Page 32 | AIBU to block in school mums parking on my driveway?

Applepiesmum · 2023-03-23T10:49:06+00:00

i live down the road from a school and during the school rush parents park everywhere it normally worse in the afternoon at 3pm I work from home and usually park in the visitor pay outside my house so my partner can park on the driveway he gets home 3.30-4pm however recently people have been parking on my driveway last week I caught someone pulling in knocked on their window and they argued with me saying they need to pick up their child eventually they did move but moved to where they were just half way blocking my drive way and halfway blocking my neighbor so no one could access it! I didn’t bother confront them again but in future I’m just thinking to block them in… is that too petty I have reported it to the school but all they’ve said is they’ve already asked parents not to block residents in so I’m not sure what else to do. (if I did block anyone in it would only be for 30 minutes to cause a bit of stress and a lesson learned)

Rosscameasdoody · 25/03/2023 14:28

Thatboymum · 25/03/2023 10:04

It depends I guess how you would feel about somebody parking you in on the visitor space that you hog that I guarantee isn’t just for your house as you say all so your precious dh doesn’t have to walk far to his house you know like the precious school parents who couldn’t possibly walk the kids a few steps further. I think you have very double standards here on this thread but my opinion of people who get homes around a school then moan is why did you take it as you knew this would be an issue every day it happens to every school in the uk just about it’s deff something I would consider and a huge reason I wouldn’t live at a school because school Parker’s are just selfish dicks and that’s never gonna change

How do you know she hasn’t got an allocated visitor space ? Even if not, it will be for the use of the residents, not school run parents. And are you seriously suggesting that just because you live near a school, it excuses this behaviour ?

DrMarciaFieldstone · 25/03/2023 14:31

What did you think would happen every morning and evening?

I don’t think they thought they’d park on their drive?

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 25/03/2023 14:38

@Seagull97 - you are actually saying that the OP is unreasonable to object to people parking on her drive - not outside her house, across her drive or in her visitors’ space - but ON HER OWN DRIVE - because she bought a house near a school?

Are you for real?

QuertyGirl · 25/03/2023 14:44

Just so you all know:

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-11895375/amp/Parents-park-driveway-mean-block-in.html

Say cheese!

Boysnana · 25/03/2023 14:55

Fair point

Boysnana · 25/03/2023 14:57

Superglue would be classed as criminal damage and the OP would get done

FingerPuppet · 25/03/2023 15:02

I’m surprised that people are more bothered by “entitled” behaviour, than they seem to be about behaviour which is spiteful, vengeful and bordering on criminal.

Plumbear2 · 25/03/2023 15:08

FingerPuppet · 25/03/2023 15:02

I’m surprised that people are more bothered by “entitled” behaviour, than they seem to be about behaviour which is spiteful, vengeful and bordering on criminal.

I'm bothered about entitled behaviour of parents parking on others drive. But if it happened to me I would block them in because I have no where else to park and would not go out of my way to find somewhere else. If the parent dosent like this then find somewhere else.

Vivi0 · 25/03/2023 15:14

Plumbear2 · 25/03/2023 15:08

I'm bothered about entitled behaviour of parents parking on others drive. But if it happened to me I would block them in because I have no where else to park and would not go out of my way to find somewhere else. If the parent dosent like this then find somewhere else.

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I guess it’s all relative.

Some people just have more important things to stress and ruminate over than someone parking on their drive for less than 5 minutes, on one occasion.

I guess some would also find it entitled to hog a parking space on a busy road when you have a perfectly good driveway to park your car on.

KarenandFour · 25/03/2023 15:17

Yanbu! That would have me raging! Block them in. And video them returning to their car for us 😂

FingerPuppet · 25/03/2023 15:44

Plumbear2 · 25/03/2023 15:08

I'm bothered about entitled behaviour of parents parking on others drive. But if it happened to me I would block them in because I have no where else to park and would not go out of my way to find somewhere else. If the parent dosent like this then find somewhere else.

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I couldn’t get worked up over it. It seems to have been a one time thing.

Whilst I would never park in someone’s driveway, I would also never entertain the idea of blocking in the car, laying down nails to puncture the car’s tyres or supergluing things to the car. I think these are all suggestive of anger issues, to be honest.

I suppose some people are just more easily riled than others.

Plumbear2 · 25/03/2023 16:14

FingerPuppet · 25/03/2023 15:44

I couldn’t get worked up over it. It seems to have been a one time thing.

Whilst I would never park in someone’s driveway, I would also never entertain the idea of blocking in the car, laying down nails to puncture the car’s tyres or supergluing things to the car. I think these are all suggestive of anger issues, to be honest.

I suppose some people are just more easily riled than others.

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I wouldn't put down nails either. But when you are coming home to find someone in your drive why would you go out of your way to park elsewhere untill they move? I certainly wouldn't, the mother wouldn't so why should the owner of the property?

