To want time on my own in my house.

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Long time reader first time poster.

I put this question to you, AIBU to want one evening a month alone (him out, kids in bed me ready to veg on the stuff he doesn't want to watch) in our house.

Due to my hobby my partner gets one night a week to himself in the house relaxing (My hobby has also been hijacked by the middle child who comes with me now, and the youngest in school holidays) as the youngest is in bed before we go.
I was a SAHM for 14 years I now have no alone time in the house and I am craving it/missing it. I haven't watched a single series in 7 months (first world problem I know) since getting a full time job. Mainly due to everyone still expecting everything to be done as it was before I went to work.
I know its selfish but I really miss the me time I had, I guess I am struggling a little with my agusting to the new routine, and no head space.

YABU = you shouldn't expext alone time in a family house even one night a month.
YANBU = you should be able to have an evening to yourself once a month.

OP,

if it hasn’t already been suggested and if you can afford it then why don’t you treat yourself to an overnight stay in a hotel every few months? I’ve saw a few people do this.

Treat yourself to room service, binge watch TV, breakfast in bed then use the spa facilities!

I love my DP so much, but when he works late and I get quiet time to myself it’s honestly bliss. I’m sure he feels the same way about me when I leave🤣

Classic one man's problems are another's wishes

So many threads on here saying my DH does a hobby once a week and I am sick of it etc and OP wants her husband out every week to watch a box set, be careful what you wish for... you never know, his weekly outings may end up being the start of him withdrawing from family life or finding 'someone else' to spend those long boring hours with

But yes I occasionally want the house to myself which I don't get with primary aged DC and a full time job!

The housework is also to be discussed this weekend, so long as I agreed to let you know
that he cleans the windows monthly (inside and outside)

He wants praise for that? One household job a fucking month?

When does he meal plan, shop, cook,wash up, sort doctors and dentists, clean the bathroom or kitchen, vacuum, dust, wipe up kitchen spills, notice when loo roll or washing liquid needs replacing, check that any out of date food is disposed of etc?

But he wants us to know he cleans the windows once a month 😂

I forgot the laundry! Does he sort it into appropriate piles and wash on the correct settings, dry and iron and put away? Does he make sure everyone has what they need for whatever they're doing?