To get really fucking irritated when people constantly interrupt me

[mrsfennel]

Really pisses me off. Shut the fuck up until I have finished my sentence. I f I wait until they have finished talking, which I obviously do as I dont interrupt people, it is a one sided conversation.

I might as well put a cardboard cut out there and go and do the stuff I need to get on with.

My husband used to constantly interrupt me, his excuse was he'd forget what he wanted to say if he didn't say it immediately. I started to walk away whenever he did it so the conversation was ended. He stopped interrupting after a few turns of realising he wasn't getting to share his thoughts at all.

Why would it matter? Do you think there is some kind of minimum acceptable speed for talking?

YANBU, I fucking hate people who do this. It's extremely rude and ignorant.

Thanks for your character analysis but just to correct you on a few points

1. This was probably 10 years ago and my/my life are very different now
2. I never "say sulking". I can see where you inferred that from what I said but I have never been a sulked creating "an atmosphere". It is possible to sit in silence and gather your thoughts without sulking you know? I am someone who prefers to think about things, weigh up my options andale conscious choice rather than just react
3. I have no problem with my confidence. Well known for "not being backwards in coming forwards". Bit of an odd assumption.
4. You felt I dealt with that situation poorly however you weren't there, it wasn't you being interrupted constantly then being asked the same questions again later. Frankly, your opinion doesn't matter lol. And for the record I personally feel it was handled well because he stopped doing it and his mature reaction when we talked about it was quite impressive to me.

What a ridiculous victim-blaming response.

Good one! I think I'll do this when my DH does this! (Doesn't do it much now as I actually had a real go at him the past few times he did it, and said he is fucking rude! And then I have walked off!) He rarely does it now.

'I have to tell you while I'm thinking about it or I'll forget.' LOL !!! Fuck off.

This properly boils my blood. YANBU @mrsfennel I know a few people who do this. Even DH does it occasionally. I say 'ERRRM, I am TALKING!' It smacks of a arrogance, as the person clearly thinks what THEY have to say is far more important. It's bordering on narcissism. DH rarely does it thankfully.

One woman I know on my street is a bastard for this. Chats incessantly herself, about herself, her dogs, her son, her grandson lalalalalala, and when you try and say anything about ANYthing, her eyes wander, and you can see she doesn't give a shit about what you are saying. Her mind is working overtime, trying to figure out at what point she can cut you off to talk about herself again.

The worst type of person for me, is one I have experienced twice in the past few months... I have been talking to an acquaintance- and a neighbour (once in town, and once in my street,) and we have been in the middle of a conversation, talking about certain/various things.

TWICE in the past few months (2 different people, 2 different occasions,) someone the person I'm talking to knows, has barged into the middle of us, cut off our conversation, and said (to the person I'm talking to) 'oh hello Carol, how are you? I haven't seen for for aaaaages. How's your Dave? Have you been to the pub quiz lately??? Blah blah blah' And they completely ignore me. Act like I'm not there, and turn their back on me... (after cutting between us.)

I am quite cross that on both occasions, the person I'm speaking to has made no attempt to say 'actually, I'm just chatting to Danni here, I'll catch up with you soon.' I am just instantly excluded from the conversation and stood there like a fucking clown.

The first time I just stood there for a couple of minutes thinking 'the woman who butted in will introduce herself to me in a second,' OR the person I'm speaking to me will introduce me.... but they just carried on chatting together. Not even making eye contact with me. I just said 'see ya later then' the first time, and the person I was talking to said 'oh bye for now, take care... see you soon...' I just carried on walking off.

The second time it happened (about 2 weeks later-with a neighbour from 6 doors down,) someone butted in as I was telling this neighbour about something that had just happened in my life that had upset me. I was in mid-flow chatting, and some woman came past and said to my neighbour 'oh hello Pat! How is John? Lovely day for February isn't it?' And Pat just turned away from me and started talking to her.

