How would you feel if your dad was dating someone younger than you?

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Question is in the title. Would you disown him?

I would think it's a bit shit

Disown, maybe not.

Think he was an embarrassing perv? Probably.

Small caveat for people who were very young parents. There's a small difference there.

I don't know if I'd disown him (my dad is a very nice man) but I'd definitely be nauseated.

I'd be horrified, I don't think I would disown him but I would really struggle to deal with it and doubt I would accept her

My dad's 73, I'm 52 I think it would be ok. My mum would be pissed tho

What is the age difference?

Disown, never but I would be grossed out.

Depends on the ages involved too. Like if he’s 50 dating a 30 yr old and you’re 31 that’s not as bad as some other scenarios

So judgemental some of the posts! Your dad is entitled to a life and so long as the date isn’t half your age I don’t see the issue…my parents married v young and my dad is currently in a LTR with a woman the same age as me, we have a lot in common and get on great 😊

This actually happened to me, but my dad’s wife is a saint compared to my mum’s partner (her own age) who I hate so I am fine with it.

Embarrassed and I definitely not respect him as much.

Disown? Really?

As PP have said, depends on ages. If your dad is 60 and you are 25, and he’s dating a 24 year old, that’s somehow different to him being 68 and dating a 48 year old and you are 49.

wow!! I'd be absolutely fine with it if he was happy

Wouldn’t worry me unless she’s very young in which case I would maybe wonder about potential exploitation or the power (im)balance between them. If she’s an adult woman, no.

My dad's 3rd wife was late 30's and he was mid 70's. At the time I was late 40's. I thought he was pathetic and she was very clever. He was ill and died less than a year after they married (she knew he was ill). Although he did leave me and my DS an unexpected inheritance she walked away with most of his money and half of his very good pension.

It'd creep me out and wonder why OW is with him

Bit disgusted tbh. But then I would probably think of anyone my DD’s age as a kid really (even if thats 50). Possibly not reasonable but yeah thats how I would feel.

My dad is 78. My mum has been dead for 6 years. If he were to suddenly find happiness with a woman in her 40s I would certainly find it odd, but I would not disown him no.

I'd think it was none of my business.

Not sure I would disown, depends on the dynamics, if I thought there was a power imbalance and he was exploiting her then yes definitely.

Disown? No. But I'm in my 40s now so younger than me isn't young. I would think it was a bit pathetic. But my parents are still together and seem ok, so it's unimaginable to me really. I'd definitely struggle if it happened IRL.

I don't think it's just the age. There's so much more to it. If he was 50 dating a 20 yo I'd find that grim. Also if there was another power imbalance like she was vulnerable in some other way I'd also find that grim and disown him.

If she was his equal except in age and I got on with her, I'd be fine with it.

Like a pp I have a stepparent who is old enough to be my parents who isn't great and I'd prefer a younger one who was decent than one the 'right' age who isn't

I still loved him even though I despaired at some of his choices.

@Icequeen01 I had a similar experience. It really sucks doesn't it.

It would defo be weird. He's been dead for 15 years, so she'd have to be some sort of necromancer as well as young!

My dad married 2 women younger than me. He's dead now but I lost a lot of respect for him - more due to the circumstances to be fair, than their age.