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Would you or would you not ban someone who swore once and then immediately apologised?

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Changingggggggggggg · 12/04/2023 13:01

Just that really ...

Strange situation - in a hotel - one price had been agreed, they wanted to charge a higher price, they wouldn't speak quietly and calmly about it, but shouted at the guest and said there was no point in listening to what she said.

After 15 or so minutes of this, the guest, in enormous frustration did say "For F... Sake, please lets..." and then realising what they'd said, immediately apologised. The guest was rather shocked by what they'd said, having not done this before. She did then pay the higher price.

When they tried to book the hotel again a couple of months later, they discovered they had been banned - was told they had been told this by multiple people, despite there having been no communication.

Is this a banning situation - or do you give someone the benefit of the doubt, given their immediate apologies and contriteness?

OP posts:
RiktheButler · 12/04/2023 19:36

MisschiefMaker · 12/04/2023 19:20

Why don't you believe the OP's version of events? After all, we weren't there so all we have to go off is the OP's account.

I think the hotel has behaved very unprofessionally based on the information we have. I can't believe anyone is supporting a hotel that a) messed up recording a booking despite the customer calling to confirm the booking b) attempted to charge the potential customer more due to their cock-up and c) tolerated a manager shouting at the potential customer. It just seems to be coming from a place of "that can't possibly have happened", which is beyond weird. Of course this type of thing could happen.

The op has left out more detail than she has included, so there's that. Plus what we do know is that she was argumentative to the point of swearing/aggression...

ClaudiaWankleman · 12/04/2023 21:37

Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 12/04/2023 16:23

It's a receptionist doing their job they have zero say on prices or how the hotel is run. Would you like it if you was at work and someone shouted at you for 15 minutes for something you have no say or control over. When people have an issue with a business they need to complain higher up, not abuse the minimum wage staff who are just following what their told to do

Well it wasn’t OP shouting for 15 minutes, it was the receptionist. Anyone shouting at me would be told to fuck off - OP was much more polite.

ReadersD1gest · 12/04/2023 21:39

ClaudiaWankleman · 12/04/2023 21:37

Well it wasn’t OP shouting for 15 minutes, it was the receptionist. Anyone shouting at me would be told to fuck off - OP was much more polite.

You weren't there 🤷🏻‍♀️ I refuse to believe op stood meekly at the front desk for a full 15 minutes being shouted at. Who would?

ClaudiaWankleman · 12/04/2023 21:51

ReadersD1gest · 12/04/2023 21:39

You weren't there 🤷🏻‍♀️ I refuse to believe op stood meekly at the front desk for a full 15 minutes being shouted at. Who would?

What on earth is the point of you engaging with the thread then, if you aren’t going believe any of the premise of it?

Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 13/04/2023 06:02

ClaudiaWankleman · 12/04/2023 21:37

Well it wasn’t OP shouting for 15 minutes, it was the receptionist. Anyone shouting at me would be told to fuck off - OP was much more polite.

Do you actually believe that

snitzelvoncrumb · 13/04/2023 06:06

Not much you can do. Just leave an honest review, and if you know the others get them to do the same.

RiktheButler · 13/04/2023 21:17

snitzelvoncrumb · 13/04/2023 06:06

Not much you can do. Just leave an honest review, and if you know the others get them to do the same.

I think an "honest" review is the last thing she'll be leaving!!!

Kennykenkencat · 14/04/2023 11:31

RiktheButler · 13/04/2023 21:17

I think an "honest" review is the last thing she'll be leaving!!!

Judging by the reviews already written why wouldn’t op’s review be honest

RiktheButler · 14/04/2023 14:06

@Kennykenkencat well, lets see
No confirmed (in writing) booking/room rate
Hasn't answered questions about what the rate issue actually was
Knew there was an issue in advance but didn't escalate it to a course leader
Berated staff for 15 minutes
Swore at staff

LIZS · 14/04/2023 14:20

You were abusive, intentionally or not. If they have a zero tolerance then they are correct.

Kennykenkencat · 15/04/2023 20:39

RiktheButler · 14/04/2023 14:06

@Kennykenkencat well, lets see
No confirmed (in writing) booking/room rate
Hasn't answered questions about what the rate issue actually was
Knew there was an issue in advance but didn't escalate it to a course leader
Berated staff for 15 minutes
Swore at staff

OP didn’t berate the staff for 15 minutes it was the other way round

She did check the price as she saw the reviews and the price was confirmed but only over the phone.

Yes she swore. I think I would have done a lot worse

RiktheButler · 15/04/2023 20:47

Kennykenkencat · 15/04/2023 20:39

OP didn’t berate the staff for 15 minutes it was the other way round

She did check the price as she saw the reviews and the price was confirmed but only over the phone.

Yes she swore. I think I would have done a lot worse

Of course she did, and as for your last line - I'd throw you out too.

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