AIBU to block in school mums parking on my driveway?

[Applepiesmum]

i live down the road from a school and during the school rush parents park everywhere it normally worse in the afternoon at 3pm

I work from home and usually park in the visitor pay outside my house so my partner can park on the driveway he gets home 3.30-4pm

however recently people have been parking on my driveway last week I caught someone pulling in knocked on their window and they argued with me saying they need to pick up their child eventually they did move but moved to where they were just half way blocking my drive way and halfway blocking my neighbor so no one could access it!

I didn’t bother confront them again but in future I’m just thinking to block them in… is that too petty

I have reported it to the school but all they’ve said is they’ve already asked parents not to block residents in so I’m not sure what else to do.

(if I did block anyone in it would only be for 30 minutes to cause a bit of stress and a lesson learned)

They are @loislovesstewie but apparently @Applepiesmum should inconvenience herself and let randoms park there to be 'neighbourly'

I am still baffled as to why the OP doesn't just park in the drive?

The visitor bay isn't just for her house, she said so...

"The reason I park in the visitor bay out the front is so my partner has somewhere to park near our house otherwise the visitor bay would be taken (which I obviously can’t moan about as it’s for visitors) "

She also went into say that it's neighbour etiquette that they all leave the visitor bays free for the houses they are near to...

So, it really would be far easier to just park on her own drive during the day, then after the school run move the car to the visitor spot if available, or her husband can park there if it's available when home, if it is not available, then use one of the others in the street and move Later (unless a neighbour doesn't conform to the agreed etiquette)

i think near enough everyone agrees it is wrong for someone to park on someone else's drive. But what doesn't make sense is not trying to avoid any conflict or confrontation by just parking on it herself, if she was already prepared to move from a visitor spot to block her drive?

Just leave the visitor spot to park on your drive instead, and voilà... problem solved!

I think we need a diagram. And again and boringly so, they aren't visiting the houses are they? They are dropping off /collecting from school.

I assume the visitor's bay is next to their dropped kerb, not across it.

You can't park across a dropped kerb even if the driveway you are blocking is your own.

I think you've answered your own question here.

She parks in the visitor's bay to guarantee that there will be a space for her husband when he gets home from work, shortly after school finishing time, and doesn't have to park half a mile away whilst the person parked in the visitor's bay is chatting to people at the school gates.

Not according to OP second post...

The reason I park in the visitor bay out the front is so my partner has somewhere to park near our house otherwise the visitor bay would be taken (which I obviously can’t moan about as it’s for visitors)

Only on mumsnet is is it worse for the op to park in the visitor bay outside her own home, than it is for some random school mum to park on ops drive 😂

No it doesn't give anyone the right to park on someone's drive.

What I'm getting at Is all the advice to block them in. Or damage their car etc. Its not a good idea. Not every one is non confrontational.

Still you are missing the point. Some people would do that. And are not bothered about being had up for assault. This is what I'm trying to get across. Doing things like blocking people in or damaging their car could result in you being assaulted and they won't be bothered.

Thats a fair point.

Well we can see a few on here are guilty of this

I told a number of people to move from our small carpark (in grounds of small block of flats) one lady woman had the audacity of to argue with me on a few occasions

and please don’t bother with the she may have mobility issues 🙄

nothing tops the time during ds church carol service. The reverend made an announcement for the driver of the xxxx car number plate xxx can they please move as blocking someone in. Everyone looked around no one responded. Five minutes later can hear raised voices and the reverend asked again. One of the pta and pita mothers got up and went to claim her car or so we thought but no she wanted to keep her car there for just a little longer as her child was about to sing/perform. We heard every word of the argument and language not usually associated with the church was used. It was shocking behaviour but bloody hilarious too

Not sure anyone is suggesting this to be the case

Again...
Look at her 5th post
This is getting tedious

@LadyHaHaHeeHaw

Again...
Look at her 5th post
This is getting tedious

Tedious?

Perhaps the issue is OP being as clear as mud and saying 2 differ things, not people pointing out what was said?

Yes id do it. Then not answer door. Then when your partner gets in get him to say that he doesn't have a key and you're at work till 8am

Indeed.

Yup.. well said

That Daily Fail article misses the point anyway, it says in the headline parking over her drive when they're actually parking ON her drive!!

Someone kept parking in the staff car park at my Dad's work so they blocked him in. He did call the police who did come out and told them to unblock him sharpish as it was illegal. I can't remember what the consequences would have been if they had refused. However he never parked there again. This was a West Country city.

Do they never both go out at the same time? If not then why on earth do they need two cars?

Hi OP. YANBU.

A strange set of responses here ranging from "puncture their tyres" to "But mums are busy and someone might be disabled" and even questioning your entitlement to make room for your husband to use his own drive after work. And the anti-car diversion was quite something too.

The problem here OP, is that someone who is unreasonable enough to do this in the first place is unlikely to react to being blocked in with "I suppose I was in the wrong, that'll teach me!"

I suggest taking photos and plastering them all over any school, parent group or local area facebook groups, avoiding the irrelevance of why the drive was empty as you'll open yourself up to the picking apart of why you should let a randomer use your property without permission, as experienced here.

And secondly, before you go back in your house after moving your car, set up a couple of cones with a chain link and a sign saying something like "PRIVATE DRIVEWAY, ACCESS REQUIRED 24/7. Therefore, in order to get onto your drive, CF would actively have to get out their car and move your cones/chain and sign, therefore removing any arguments of being ignorant of it being a private driveway, and allowing you to move onto more heavy handed solutions.

😂crack on. Wouldn't be fussed

Maybe the law on blocking someone in is different for a private driveway and a staff car park, @Mothership4two?

I think it all counts as private land @SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius

We chose a church school over the inner city local school due SEN. And it was closer to dad's house (didn't use that address) than the local one is to us. (Quite impressive given we are 0.1 mile away. Dad was less than that)

Having said that I dropped off well away from school and then they walked up...(one walked all the way)

once work from home started though I'd drop off and then make the problem worse by visiting their dad to avoid a journey back past two primaries and the busiest maddest traffic from their school which blocked the road completely for five minutes every morning