DD and her "friend"

[GrandTheftWalrus]

My dd who is 6 has had problems at school etc and they have referred her to chams etc.

However she's been going to afterschool club for over a year without a problem. Now this friend has started going on the same day as her and all of a sudden she's been disruptive, hitting the leaders etc.

Clearly the problem is the friend but dd is about to be flung out of the afterschool club and I have no idea what to do. Obviously I need to take her out but is that fair considering she's been going for over a year and now this other friend is going that's clearly her trigger.

I am friends with her mum but I have no idea how to raise it.

I know the little girl is 6 as well but I have seen her telling lies etc about my dd. She said my dd called her a bitch however I was there and it was clearly her calling my daughter a bitch.

What do I do? My daughter loves her afterschool club and if I need to take her out she'll be devastated. But the other girl needs to go as her mum has just got a full time job.

Yes- it may well be that the other girl is triggering the behaviour but it’s really not fair to describe it as her ‘fault’.

I feel for you OP as it must be so frustrating but you cannot blame another child for your child’s behaviour. I’m sorry your daughter is having such a tough time and is now upset in an environment she previously enjoyed. I really hope you get some professional support soon- in the meantime would a meeting with the after school club on how best to support your daughter help? Or can you remove her from the situation until you have more support in place? Hope things get better soon.