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To think that the Easter bunny leaves an egg for morning

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littleloopylou · 16/04/2023 21:40

Just found out that the Easter bunny didn't come to my ex's. My child was taken to an Easter event where the bunny had hidden some eggs for many children to find. Ex also mysteriously discovered some eggs in his car that were left by the Easter bunny, a few days after Easter.

My child thinks that the Easter bunny forgot them.

AIBU to think that ex totally dropped the ball on this?

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Okunevo · 16/04/2023 22:43

littleloopylou · 16/04/2023 21:58

My child has always known the Easter bunny to bring an egg overnight. Ex knows this. Ex would not let me have Easter. I did not fight this, but I also assumed that ex would fulfill our basic family expectations of Easter.

Didn't you buy your child an egg? You could have just said the Easter bunny left that one on their return. He may want to start different Easter traditions at his house. He took the child to an Easter activity instead.

1930toEdinburgh · 16/04/2023 22:43

This smacks of issue between you and ex rather than eggs or bunnies.

Make light of it with your child.

I'm not sure I'd describe it as horrible !!

TheRealShatParp · 16/04/2023 22:43

What makes your tradition the right tradition? For your kids dad perhaps going to an Easter event is more traditional.

1930toEdinburgh · 16/04/2023 22:44

This is quite an entertaining thread - thanks for perking up a shite Sunday for me

motherofawhirlwind · 16/04/2023 22:47

The child is going to turn out to be 13 in a minute

Okunevo · 16/04/2023 22:48

WonderingWanda · 16/04/2023 22:39

By the way op, lots of people on this thread are declaring that the Easter Bunny is not a thing and it's all got out of hand in the last few years. I'm in my mid 40's and the Easter Bunny visited my house growing up as he does for my children now.

I'm a bit younger and we never had the Easter bunny growing up, it wasn't mentioned at school or scouts either. We chose a boxed egg from parents, were given a couple by other family, made chocolate nests with mini eggs or chicks, and did Easter crafts at school.

Allmyghosts · 16/04/2023 22:48

Seriously this is literally the first year I have ever seen people saying they tell their children the easter bunny is real. It's astroturfed and botted. So much bollocks.

Toottooot · 16/04/2023 22:51

Have your geets never been in a supermarket in the run up to Easter? It’s wall to wall eggs - do they think the Easter bunny makes all the eggs or that he nips into Tesco and Asda to buy them then heads oot delivering them? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Allmyghosts · 16/04/2023 22:56

Next few years it will be self evident, we have always done this <aaaaaghhhh>

Bbq1 · 16/04/2023 22:57

littleloopylou · 16/04/2023 21:49

@Smartiepants79 ex didn't buy any eggs. The ones in his car were just little eggs that have been knocking around his house for a long time. My child said "Daddy lied about the eggs. He's a liar." (He is a liar - though I certainly don't encourage my child to say things like this)

How old is your dc? Sounds like they are very young but at the same time, a young child doesnt usually call their dad a liar. Dependent on age, why couldn't you just say that the EB didn't realise child was at dad's house? You could have then produced one left by bunny at your house?

Nalupa · 16/04/2023 23:02

Toottooot · 16/04/2023 22:51

Have your geets never been in a supermarket in the run up to Easter? It’s wall to wall eggs - do they think the Easter bunny makes all the eggs or that he nips into Tesco and Asda to buy them then heads oot delivering them? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Haha. Mine is 7. She believes that some eggs are from family and some are from the EB who has bought them from the shops... She saw a cuddly Easter toy in the shops and asked me for it a few weeks back and I told her the EB would come and get it for her and "he" did.

That's not really any different to Fsther Christmas is it? We used to circle things in the Argos catalogue and FC would bring them. He obviously got then from the shops... Never believed Santa's elves were making Hot Wheels.

TheHouseElf · 16/04/2023 23:07

We always did the Easter Bunny bringing the eggs thing when ours were small, which also involved an Easter egg hunt (in the garden if weather permitted, otherwise it was in the conservatory). The kids loved it. Can't remember what age it stopped being a 'thing' (they're 18 and 14 now).

thespy · 16/04/2023 23:09

Well, yes he dropped the ball. But possibly you should have spoken to him about DCs expectations beforehand. In other words don't assume he's just going to "know" anything. And no, that's not fair, it's not fair that mum / resident parent / primary caregiver has to think of everything, but a lot of the time that is what ends up happening, mental load and all that. If he says he's not doing what you suggest, or you aren't confident he'll follow through, you can have a back up plan of your own.

