Law of attraction

[Mooshamoo]

I was just reading the books, "manifest" and "Ask and it is given" about using the law of attraction to get what you want in life.

Basically ,it says what we think about, we create.

And it suggests using vision boards, and journals and drawings etc to create things. For example writing out what you want to happen

Has anyone done it and had any success stories? I'd love to hear about them.

Did someone just ring you out of the blue one night and say "Your new better paying job starts tomorrow"

Or did you actually take action as in staying aware of available jobs, applying, interviewing?

That is what is so bizarre to me about this whole Manifesting bollocks. On the one hand, it if fails, it places all of the blame on the person, yet if it is successful, it gives the person no credit at all.

Not all that different than sport player giving god credit for the win, but taking responsibility for the loss. Just once I'd love to see an athlete after a particularly hard loss say something along the lines of "God screwed it all up for up causing all those missed and blocked shots, and don't get me started on that brat of his..."

If there is anyone on here who really does believe in the LOA and would like to talk about it more, please send me a PM.

I find it such an interesting topic and I would love to talk to likeminded people about it.

I know someone who is quite a successful "manifestation mentor" and does this LOA coaching for a living, and when she was building up her client base she herself said it was all a load of crap and that people believed in all sorts of nonsense. The way she talked about her clients was really off putting as she openly admitted she was taking their money and feeding them pseudo science. She was such an unpleasant person. I sometimes check her socials and cringe at all the #blessed hashtags and posts about female empowerment etc, when I remember all the misogynistic comments she had made in the past. But people seem to love her and she brings light into their lives so I guess there's that.

Having said that, I can see that having a certain (positive) mindset and specific goals to work towards probably does bring results eventually.

I did one time write out what kind of job I wanted. I wrote a list of things I wanted in the job. And then I was offered a job the next week

Though I did have to apply for the job. And use action to get the job. But writing out the list probably didn't hurt either

Don't get me wrong, that's clearly great. I just meant it's nothing to do with visualising a better future and it coming true, it's just literally how the jobs market works

However, good work making the move!

I notice that noone has responded to ny point about children born into famine and war zones. I guess you can't quite bring yourselves to type out that you think it's their negative mindset (presumably in utero).

I think having a positive mindset means that you are more likely to ses opportunities and go for them. No doubt it makes you nicer to be around so people are more likely to want to help you out.

But the flipside of the law of attraction is victim blaming when bad things happen to people.

Well no it probably didn't hurt writing out the list. I mean, it is also pretty helpful writing out a list before grocery shopping too. Makes the trip a whole lot easier, more organized, less frustrating, and well, successful.

Yes- for my current job and for the house I live in now.
When I first set my heart on both things my self esteem / self belief was quite low, I didn't think someone like me could have them!
I started out small, just every one night before I went to sleep I'd imagine coming home to my new house, hanging up my coat, dropping my keys on the counter, calling to my dc to put their shoes away etc just 10 minutes clearly visualising exactly what it would feel like, smell like, the relief of kicking off my shoes etc.

I noticed that slowly my mindset was changing because it began to feel like something that WAS going to happen, the same way that you look forward to a holiday you've booked and imagine yourself drinking a cocktail by the pool iyswim?

I started saving money harder, making bugger sacrifices, turned down things that would block me, became more patient than i have ever been in my life when I almost lost the house twice.

Anyway, I've been living here for 2 years now 😊it is exactly as I pictured.

It was similar for the job I do now. And the promotions I've achieved etc, began with imagining and visualising doing that job before I fell asleep and began making clearer choices, researching much more, working differently..
I've been promoted 3 times in 2.5 years and I've flourished.

Some areas of my life I have been unlucky in, romantically and through family bereavements etc. But that's to be expected 😊

Sorry that's a bit of a ramble. I hope you make the changes you are hoping for

learn about topics such as quantum physics

Yes, learn quantum physics. It’s not hard.

Bigger sacrifices *🤣 no buggers were sacrificed

I suggest that you talk to a physicist if you want to learn about quantum physics rather than watch law of attraction YouTube....

I did respond to your point. I said that I was also born into extreme poverty, degradation and extreme abuse. Lots of extreme poverty and extreme abuse of children also goes on in Western Europe, not just in warzones. Do I think I attracted this experience to myself as a fetus. No. I was born into an experience of poverty and abuse that already existed.

Even though I was born into an extreme poverty, as an adult , yes I have more freedom to achieve now, then children who are born into war zone countries. They don't have the same freedom that I have to create experiences.

