How would you feel if your dad was dating someone younger than you?

[fridayyayyy]

Question is in the title. Would you disown him?

Yeah the funeral was grim. It didn't help that she was a horrible person.

Your poor mum.

Wouldn’t disown him. I’ve made bad choices in my life and he’s utterly supported me. I’m in a toxic relationship and he has been my rock throughout. I wouldn’t be happy but if they stuck it out I would support it. One thing I don’t have to worry about anymore as he told me he is too tired to chase women anymore (he’s terminally ill so I’d imagine it’s a passion killer but he used to be a massive flirt).

My Dad did this for a couple of years , a few years after he and my mum split up. I never met her.

I didn't disown him or stop talking to him, but my opinion of him was very low already after his behaviour over the previous few years, and he was well aware of what I thought of him.

He's been with a woman 5 years older than him for the past few years, and while our relationship is better now, I still don't really see him as a father. He's like an old friend who you've drifted apart from, but you still see every few months, more out of obligation than anything else.

We have a good conversation when I see him, bits it's surface level. Politics, the news, holidays etc, nothing you wouldn't chat about with a random in the pub.

Icky.

Dreadful Post. Couldn't give a fig about her dad's happiness, just showing off and being all judgemental cos its not all to her liking. Seeing the age instead of the person too. Probably jealous.

Perhaps he's better off without a daughter that thinks like that.

Be utterly surprised but otherwise ok. Not my business and I live 4,000 miles away. He’s an adult. He can date who he wants, legal adults, of course.

I am in this position. My dad is 64, I am 35 and so is his GF. I feel embarrassed for him, as she is clearly with him for his money (why else would an attractive35 year old be with a 65 year old?!). I think he must know deep down.

My dad's current (but soon to be ex) wife is 5 years younger than me. I was 30 when they married. Didn't really bother me tbh. They were both happy at the time.

I’d think it was utterly creepy.

I didn’t disown him but I have very little to do with him or with any of the women he takes up with. They only want his money.

DF is 70, I am in my thirties, I'd be horrified

I wouldn't disown but I'd distance myself and feel a bit sick

My Dad is 89 but looks a lot younger. I'm in my early 30s. I'd be horrified but outwardly I'd be nice as pie and VERY present.

Oh and I neither want nor need his money. I would question any relationship with a near 40 year age gap.

Oh so narrow minded all younger women now go.out with older men for their money.
It couldn't possibly be because they get on and have fallen in love. Age is just a number.

Have all your relationships with people your age age all lasted.🤣

It's not quite the same but my stepmum is only 8 years older than me. I'm 53 now. My Dad is 84. I struggled so much with it. He was widowed, my Mum died far too young , 20 years ago, and they were very happily married. It was really really difficult. However, Dad and SM have been married for 15 years now and she is truly wonderful and I adore her. We have a lovely relationship but the very small gap means it's more friends than "parent" if that makes sense. She is a wonderful nanna to my children. I'd have been very upset if she had been younger than me!

She lives in a council house (with her husband) and two children. My dad is obese & not particularly attractive. He pays her monthly around £3,000 in cash/gifts etc. Who mentioned love? I didn't.

I'm not narrow minded at all. I just live in the real world. I've never come across an attractive 35 year old who sleeps with an OAP for 'love'.

This is happening to DH. We are 48 and FIL's partner is 42. BUT, they have been together for 15 years so I've told DH he needs to get over it and accept it. He hasn't though mainly because he's toxic mother harps on at him about it endlessly. Our DCs haven't met her but she still makes pack lunches for them the FIL takes them out for the day.

My dad is 65, I am 42. He has never really recovered from my mum's death 10 years ago. I would actually be so pleased that he was dating and feeling happy. She would have to be under 30 for me to be bothered at all and even then, I think there would be an element of relief.

This is me... I'm 35. My DF is living with his 30yo girlfriend. He's 61. She's nice, not sure what's in it for her. It's weird. Literally nothing I can do about it though other than just get on with it. We aren't massively close.

What is your dad’s age gap with your mum out of curiosity?

I find it really hard to care what legally consenting adults do in the privacy of their own home and that goes for family members too.

So yeah, as long as she didn't expect me to call her mum we're good. We might not ever be friends but it's none of my business what they get up to.

Would think it was a tad pathetic on both sides- and assume it was more of a transactional relationship- he gets sex with a young woman, she gets stuff bought for her. I'd possibly call her mum regularly just to be passive aggressive, but that's me 🤣

I wouldn't disown him but I'd be very honest with my thoughts.

It's gross! Surprised at all the people thinking it's okay. Find a woman his/her own age