The notion of parents charging their children rent is absolutely insane and anyone who does that has failed their responsibility as a parent

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No, your responsibility as a parent doesn't end when they hit a magical number of years. You chose to be a parent, that's a lifetime commitment, not an eighteen-year contract.

Im 42 now and lived in a very small house with parents who worked very hard and struggled with money lots of times but they never asked me and my siblings to pay rent. children living with their parents as an adult should be a given. Everyone does it, nobody thinks lesser of young adults living with their parents. Certainly nobody charges their kid fucking rent to live in the same place they have their whole life.

Of course, I don't mean you let your child leech off you till they're 40, never working or doing anything worthwhile with their life rotting away in your basement. But, provided that they are actively making something of themselves, be it education, pursuing their passions or something that will eventually lead them to achieve full independence and move out anyway, adding an unnecessary expense to their budget just makes the time they take to get to that point even longer.

What changes when the child reaches a certain age? Don't get me wrong, I don't agree with op, but can't afford it seems odd?

I paid 'rent' when I was working but still living at home. It never even occurred to me that this wasn't ok. My parents weren't well off and the money I chipped in to cover my share of food etc was a help. It meant when I eventually did leave home I wasn't shocked that actually you can't do whatever you want with your money and some is spoken for.

Obviously you are been so unreasonable, you are verging on the ridiculous, but I presume you have just posted this rubbish either as a terrible attempt at journalism or just to be goady ?

I think anyone who doesn’t charge their adult child board while they live at home is failing their children. Adults who are able to work should positively contribute to their living costs.

My parents fund my sister to live at home and she’s 30. She has a part time, minimum wage job and no incentive to work more hours to improve her lifestyle. I have no idea how she will survive when my parents retire/die.

I’ve worked full time since leaving uni and in established in a career and comfortably paying 2 mortgages.

Parenting has held one of us back, and it’s not the one living at home for free who is thriving.

I'm just interested to see if this is a thread the OP will return to - I suspect not .

100% disagree with you OP!

It's not teaching a young person any financial responsibility by letting them stay at home whilst the parents work to provide everything! There should be some contribution once the adult child starts working!

To provide your children with zero financial education is also a failure as a parent!

Isn't this what the phrase "you do you" was invented for?

That's nice.

Not all families can do that.

It also teaches kids a good lesson to have to pay keep.

Wow - popcorn and Pepsi this way. My ex husband died by suicide and I supported my children, now 20 and 23 in every way - emotionally and financially- and we have come through this terrible time as a strong unit. My 23 year old works and pays bills and so on to live at home and will move out when they can. You clearly don’t know how it feels to not know if you will lose everything if you post stuff like this. You don’t know what poverty is like, or disability, or deep emotional trauma and maybe you should not judge how other people live. Oh, and my financial advisor also
told my children it was important for them to contribute if they were working. It’s only the very privileged who can be so lofty about things they know nothing about.

Me too.

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