So I would suggest that law of attraction works to an extent , but the society that you are in also limits what you can create as well

Oh I agree with you completely. As a cancer survivor it gives me the rage when well-meaning people talk bollocks about me having “beat it” through my “positive mindset”.

Well a more or less positive mindset - and I don’t mean that toxic positivity bullshit - is essential (you can actually make yourself die if you truly believe you’re about to). But the rest comes down to luck, when it was caught, how well it responds to the drugs, and of course where and to whom you were born which massively impacts on your access to health care in the first place.

So I agree with you. The LOA as it’s sold is a load of shit. But… in general in life, if you believe you can or believe you can’t, you may well be right.

I'm sorry that happened to you @Mooshamoo

I am also really glad that you don't blame yourself for it.
I'm glad that you have made a better life for yourself now.

Maybe the difference here is that some people learned the lesson when they were kids and some didn't so this is all new to them...

I remember as a kid, and then with my own kids when they were growning...there would be something I really really wanted like a new video game, or a new bike or my own car or what not. I learned pretty early on that Santa Clause was not a sustainable financial plan, so when I really wanted something, I would save up allowance, birthday money, find and work odd jobs and save up to get it. To me, that was just basic life lesson, and didn't need some fancy name for it.

It works like this.

Quite aside from the people wishing for new jobs, happy relationships, babies etc- all things that can and do happens when you put some effort in. Those people are the ones who think this works so well, and there are so many people who can say that. Because these things are within reach. Not even by a stretch really. They might feel that way, but they're as common as tins of beans in the supermarket.

But the people who ask the universe for a big house or a huge windfall or something... that won't happen for almost all of the askers. One might come into money. One might be left a house in a will and they think, 'wow! The universe had my back all along!' No, your parents did. The ones who left you this stuff.

To add to mine sorry OP -
I didn't spend a single penny on learning about visualisation etc, there's no need to part with any of your cash 😊
I had a difficult time growing up too, alcoholic parent and struggled for money and food a lot as an adult. It does affect your self worth and if we need a little extra help to retrain our brains then we aren't harming anyone

Circular logic. If you believe you can achieve something you will work on it and be more likely to achieve it. If you don't, you won't. There's nothing magic about that, but it's also not true that unsuccessful people haven't "believed" enough. I'm not going to achieve the Nobel prize in physics, regardless of how hard I try,, because a) I'm 45 and b) shit at physics.

I wouldn't write it off completely. It can be very effective. Vision boards and journaling for example has been hugely impactful for me. It focuses my mind on the bigger picture. I do a vision board every few years. Looking back on them, pretty much every single thing I have put on there has materialised. Not in an multimillionaire or 20 mansions kind of way but materialised, for sure.

I have an enormous problem with imposter syndrome and generalised anxiety. I often can't see the wood for the trees. My vision boards and journaling helps me focus and clears my mind. I would add though that I believe that is the benefit. I still do the work. I don't believe in the 'universe' sending things my way.

Do all those people who died during famines just not think, hard enough? There's cultures who were ethnically cleansed who created great art and had philosophers, what went wrong? This stuff does always come from a place of privilege. I do believe that positive thinking and meditation can help your mental health, though. Both then help you achieve goals.

That's great! I love journalling. I also like scripting. Where I write things as if they've ever happened.
So I write a diary entry from a week in advance saying "it's great today went really well. I got offered that job today"

You are a badass.

that’s a book that sounds similar to what are talking about. All the best.

Ok, so imo this is how it works...

Your thoughts lead to behaviours. Those behaviours can create opportunity. This is normal self belief.

I have friends massively into the law of attraction, Noel Edmonds is a huge believer and everyone's heard of Jim Carey's cheque. So I'm not saying its a pile of crock, more that self belief drives what you want.

When I was a student, I always needed £ to pay off my overdraft. Every break, I'd take my mum to bingo, maybe 2 or 3 time and I would visualise winning. The goddess Durga was who I would ask to help me win and I won a lot. Plenty enough for my overdraft even when sharing the winnings with my mum. Was it the LOA? I don't know. What I do know is that I wouldn't have won anything if I hadn't gone to bingo 🤣🤣🤣

But, I also kniw when I've had a lottery win. Don't ask me how, its a feeling I get. Sadly I haven't hit the jackpot or rather I haven't hit the jackpot yet!

Is it "load of old bollocks" night on Mumsnet? What a load of old bollocks.