I guess the only way to make your DC feel better without dumping ex in the shit / making daddy look worse than he already does / ruining your family concept of the EB, is to make up a white lie about confusion as to where DC would be at Easter or something along those lines, or what pps have said about mums house, but maybe it's too late for that now. Anyway I wouldn't dwell or keep bringing it up to DC - say you are sure the EB won't be so silly next year.

As an aside, when I was a child we didn't have the Easter bunny, but the chickens at school laid Cadbury's cream eggs. It was amazing!

MariaDingbat · 16/04/2023 23:26

I'm in my 40s and the Easter bunny left us eggs outside our bedroom doors overnight so it's not a new thing at all. I would have been devastated if an egg hadn't turned up so I can completely understand why you're so upset on behalf of your child. I like a PP's idea of having an egg at your house so when your child gets home you can say the Easter bunny had left it for them. That way it won't matter what your ex does or doesn't do.

Pyaar · 16/04/2023 23:30

motherofawhirlwind · 16/04/2023 22:47

The child is going to turn out to be 13 in a minute

😂😂😂😂😂🤞

Pyaar · 16/04/2023 23:30

OP you're being totally ridiculous

MrsTerryPratchett · 16/04/2023 23:37

Grow up? My child thinks that the Easter bunny forgot them. It's horrible.

Which is why women shouldn't credit a lot of imaginary creatures with the work they do. And get peeved when men don't join in.

The 'bunny' was never real in my house.

Lachimolala · 16/04/2023 23:41

Im from the UK and always had the whole Easter Bunny thing as a child and I’m in my 30’s. I didn’t realise not everyone did this 🙈

ilovesooty · 16/04/2023 23:41

I think it's a bit depressing that the Easter Bunny has become a thing just to echo the materialism of Christmas.

Remaker · 16/04/2023 23:45

How old is your child? I’d just tell them the truth about the Easter Bunny and that every family celebrates differently.

We tried not to have an Easter Bunny. DH is English and although it is a common tradition in Australia I’ve always thought it was a bit ridiculous. But then DD heard about it from a friend and basically insisted on the EB visiting. So we switched it up when she was about 4, and I’d be making little flour footprints on the kitchen floor at 10pm while DH rolled his eyes and muttered. The sudden change didn’t seem to damage her.

Sometimes the tooth fairy used to forget, often coinciding with a night when mummy had a few too many wines, funny that. So we would have a huge cuddle in bed while mummy frantically gestured to clueless daddy to get the bloody coin under the pillow where it had just been too well hidden for DD to notice. We are all flawed parents OP, just roll with it. The kids will be fine.

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littleloopylou · 16/04/2023 23:59

I guess the only way to make your DC feel better without dumping ex in the shit / making daddy look worse than he already does / ruining your family concept of the EB, is to make up a white lie about confusion as to where DC would be at Easter or something along those lines

This is what I immediately did. An egg is on the way to be either found or to have a note on it from the Easter bunny saying sorry for the late delivery! there was confusion about where my child was.

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littleloopylou · 17/04/2023 00:18

My child is young enough for Santa and the Easter Bunny to be credible, hasn't even lost a tooth and had the fun of the Tooth Fairy yet.

I assume that the posters who are laughing at the ridiculousness of the EB don't put on a show about Father Christmas then? It's just as preposterous.

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myveryownelectrickitten · 17/04/2023 00:21

This thread is bonkers - we had the Easter bunny at primary age in the 1970s and 1980s, and so did every child I knew! My DD and her friends also do now, and they talk about it at primary school (and church). DD was pretty bummed out when all the Santa/EB myth was punctured!

Ignore the angry weirdos on this thread, OP — you’re getting a really hard time for no reason. Your ex is a lazy shit and I hope your poor DC is feeling better now.

ilovesooty · 17/04/2023 00:28

"angry weirdo" not to have even heard of the Easter Bunny "thing" until reading it on here?

Summerfun54321 · 17/04/2023 00:29

Why not celebrate all Christian festivals by someone coming in the night to leave something. Why stop at Christmas and Easter? Why not have "pancake man" that leaves a pancake at the bottom of your bed for Shrove Tuesday?