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To wonder where my donated item went?

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LemonTreeSkies · 16/04/2023 04:11

There is a local charity that does great work. They had a fundraiser planned for today and we’re asking for raffle items. I sent the organiser a photo of a brand new items that was appropriate to their audience that I was willing to donate if they wanted it. It was worth about £200. He said yes, great, they’d appreciate it.
fundraiser event was today. Someone posted a video of a walk through of the raffle items and I didn’t see my item there.
I’ve just watched a replay of the live video of all the tickets being drawn and my donation wasn’t there. I’m not sure if IBU to be a bit peeved.
Im not sure if I should message asking what happened to the item I donated or just take the attitude I was willing to donate it so it shouldn’t matter what happened to it.

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JMSA · 16/04/2023 04:13

I would want to know. YANBU.

Tarantullah · 16/04/2023 04:20

I'd ask.

thenotsoeviltwin · 16/04/2023 04:21

I work for a charity kind of similar. Ask them on their FB post. Anyone donates a raffle prize to us, we make sure to thank them at least. Certainly if it was donated specifically for the raffle.

Justmuddlingalong · 16/04/2023 04:21

You kindly donated a prize for the raffle. It doesn't seem to have been raffled, so I think it perfectly reasonable to message and ask for an explanation.

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LemonTreeSkies · 16/04/2023 04:28

I asked to be anonymous (some places acknowledge the donor) because it’s something I bought as a gift for my husband then decided he wouldn’t like it as much as I thought he would. It’s been a PITA I’ve been hiding for about three years and my kids (who’ve now left home moaned about having this thing hidden in their rooms).
None of the donors were acknowledged so it’s not as if they raffled mine off camera.
I dropped it off as a business and can’t help wondering if someone took a fancy to it.

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OptimusPrime31 · 16/04/2023 04:36

I would want to know

Ollifer · 16/04/2023 04:47

You absolutely should ask what happened to it ! You donated it for the raffle for charity, not for someone to just take. You're well within your rights to question it

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LemonTreeSkies · 16/04/2023 04:55

I guess I should. I only wanted to not be tagged on FB in case DH saw it and said “Hey! I would have wanted that!” 😁
I did wonder if it was raffled off-camera to keep my name out of it but that’s a wee bit too cloak and dagger lol!

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Phoebo · 16/04/2023 05:12

I'd ask too

Fraaahnces · 16/04/2023 05:17

Sounds dodgy. I would want to see proof that it was auctioned. A lot of charity stores, etc are notorious for this.

SNWannabe · 16/04/2023 05:17

I’d email and ask- if it was a good value item perhaps they’re planning a separate fundraiser for it. Like a bonus ball thing or similar. We did that when we were donated an x box as there is a limit to the amount raised via raffle- eg people will tend to buy £5 worth of tickets whether there is tat or a fab prize. But the Xbox was done as a £10 per guess bonus ball to raise maximum money… at a later date via Facebook.

But deffo ask!!!

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LemonTreeSkies · 16/04/2023 05:19

There were items worth both a lot more and a lot less than mine. It’s a bit odd

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user1492757084 · 16/04/2023 05:28

Just ask, in a polite and respectful way.

There will be a logical answer.

Tilllly · 16/04/2023 05:50

And come back and update us... I want to know now!

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LemonTreeSkies · 16/04/2023 05:54

user1492757084 · 16/04/2023 05:28

Just ask, in a polite and respectful way.

There will be a logical answer.

I’m hoping so because it’s a cause I feel is really worthwhile and would be pretty upset to think there’s anything untoward going on.
I will ask (and update 😊)

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Hillrunning · 16/04/2023 05:55

Yes just ask. I'm far more interested in why you hid an unneeded gift for three years. Can I be nosey and ask? Surely once you decided he wouldn't like it, there was no need to hide it?

Shhhquirrel · 16/04/2023 05:57

Why on earth didn’t you let your DH decide if he wanted the item, rather than ‘hiding’ it? Bizarre behavior.

LittleBlueBrioTrain · 16/04/2023 06:25

Never mind the raffle, I need to know what this mysterious item is

Dreamstosell · 16/04/2023 06:41

Sometimes when we have raffles we have so many donations that we keep some back to be raffled at the next event.

milkysmum · 16/04/2023 06:51

What was the item? Yes do contact them and ask, and then come back and update us!

LadyOfTheCanyon · 16/04/2023 06:58

I also want to know why you hid the item, ( for THREE YEARS!!) unilaterally decided that your H wouldn't want it, yet there is a chance that if he did see it, might decide he wanted it after all.
You sound pleasantly bonkers.

But yes, do ask. I'd want to know.

andhmk · 16/04/2023 07:00

You hid it for 3 years in your kids rooms?

AutumnCrow · 16/04/2023 07:10

LittleBlueBrioTrain · 16/04/2023 06:25

Never mind the raffle, I need to know what this mysterious item is

I’m guessing:

Fancy camera
Telescope
Binoculars

AmazingBouncingFerret · 16/04/2023 07:12

This thread has unlocked a memory of a school fete thread from about 12 years ago where something similar happened and it turned out to be a PTA mum keeping the good things for herself?

MrsRobinsonsHandprints · 16/04/2023 07:14

Who'd of thought that a post about a missing donated item would be so bloody interesting.

Three years, kids bedrooms, never given, oh don't leave us dangling!