Register baby name, ARS or AS?

[HappyButHangry]

DH will be registering our baby's name tomorrow

My maiden name begins with R. DH's last name begins with S. New DC is Alice.
We had always said my maiden name would be all our children's middle name because it is sentimental to me. We didn't know new baby would be called Alice until we saw her. (we were stuck between Alice and something else)

Anyway her initials will be ARS if we give her my maiden name as her middle name. And I feel like it's too close to arse 🍑 and I can't bring myself to register her with that name now as her initials will be ARS. AIBU?

They are great initials. You've missed out just noticing 😆

My son has 2 middle names. It's a bit of a mouthful but the alternative was MAC and I didn't want people calling him that (which they already started referring to when I mentioned the names before he was even born!).
So yeah the names actually flow together really well and let's face it hardly anyone ever uses middle names these days anyway. If you are really set on the names ARS you can just pop an additional name in there.
People say others won't notice but they do trust me, especially kids.

Do you like Chalice?

2nd middle name please OP

I say add a middle name and eliminate any possibility of mocking/bullying because of her initials - kids can be cruel!

Thanks to a VERY similar conundrum, mine now has a (extravagant) first name, two middles and a bonkers double barrelled surname.

I’ve just decided to embrace it because it was the best of the options.

Ours have never used their middle initial at school. None of their friends know it.

At our school the Systems for students and teachers they use first initial and first two or 3 letters of last name. This has been the same at primary and secondary. So their school email for example would be hton@randomschool

Not everyone has a middle initial so to keep it the same format it is easier to use above.

Why would you risk it? And it's not just schools, initials tend to get used in other contexts, such as at work.

My daughters initials are also LEG

OP stick with ARS, kids never randomly write all 3 initials down. They just write their name and surname so it’s unlikely other kids would even make the connection. And it doesn’t even spell ARSE

You would hope by the time of getting to work they would have matured sufficiently to not react like five year olds to initials that don’t even actually spell a word. Who knows if they will change their name as adults and have different initials by then anyway. My daughter could end up as some unfortunate words as her middle initial is A. It’s irrelevant.

Not all adults in work are that mature. Again, why risk it when it is so easy to avoid?

Wouldn't it just be easiest to use the other first name you were considering as a middle name? Presumably you really liked it too as it was a contender?

We had DS's middle name long before we had his first name, as DH wanted to use the same middle name that he had, as his dad had the same (although he went by the middle name as his main one). Unfortunately DS isn't keen on it, no idea why as it's not that out there (like David, not used as much these days but very popular in previous generations). You just never know.

We had a client once whose initials were HMS Surname. I always struggled slightly not to picture them as a boat...

Don't lumber your poor child with ARS! I use my initials surprisingly often, she'll hate it.

Change Alice to Elise? Or you say you were choosing between Alice and another name - use the other name either as a first name or additional second name.

But that was because his initials were RC - the existence of the S made no difference

OP don't worry about it. You/she can always not use the R name if necessary, though my experience of schools is that kids tend to be Alice S or Alice T, or ASt or ASh where there are more than one with same name/initial. Either way you can choose.

Why not swap the surnames around so it's ASR?

Please don’t do this to your daughter, OP. Add in another name or choose a different first name.
congratulations on your new baby

Her classmates will be cruel. Arsey arse etc...

We're just going to keep it to AS. short and sweet!

Many thanks all for the advice etc.

My niece is ARS and its never been an issue

Definitely not ARS. It will haunt her throughout school. There might be another AS in her class so even if they just use first and last initial, your Alice might have to be ARS and then will forever be known as arse.

Oops, I’ve just seen your update. Seems sad not to use your maiden name when it means so much to you.I think you should add in another name-as previously suggested- the other one you were deciding between when you named her?

either way- congratulations on your precious new baby 💐

We were hoping to use the other name for future bambinos!

Personally I think it would be better to use your maiden name as planned, but just give her another middle name.

Well I think it’s silly using your maiden name as a middle name anyway so I’d just pick a normal first name if you want a middle name.