My husband and I are separated. We share 2 young children. I also have now ex step children who are DSS11 and DSS7.
My husband and I were together for 6 years and married for 4. I realised pretty early on that he had controlling tendancies. I think I was just too young and naive and lacking in the confidence to remove myself from the situation any earlier. I got swept up in the relationship, then engagement and marriage. I knew fairly quickly after we married he wasn't right for me but anyway, that's a different thread. He has now moved out and I am living in what was the family home. Divorce not yet finalised. I'm trying to have the least amount of involvement with him as possible to keep things as amicable as I can (prone to outbursts and anger when we have too much communication and things don't go his way).
During the relationship I was relatively friendly with his ex. We weren't best of friends of course but friendly enough.
Onto the actual AIBU.. since I separated from my husband, which his ex knows, I have received a few requests from her to help with different things to do with my ex step children. Their dad works away in the week so I did take on quite a bit when we were together.
For example, can I nip them to school, could I have them overnight on this day or after school on X day because she has a meeting that's ran over and so on.
I did initially say yes a couple of times begrudgingly but have now started to say no. In all honesty I don't want to be part of this situation and I want to distance myself. It leaves me open to needing more contact with my husband than I would like to have (calling to speak to the kids if he knows I have them and other things).
I just want to be free of this whole situation. AIBU to ask her to delete my number and not contact me? Our children see each other when they visit exH.
There are other things going on in my life too right now and I just don't want to deal with any of his problems on top of my own. It's just too much.
Thanks