Would you go to a wedding abroad?

[Bleurghhhhhh]

A friend of mine is getting married in April 2024. She'd talked about having a UK wedding which I would have been able to attend, that's now been scrapped the wedding is going to be in the Seychelles.
She's said nothing at all to acknowledge that this is going to be about a grand on flights for us from London.
Not even said anything apart from 'please tell me asap whether you and your husband are coming '.

I don't think so, I know it's a year away but I really don't have this kind of money. The most I've ever spent on a flight was about £250 return and I thought that was very steep, I just don't have that sort of money. Not only flights, we'd have to stay over for at least a week as can't just pop over there for a weekend. Not to mention all the spends needed.

I've learned my lesson from spending hundreds on friends' hen parties in thoe past instead of using the word no. I've only just gone up to 25k a year.

Hopefully she'll understand and not fall out with me, I feel bad letting her down, but surely she can't expect this of people unless they're very wealthy.

I have been to weddings abroad, but they've been home or at least home of origin for the couple. The Greek one was very memorable, half the (tiny) island was invited.
All of the couples involved have made efforts to help with accommodation - in Canada their next door neighbours put us up in their annex for free - and been v helpful with stuff like airport collections and things too. I think it's a totally different thing to ask your guests to effectively spend on a massive holiday they might not otherwise have chosen, I'd be much less likely to agree to go in your situation.