Immediate thoughts on this weekend

[Icanbuymyselfflowersstuckinmyhead]

Went to work until lunchtime (private tutor)
Got baguettes, cheese and fruit from the shop on way home for myself, Dd,4 and Dh. Had lunch, I lay down on sofa watching Gogglebox and on phone, Dh took Dd two doors down to her friends house to play on the trampoline for a couple of hours. They will then go to get takeaway pizza later we’ll watch a film, then bed for Dd
Tomorrow, we’re driving around 30 minutes away to a waterfall, then to a little beach resort (we’re abroad) where they have a nice playground, we’ll have lunch there then take a boat over to a small beach island just across the way from there.
Will come back, walk our dog in the forest/beach and Dd will have a bath and get school things ready for tomorrow. I’ll take Dd to bed and do stories etc.

Immediate thoughts/response to this weekend?

@Commonsensitivity She does drink…a lot really. Having said that, it’s a lot compared to me and I barely drink these days and am a boring sod on that score. Before Dd came along, it was different

No one could possibly judge if you’re boring or not just by one day/weekend activity.

I would have to know your entire months plans to be able to be judgy or not 🤣

Personally I’ve taken older kids to gymnastics today then tidied car out. Now we’re all chilling at home doing whatever we like. Tomorrow we will go out and be more exciting 😆😆

Who honestly cares what their friends do!!

It's a perfectly fine weekend. My advice would be stop questioning whether your weekend arrangements are fine by others and ask yourself do you and your family enjoy what you do? Who cares if some "friend" thinks it's boring could be better. If you, DH and DC enjoy it then why worry about some hyperactive joy machine getting critical?

Presumably you skipped over lots of detail on the text and it might have been more 'Work, walking the dog, pizza, beach tomorrow.'

It's a bit mean for her to criticise something you're going to enjoy though, even if she didn't get the full picture.

Pmsl at your suggestion, which hurt my stomach as I’ve just had my gallbladder removed, oh the irony.

What would she suggest you do instead with kids in tow - go to a rave?

She's not your mate.

Im younger than you OP and I think your friend would find me very boring. I don't go on nights out, don't really drink much and my favourite thing to do is get out in the fresh air with my kids and the dog. I live in Scotland and some of the scenary here is beautiful.

😂😂

This. Why do people feel the need to do this?

@Icanbuymyselfflowersstuckinmyhead my goodness if your friend could see my life, she'd fall asleep! Nothing near as exciting as your weekend.

I wonder if your friend connects culture and leisure like hikes, visiting towns, museums, history etc., as an age thing? So for her a good weekend is drinking, socializing etc.

In my peer group mid 30's to 50, I would say your weekend is the norm. Maybe a couple friends would also have a meal out with partner or friends, but that wouldn't be every weekend. It's mostly culture, arts, activities for kids, cleaning, cooking, laundry, maybe Netflix and a glass of wine.

Your friend's idea of normal sounds more like my life in my very early 20's! I wasn't a clubber or a drinker, but most weekends included something out with friends and there was always something friendship based planed for each weekend.

Keep doing you! Enjoy your lovely weekend.

Sounds lovely and I think you’re very lucky.
The friend is a bitch to say that, but there’s no need for you to be interested in what someone else thinks about your life.

It sounds like she considers not drinking to be boring, and perhaps thinks you would want to be out doing that instead of your plans, which sound lovely btw.

My weekend involves work, shopping, cooking, childcare and perhaps a glass of wine in front of the tv later. It’s the first day of the Easter holidays and the kids are worn out, anything more exciting is unlikely!

Don’t rise to it and don’t compare. You don’t need to. If you’re happy and she’s happy then it’s all good. If she wants her drinking buddy back and that’s not you anymore, she will need to find a new one.

Sounds blissful to me!

She's jealous or feeling neglected?
I can't be doing with people like her. How dare she criticise your lifestyle.
I'd rather be doing what your doing with your lovely family than enduring the shallowness of "cocktails".

I think your weekend sounds great.

I went for a walk with a friend this morning, came home and fell asleep listening to the Man Utd women’s match! Slept for about 2 hours.

There is nothing nicer than waking up without a hangover. And I say that as someone who still manages to wake up with a hangover about every other month after going out too late, partying too hard and drinking too much.

I rarely regret not having gone to a party or stayed out drinking - however I often regret wasting my Sunday with a headache.

Sounds like a perfect weekend. Enjoy.

I have weekends like you. And I have weekends like her. Neither is better or worse, just what you want to do. Some people have to piss on your chips either way.

Why do people keep saying they are boring if you/they don't drink alcohol ?

I'd be more concerned that people can't actually enjoy themselves without alcohol.

Huh? You are doing some work, relaxing, enjoying a day out with your family. Isn't that what weekends are for? What is your friend suggesting you do instead? You are spending time recharging and with your partner and child, that is a far better idea than drinking and going out on my mind.
I have a friend who does those park runs every Sunday morning. Good for her. I like lounging around and having a leisurely breakfast the one day I can. Is she better than me? Healthier maybe. But I'm enjoying what I like to do and she's enjoying what she does. No judgment either side. And your friend shouldn't judge you doing what you want to either.

I would say your weekend sounds just like mine, although added a walk to mine. I am a similar age. I have a friend abroad who is the same age and is always out clubbing etc. I don't think we judge each other, our lives are just different. I would imagine there are more people your age having the sort of weekend you describe than you would imagine. I for one am too knackered from work to want to do much else.

Your friend needs to mind her own business. Your weekend has much more 'out and about' activity built into than my weekends ever do, these days, but I'm perfectly happy with that and would be miserable if I couldn't do things my own way.

A saying comes to mind... 'Only boring people get bored.' I don't unreservedly agree with that, but there is an element of truth to it.

Sounds like a lovely weekend to me - enjoy! Your friend doesn’t seem very nice, just because that’s not what she would want to do with her weekend there’s no need to be rude to you about it. I can’t think of anything worse than an afternoon out drinking cocktails but if one of my friends said that’s what they were doing I would say ooh lovely have a nice time!

Sounds perfect, except for having to work in the morning. I would change that for a long hot bath followed by a short walk to a good cafe for breakfast!

I've spent the day working on school planning (for after Easter) and I'm now lying on my sofa watching Ted Lasso. Tomorrow I'll be doing the same...school work and TV.

I think I'm the epitome of boring! Your weekend sounds fabulous OP 👍