Is it selfish to ride pillion on a bike with DH?

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My DH has a new motorcycle he wants me to ride pillion I have all the correct safety gear. I feel selfish though as we have a 10YO DD. I know it's likely to not happen but the thought she could be left an orphan. I do like going on motorcycles I find it really fun. Would you do it or are my days of motorcycling over and leave it just DH?

What about all other potentially risky activities like skiing? What are the stats for those? And where are you drawing the line?

Not so much selfish as blinkered risk-taking.

The stats are shocking. You’re 57 times more likely to die on the bike in comparison to a car occupant. So that’s 57 times more likely to leave your kids orphaned.

Up to you though of course.

@zurala seriously?? You suggested that something like being in a car on a motorway is comparable to being on a motorbike. I pointed out that as the car will end up (sadly) in 2 deaths and 21 killed or seriously injured, compared to 114 dead and 1,789 killed or seriously injured on motorbikes. There is seriously no comparison, and all you want is other, alternative risk taking statistics? The whole point here is the op is (imo rightly) concerned that there is a genuine risk of her kids becoming orphans if they ride a bike together. And she’s right to be. The risk is significant compared to them popping down the motorway in a car together.

what is your point about skiing? They aren’t going to be on the same set of skis are they? You draw the line where you feel comfortable (or uncomfortable). Nothing in life is risk free, be some activities are obviously far more dangerous than others.

I love boating too op. Thought I would hate it (having been seriously sea sick as a child on ferries). Found out as an older adult I love a small boat, especially on rough seas🤷‍♀️who knew.

Bike test is different to car test. They obviously already have bike license, may not have a car license. Bikes are generally much cheaper to tax and insure as well.

Bike test is different - certainly not easier.

There are some batshit comments here. I wouldn’t get on the back of a motorbike myself but I do cycle in central London and whilst both have their risks I don’t think it makes anyone an irresponsible parent. Honestly! Life is not risk free.

Someone I know would not ride pillion with her husband, so he did ride-outs, weekends and longer without her.

Then he found a woman who WOULD ride pillion with him.

😂😂 I think the moral of this story is don’t marry a dick head, however it sounds like you’re suggesting that people ought to ride pillion even if they don’t want to, in case their poor husband’s eye wanders onto someone who will.

There's also the moral of not losing yourself too much either. If you completely change and stop doing things that you enjoy as a couple because of the children then you drift apart and lose that connection.

Or you change together because life and circumstances change.
Or one person changes their interests and if the other person’s not a dickhead both partners can have time doing things that interest them on their own and come back and spend time together.
It’s not hard (unless one or both people are dickheads)