I stood there for a minute while they both chatted and ignored me, and then I just walked off without saying anything. As I walked off they both went silent and I glanced back and they looked a bit shocked. Don't know why as they clearly weren't arsed about talking to me.

And no I did NOT say 'aren't you going to introduce me.' Why the fuck should I? I was chatting to someone, and deep in conversation, and some ignorant fucker interjected and completely cut me off and ignored me.' Nasty and rude. And as I said, the person I was talking to is almost as culpable for allowing it to happen. I haven't spoken to said acquaintance or neighbour since - haven't even seen them. In my opinion, they owe me an apology. I probably won't get one, and if I don't, then I probably won't stop to talk to them again.

I note you say you ‘had’ a friend like this. Good that verb is in the past tense, she sounds terrible

@Neededanewuserhandle I asked because I know people who speak either slowly or with long pauses so it can be hard to know when they are finished making their point.

If OP is being interrupted by lots of people then it might be how she talks. If she's only being interrupted by a few specific people then it means they are rude.

Normalise walking away from people when they interrupt. I started doing this at work.

That and, "I've already answered that" when they ask the same question (either because they interrupted my answer or wanted a different answer or both).

I just love how your immediate reaction to a complaint about something which is so common, it's literally everywhere, is to blame OP!

@happinessischocolate This sounds very much like Autism

@Doingmybest12 I agree some people do ramble on and on, but Im honestly not one of them! I disagree though I dont think everyone does love the sound of their own voice, I think some people are naturally interested in other peoples experiences and opinions.

There's a bloke/friend I work with who does this to everyone. If he does it to me I say 'lips moving, still talking"!!! I even did it in a meeting the other day. Lots of surprised faces/laughter. He now has taken to not responding when I speak to him as he says he doesn't want to be accused of interrupting! All in (fairly) good jest though it really did used to wind me up.

Another colleague I've noticed, if I'm talking to someone and she walks over and needs to also talk to them, will just jump in and say what she wants to say while we're talking. The person I'm talking to hears her address them so cuts off the conversation with me and listens to them. I'm definitely going to say something next time! I've started thinking maybe I'm just too polite

I didn't blame OP, I asked her a question to clarify her situation.

Evidenced from this thread, people droning on interminably about themselves with no attempt to engage in actual dialogue is also common, so it's a fair question.

OP seems nice and normal however 🙂.

@JustKeepSlimming 😂😂😂😂 That made me laugh! Yes exactly, why are some people so keen to finish your sentence. You could be going anywhere!!

I have been guilty of this. I have ADHD although not every person I interact with knows this of course.

I am training myself to not interrupt but it’s so hard when your mind is in overdrive.

Yep I also have a good friend who finishes off my sentences and I'm most definitely not a rambler.

The irony is that she IS a rambler and can go on and on and on and I patiently sit there listening but apparently I'm not allowed to have my 2 mins of speaking time!

@RosettaTheGardenFairy It sounds like you have very good self awareness which is half the battle surely, also a very good reason to do it if you had a stutter when you were younger.

@DannyZukosSmile Yes that is exactly it, the working out how to get the conversation back round to them annoys me the most.

Someone who rambles on about a boring topic, I can actually forgive more, lonely neighbour, someone who doesn't get to go out much etc.

But its the people who always talk about themselves and when you do get a word in edgeways I can see the look on their face that they are gearing up with another onslaught.

I just interrupt them back and so it goes on. That's called a lively conversation.

yanbu but also some people NEED to be interrupted my mum drones on and on about things for ages and then if you try to interject, she’s like ‘pardon me I’m not finished’
She’s got no self awareness and it’s boring and infuriating. She always tries to control the conversation and bring it back to her. It took me a really long time to be able to have a normal conversation because I’d learned so many bad habits and manners at home. Some people really over take up space

@Grapewrath that is so frustrating. What happens at Christmas or if you have a family get together, does she still monopolise the conversation?

I think I’m those situations with my uncles and cousins etc it’s easier as there are often several conversations going on at once so you can tune out!

^^