What to tell this girl?!

[Miloticc]

DC is 7 and has additional needs. There’s some parents on our street that let their kids play outside quite young, the kids in DC’s class (ages 6 and just turning 7) I would personally consider too young, but if you do that I’m not judging you at all as some children are way more responsible than others.

The problem is that one of them lives opposite us and keeps asking for DC to play out. And won’t take no for an answer.

I’ve tried telling her everything I can think of! Today I said “maybe when he’s older” and she kept saying to me “but im 6 and I’m allowed out!”. Im at the point where I wish I could just say “and I don’t think your mum should be letting you” but obviously I would never say that!

We do live next to a main road and cars do come flying past. I stand out and watch DC in summer so that they can mingle with friends but only when they’re outside my house. This girl goes around the town on her own and wants DC to go with her.

If it was anyone else’s child I could just talk to the parent, but her mum is very aggressive and nasty. Not a reasonable person and I’ve nearly had to call social on her before, so we aren’t amicable enough to speak to each other. This is also why I can’t invite the girl round for a play date, her mum would be livid.

So far I’ve tried saying; “no sorry”, “no sorry he needs an adult to watch him”, “no sorry but maybe when he’s older”, “he can come out in summer for a bit” and even “no sorry I won’t let him”.

I have no problems being blunt and looking like the bad guy, but is there anything I can say/do? At my wits end repeating myself.

God that poor child. Honestly, I'd report her. I know that's not what you want to hear but it's simply not safe for a 6 years old to be wandering the streets. You can see the danger she's in and it wouldn't sit right with me to do nothing if I were you. If the mother becomes aggressive, call the police. Please help her.

Where does it say this child goes to town on her own..?

In the thread!

I think mum is at her wits end, from what I can gather (because I only know what I’ve picked up as her neighbour) there’s 3 DC and recently a new stepdad, she might have MH issues as she publicly says some questionable things about conspiracy theories and to be honest noone knows how hard her life could be. I try not to judge because god knows life is rough and none of us are perfect.

The only problem is I had an abusive childhood so I can’t sympathise with her when she’s horrible to the kids, I think I’ve heard her be that vile to them personally that I can’t get past it to offer her help. If I’d just seen her get stressed out I would understand but I think I’ve seen the worst of her. I do think she deserves help and support though it’s why I went to school first instead of straight to SS.

To clarify for everyone I definitely did say she walks about town on her own.

She doesn’t go down the town centre where the big shops are. But she does walk around the streets/park/post office where we are, she doesn’t stay on our road. I only know because when I’ve said DC isn’t allowed out she says “why not, I walk all the way to…” or I’ll drive past her out and about.

This reminds me of when my DD was (much) younger and we had a girl on our street who constantly knocked for DD. She also let herself in the house if the door wasn't locked. And - you've guessed it - once came UPSTAIRS and walked in on me and DH at it. I kid you not. I was HORRIFIED. DD wasn't home. We ALWAYS locked the door after that. I can laugh now but at the time 😱

A small child who won’t stop pestering about another small child coming out, despite being told repeatedly ‘no’.

It's a fcking tiny kid. Whose parents obviously aren't helping them learn 'the rules' of how to get along in society. A really young, small child.what the fck is wrong with people.

Little kids are a pain in the hole. But that's no excuse to be mean to them. I can't believe people here.

You can say fuck here @Chickenkeev, then your posts won't look so weird fck fuk

Grand thanks. Useful contribution.

I think that if a 6 year old is allowed out to play alone, with absolutely no supervision, then it would be appropriate to speak to the safeguarding lead at the school. Especially as she seems to be out whenever the OP is leaving or coming home, at different times of day.
And as the OP said, she cant invite her in as the mother has a grudge against her, and that wouldn't be a good idea- although the mother probably wouldn't care where she was anyway!

Don't answer the door

Telling a 6 year old needy and probably neglected child to "piss off" for knocking at your door is beyond shocking, no matter how annoying they are.