I don't know whether or not I'm being over sensitive or not. You'll tell me!
I've been seeing my boyfriend for 6 months. We obviously live separately. I said from the beginning that I'm a single mother to a six-year-old and I also take care of my very very poorly mother and that my life is pretty complicated. This meant that the relationship might not progress like a 'normal' one. I have my own money, house, business, and a lot of responsibilities. I wouldn't want to introduce him to my DS straight away and wanted to go about the whole thing quite slowly.
So, we see each other a couple of times a week. We've planned a little holiday away together next week. He's always very loving and kind when we're together and I feel as though he adds to my life. And I hope I add to his. We laugh and enjoy ourselves. We cook together, buy each other little gifts, go out to eat, chat...
When I go to visit him - he hasn't been to my house yet because my mother's bed is in the living room and my DS is there - I have to plan ahead. I find a sitter for my DS and set my mother up for the evening with everything she needs. So, it's a bit of a chore.
Anyway, last night, after what was a rough weekend, I was supposed to be going to his. He texted 30 mins before I was supposed to be there to say he was grumpy and tired. I'd just put my make-up on, got everything sorted blah, blah, blah. I was a bit upset. He wasn't ill. He was in a bad mood about his lawnmower breaking and 'didn't want me to see him like that'. He 'just wanted to have a shower and go to bed'. I told him I was a bit sad because it was short notice and that part of being together is that we do see each other when stuff goes wrong, not just when it's all rosy. He said, "come over then if you want, but I don't want to do anything. I just want to watch a film and go to bed".
So I said I'd leave it. I didn't feel particularly wanted.
He then turned it totally around by saying, "well, I said you could come. It's you who doesn't want to. I don't know what your problem is. I could do without the agro. Have a good evening."
This morning, I asked if he was feeling any better and if we could just put it behind us.
He said, "Yes, I hope so."
All good.
Then... "We agreed at the beginning that we were independent people who needed our own space. I was tired last night and you need to understand that. Otherwise, we'd be living under the same roof."
So, he started it all up again. And kind of made me feel like it was all my fault. I didn't ask to move in with him! I was just happy to see him.
He's made me feel needy. I wonder if I am? I'm not very good at "casual" relationships. I was hoping that despite living in separate houses, we were building something together. He had the whole weekend to rest. That's exactly what he did. I was running a charity event all day on Saturday and cleaning up after it a lot of Sunday. I didn't ask him to help. Nor did he offer. I don't ask him for much at all. Am I being unreasonable to be upset about this? Or mental?