To think a lot of people assume miscarriages aren't that painful?

[Greenvelvetdress]

I know that it's like anything if you've not experienced it but the amount of people that tell you 'it's just like a period' when they have absolutely no idea what it's like.

I had no idea before I had my first miscarriage how long and drawn out they are, the need for surgery etc. Hoping to just raise some awareness about this.

Sending lots of love @Greenvelvetdress ❤️

Thanks @iLovee - think I'm just very fed up by this point ❤️

I agree with this. Tv doesn’t help as they tend to depict it as you sit on the loo and it happens. I spent hours on all fours breathing through the waves of pain.

Agree.
I laboured with all of mine. For up to 12 hours each time.
I had morphine and gas & air to get through. Paracetamol its codeine didn’t touch the pain. (From GP)
I couldn’t speak as the pain was so intense.

Once everything had passed, it was like a switch had been flicked and the pain stopped immediately.

The blood loss was also torrential.

Nothing about any of those miscarriages experienced were “like a period”.

I am a hard core, hard faced black hearted bitch.
Nothing bothers me.
I don’t take pain killers, not had a day off sick from work for 20 years but these, every one of them floored me.

Also to mention, mine were all 12 weeks and under. So early. Yes still extremely painful and distressing.
I agree with you OP.

Lots of miscarriages are like heavy periods though. I have had 5 miscarriages. The very early ones were just like a heavy period for me. The one at 13 weeks was a little worse. None of my miscarriages had any complications or needed surgery. Obviously for some they can be very painful and lead to complications..

Mine was very drawn out so the psychological pain was worse, but yes the physical aspect was also draining. Had heavy bleeding (nothing like my normal very light periods) and was taken into hospital for a Laparoscopy which left me in some pain for quite a few days. I did take 2 weeks off work and they were fairly understanding but the amount of people who said things like “these things happen/try again/at least it was early on - it’s not a baby at that point” made me realise that unless you have been through it no one knows your pain at all.

I have always assumed that a miscarriage under the 3 months was like a heavy period with similar cramps. After that its similar to a mini birth. No idea why i think that (and I've lost two babies but both were surgically removed).

I'm sorry for your loss

Sorry for your loss. I have experienced two one was very mild -9 weeks the second was at 19 weeks and was very painful and difficult.

Talking to friends it's the phycological impact that can side swipe you later on. Mind yourself.

Sorry for your loss OP and to all the ladies on here who have experienced it. I had terrible pain too I was practically climbing the sofa with contraction like pain. Awful. I bled for almost 10 days after the removal procedure too. It was a horrible time 😔

Just had one at 10 weeks. The blood was gushing out at one so my DH was thinking of ringing an ambulance. Weirdly it wasn't painful but I just felt faint and sick. I did have some cramps later that I took paracetamol for which were a bit more like labour and passing the baby but it wasn't massively painful. I might have a high pain threshold though.

Sorry for your loss, OP. It is bloody awful.

Agree op. I’ve had three and needed hospital care each time. I was expecting it to be like a heavy period (I knew all mine were coming before they happened) but they all completely floored me. Awful.

Sorry for your loss x

*one point

I agree entirely.

i had a failed medical management. I passed a blood clot that was roughly 10cm by 10cm. When I phoned the early pregnancy unit the nurse freaked out over the phone and I had to go in. It was horrendous.

i had a d&c and I’d recommend everyone to get one of them rather then manage it medically or naturally.

the pain during he failed medical management was horrific and the blood loss was shocking.

Also agree. I’ve hD one early one at 6/7 weeks which was miserable, but not awful.

a 14 week one which resulted in me needing the high dependency unit, a blood transfusion and two surgeries, and iron tablets for 6 months. When I arrived at A&E there was blood pouring out, and I collapsed in the corridor. Good job I can’t remember much or I would be embarrassed!

and a 12 week one which involved a molar pregnancy, surgery and a lot of drama!

I agree OP. I had one at 8 weeks, baby had stopped developing at around 5-6 weeks. It was so painful, I was all alone in the middle of the night, it felt like labour contractions for a while, nothing like a period.
Sending lots of love.

Also agree, mine was awfully painful for hours.

I didn't know I was pregnant so also didn't know what was causing the pain until it was over.

At its worst it was equivalent to the full term labours I've been through.

So sorry for all of you who've had to go through such gruelling experiences whilst suffering emotionally.

The people downplaying miscarriages might be speaking from their own experiences. As you say, the physical details aren't widely spoken of, so if, like me, their experience was just of a very very heavy long lasting period, it's easy to imagine that that's the norm.

I had a missed miscarriage (so no pain or bleeding to indicate anything was amiss) and had to have a D&C, but I don't assume all miscarriages are like that. So sorry to everyone here who has been through the horror of losing a baby 😢

That’s interesting about being similar to labour because whenever I say that to people they scoff. And say of course it’s nothing like labour. I’ve never experienced labour so can’t compare :(

Absolutely! I have had 3 6 week miscarriages (and 10 chemicals). The chemicals were just a heavy period. The 6 weekers were really painful much more so than a period (I have had heavy period cramps in the past). They hurt in the back as well as the uterus and come in waves like contractions. I had to lie flat for about a week or stand as sitting was too painful. The pain stopped as soon as the sac was passed though, such a relief!

Then you are physically very drained afterwards, not to mention grieving.

The positive pregnancy tests for several
weeks afterwards are also a kick in the teeth, thanks biology.

I wish I had known more about miscarriage beforehand. Sharing here so other women are better prepared.

I didn't need pain relief for mine at 8 weeks, it was just a lot of blood and clots, not comparable at all to my usual lightish period, but I know others do have periods that bad.

Im so sorry for your loss.

I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks when I was 20, at first it was like a very heavy period for me and some cramping.
At the hospital I had to birth everything out and I passed out due to the blood loss.
It was the worse night of my life, the staff were awful to me, luckily I didn’t need a D&C so I discharged myself from hospital as I just wanted to go home.

And I guess part of the issue is that they are all so different. So even if it’s relatively early (mine was 9 weeks) it can still be horrendous

(And I have a high pain threshold - I used to have such bad period pains that they made my legs and face go numb).

I’ve had quite bad ones and straightforward ones. But am very well aware of utterly horrific they can be physically (on top of all the emotions).
so sorry OP 💐