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To expect the husband to be upset

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FeelingSoSad2 · 15/04/2023 04:01

at people who have humiliated me?

Long story short, some people in DHs circle had some frictions with me, started talking behind my back, turned other people against me and it then exploded in me being publicly humiliated at a party in front of him and our children.

Its been over a year and some could say that I should forget about it, but humiliation is hard to forget.

Well, he says that he doesnt want to think about it and his relationship with this people wont be affected by this (as they are close to his child from previous marriage).

I would be very uncomfortable with people who would do it to him, AIBU to expect the same from him? I feel that him being ok with them is adding insult to injury.

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TheRealShatParp · 16/04/2023 10:12

You’re so defensive and condescending. Why is it that so many people have ‘misinterpreted’ your OP? Why is it everyone else’s fault that it was misinterpreted and nothing to do with how you’ve written it? You have zero self awareness.

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FeelingSoSad2 · 16/04/2023 14:12

niugboo · 16/04/2023 08:07

Rubbish. You’ve clearly stated alcohol was involved. You didn’t say they were drunk. You’re blatantly back pedalling because people aren’t taking your side.

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I guess you really have no life making assumptions and trying to tell me that Im changing the story. I have nothing to prove to you. Just move on to trolling other peoples posts.

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FeelingSoSad2 · 16/04/2023 14:20

Isiteveningyet · 16/04/2023 08:20

Oh op you need to stop. 😂 you can’t stand the ex, are jealous, had issues with her and her mates before, a shouting match outside if I remember right, fronted up uninvited to her house foe a party and made a bitchy comment, confronted them and were kicked out.

and as for invited by the daughter, getting a child to say you can come and then going there isn’t on and you know it.

your husband is right, he should never have let you go. Youd no right to be there, and the reason the ex has to come to your house is due to the child handovers. You’ve no reason to front up at hers and try ri attend her party she was hosting and you know it.

Who told you that she was collecting her daughter???? She was never collecting her daughter, my DH did all the driving. She was just working close to our house on Wednesdays (cleaning somewhere) and coming to supposedly visit her daughter who was spending 50-50 with us. She was always coming with a different friend, walking around the house as we were doing renos, asking DH if he likes her new haircut and ignoring me. It was absolutely unnecessary as her daughter was going to be returned to her on Friday.

Id like to see who you would react to that.
Assumptions are the mother of all f*ups. Know that expression?

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FeelingSoSad2 · 16/04/2023 14:21

TheRealShatParp · 16/04/2023 10:12

You’re so defensive and condescending. Why is it that so many people have ‘misinterpreted’ your OP? Why is it everyone else’s fault that it was misinterpreted and nothing to do with how you’ve written it? You have zero self awareness.

Have you read the comments make here? What kind of response do you expect?

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FeelingSoSad2 · 16/04/2023 14:25

PousseyNotMoira · 16/04/2023 02:51

I think you should try to explain what happened again, with a bit more clarity around exactly what was actually said by all parties. You’ll get more useful responses that way.

I will not get useful responses as it seems that there are permanent posters here with no life who just trash people. I guess it helps them ignore their own misery.

In reality, my DH became much colder with the ex and her boyfriend. One can be cordial with an ex for the sake of the kids, they dont need to have dinners together, text each other when on vacation and things like that. I just had a moment of weekness where these moments came back and had the mistake of posting here.

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niugboo · 16/04/2023 14:26

FeelingSoSad2 · 16/04/2023 14:12

I guess you really have no life making assumptions and trying to tell me that Im changing the story. I have nothing to prove to you. Just move on to trolling other peoples posts.

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What?

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FeelingSoSad2 · 16/04/2023 14:33

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You are calling me trash based on the explanations of a stranger who wasnt there and whos just making up things?
I obviously reported this, but clearly your life is so trash that you need to insult strangers,. Except that its not going to improuve your life. It will continue being trash. Good luck.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 16/04/2023 14:43

Your responses give an idea of why relations are so poor. You seem to be the common denominator where drama is concerned. Something to consider.

niugboo · 16/04/2023 14:47

AnneLovesGilbert · 16/04/2023 14:43

Your responses give an idea of why relations are so poor. You seem to be the common denominator where drama is concerned. Something to consider.

They really do!

13Bastards · 16/04/2023 15:26

What was the comment you made to the Ex, that she said to you as well once?

FlowerFlour · 16/04/2023 15:31

I remember the original post too.

The ex had been to your house and said "I can come to your house whenever I want" (a bitch move but just don't let her in?) so when your stepdaughter (a child) invited you to a party at exes house you went, even though the ex pointedly did not invite you. You told the ex "I can come to your house whenever I want", clearly thinking you were getting revenge on her, and were then shocked to be thrown out of her party. One year later you are still stewing over this injustice, even though it was completely predictable and you brought it on yourself.

Please stop feeding the drama and victim mindset. Don't let the ex in your house, and don't go to her house. Don't communicate with her, pretend she doesn't exist. All your lives will be happier for it.

LolaSmiles · 16/04/2023 15:32

In reality, my DH became much colder with the ex and her boyfriend. One can be cordial with an ex for the sake of the kids, they dont need to have dinners together, text each other when on vacation and things like that. I just had a moment of weekness where these moments came back and had the mistake of posting here.
Why shouldn't he have dinner with his ex and her boyfriend or text each other?

It sounds like you've had a bee in your bonnet about a successful co-parenting relationship, have demanded he pulls back to suit your needs, and then you create drama with the poor woman and her boyfriend in their own house.

Just reading your responses to other posters gives the impression that drama is likely to follow you

Mamapiggywig · 16/04/2023 15:36

He has not got your back and I wouldn’t like that. I have had a falling out with my brother in law and sister in law. If my DH had not supported me, he would be getting divorce papers by now. I can’t live in a divided relationship, with a man you isn’t going to protect and support me

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