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Announced pregnancy.... was told to terminate

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northeasrer · 09/04/2023 01:44

I had a somewhat close friend who has been messaging me over the last few days over a love issue in his life.

I was a bit short in my responses (just giving smileys or whatever, not being rude) because I'm tired and had nothing else to add.... He bought this up and I responded I'm pregnant.

His response was basically to abort....

I'm really annoyed by this. I'm nearly 40, he's 26, he's a friend I meet travelling, so he's not close.

OP posts:
Dobby123456 · 09/04/2023 08:38

northeasrer · 09/04/2023 02:10

He didn't ask anything,... that's what I don't understand.

Im not going to make it public until I know the pregnancy is progressing well etc. he lives in a different city and I'm not on social media so he won't be talking to my family/write it on my feed etc.

He's in this country by himself (refuge form iran) and I've helped him a lot and feel for him. So that's why I said we are sort of close - he's here by himself and not his choice.

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Meant to be a joke, maybe? Either way, does it really matter? You're happy. Sounds like congratulations are in order!

Testina · 09/04/2023 08:39

ConstanceOcean · 09/04/2023 08:28

So you’re a married, pregnant women and you’re messaging some young guy about his love life?
Thats a bit weird.

If you were tired why were you reading and responding to the messages?
Just read them the next day or tell him you’re going to bed.

@ConstanceOcean I don’t think OP is married. Certainly not to the father of this unplanned pregnancy that she’s not in a committed relationship with!

Tandora · 09/04/2023 08:43

northeasrer · 09/04/2023 02:04

We had been messaging and I left him on read last night because I was pregnant tired. It was nearly 24 hours until I responded (I forgot to message him today) and really thought he would have it figured out in 24 hours. English is also his second language.... so messages can be a bit hard/I change my communication style.

Be picked up on my short answer.... and I said "sorry I'm pregnant, a bit tired". I made it clear I'm not aborting,... he asked how far and if I've told my parents... I stated baby dad is very happy and so am I... and he still said I have time to abort.

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tbh your post makes little sense all round, but how you’ve written it here, it sounds like a joke?
not sure why you need to come onto mumsnet about this? It all sounds v immature.

Testina · 09/04/2023 08:53

Next time I’m messaging a nearly 40yo friend who isn’t in a committed relationship, and they leave me on read for 24 hours, I’m definitely going to figure out it’s because they’re pregnant 🤷🏻‍♀️🤣

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northeasrer · 09/04/2023 12:36

ConstanceOcean · 09/04/2023 08:28

So you’re a married, pregnant women and you’re messaging some young guy about his love life?
Thats a bit weird.

If you were tired why were you reading and responding to the messages?
Just read them the next day or tell him you’re going to bed.

No he was asking for advice for his love life. Hes speaking to a Brit and wanted advice on what a phrase meant as he hadn't heard it before.....

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daisychain01 · 10/04/2023 03:55

This feels to me like a reaction from someone who is now seeing his relationship with you change suddenly due to a baby coming along.

Instant reaction is very telling in that case - nice bit of entitled misogyny right there. Woman is there for his needs alone, anything that stands to disrupt that, just abort her unborn child so it doesn't affect his very important needs. Jeez.

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