a bottle is about two large glasses, which I would say is ok with a meal. A full bottle four times a week is too much.

There is nothing wrong liking a drink or two, but I think he's drinking for the buzz when it comes to downing a bottle, not just enjoying a glass with a meal. Maybe suggest one glass with meal? or just drinking at weekends, not weekdays?