Plumbear2 · 25/03/2023 16:28

Vivi0 · 25/03/2023 15:14

I guess it’s all relative.

Some people just have more important things to stress and ruminate over than someone parking on their drive for less than 5 minutes, on one occasion.

I guess some would also find it entitled to hog a parking space on a busy road when you have a perfectly good driveway to park your car on.

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But it's not once for just 5 minutes. For many people it's twice a day for much longer than five minutes for years. Why should people have to put up with that just because they live near a school? The Op didn't hog a parking space on a busy main road, she used visitor parking which school parents are not entitled to use

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 25/03/2023 18:24

mylifestory · 25/03/2023 10:23

No.1 rule - Dont engage with them. Just block them in and leave. Inform Yr husband, tell him to deal with it when he gets back. Get a clamp, put signs up re clamp, use it.

The Protection of Freedoms Act
The Act makes it an offence to clamp or tow away a vehicle parked on private land, without lawful authority

ie you cannot just clamp someone

timeonmyside · 25/03/2023 18:45

I live in a corner house opposite a school, there are double yellow lines all round it. Parents take no notice of the lines and park anywhere. It makes it really difficult for children crossing the road to see oncoming traffic. Do these people not realise zig zag lines are placed near schools for their childs safety. I just make sure I am not coming and going at school drop off time. Mind you I used to live near a large hospital and that was worse, at least parents come and go in 15 mins max. At my previous address they could be there for their 12 hour shift.

Pixie18 · 25/03/2023 19:12

have i got this wrong? Your driveway fits one car. You are leaving your drive way and the space directly outside your house clear - so its convenient for your husband when he gets home from work and would rather not have to either a) come out to move your car and let him on the drive b) move your car from outside your house to on the drive and have him park across your car . but are happy to come out of your house and move your car back from the visitor bay to directly outside your house so you can block someone in?

DaSilvaP · 25/03/2023 19:18

Seagull97 · 25/03/2023 12:10

I am going to go against the grain here and say Yes, YABU. Presumably you KNEW that there was a school close by when you bought your house? What did you think would happen every morning and evening? And blocking someone in for 30 mins to ‘teach them a lesson’ is 1. Incredibly condescending and 2. Rather dangerous- what if a child is sick or there is an emergency? And before anyone says anything, yes, I once bought a house by a school. It was a pain in the arse, but it was my fault for not thinking about what happens at 8.30am and 3.30pm every day. I only ever complained to the school about dropped sweetie wrappers because it was my own fault for buying there. I learned my lesson and didn’t buy my next house near a school.

Presumably you KNEW that there was a school close by when you bought your house?

Are you serious?

How would you like to hear: you knew this park is full of junkies, so it serves you right to get mugged taking a shortcut through it?

mbosnz · 25/03/2023 19:19

I had to go and explain to our front neighbours in words of one syllable that it was important that their druggie customers didn't block the driveway because our elderly neighbours had serious health issues that meant that they could need to get to the hospital, or an ambulance need to get to the, at the drop of a hat.

I had to explain to a couple of woman that our wide shared driveway serviced multiple households, and no, they weren't entitled to park up, blocking it for all the households, and have a half hour chat. I suspect they felt I was a tad unreasonable and unpleasant about it - after being waved on, when I was blocked by their cars, upon turning in the driveway, having done my school run, where I was very careful not to park anywhere that inconvenienced anyone else, or was illegal, and did not worry that this meant a bit of a hike for me and mine.

Don't block people's driveways, don't park on private property without permission. No excuse. Certainly not because of the school run and you want to chat with your mates and your precious poppets might melt if they have a combination of rain and having to walk more than 100m.

rwalker · 25/03/2023 19:22

Pixie18 · 25/03/2023 19:12

have i got this wrong? Your driveway fits one car. You are leaving your drive way and the space directly outside your house clear - so its convenient for your husband when he gets home from work and would rather not have to either a) come out to move your car and let him on the drive b) move your car from outside your house to on the drive and have him park across your car . but are happy to come out of your house and move your car back from the visitor bay to directly outside your house so you can block someone in?

You’ve got it spot on except for the fact you’ve missed where visitor spaces are for residents and there guest
entitled parents from nearby school are nether

DaSilvaP · 25/03/2023 19:24

mbosnz · 25/03/2023 19:19

I had to go and explain to our front neighbours in words of one syllable that it was important that their druggie customers didn't block the driveway because our elderly neighbours had serious health issues that meant that they could need to get to the hospital, or an ambulance need to get to the, at the drop of a hat.

I had to explain to a couple of woman that our wide shared driveway serviced multiple households, and no, they weren't entitled to park up, blocking it for all the households, and have a half hour chat. I suspect they felt I was a tad unreasonable and unpleasant about it - after being waved on, when I was blocked by their cars, upon turning in the driveway, having done my school run, where I was very careful not to park anywhere that inconvenienced anyone else, or was illegal, and did not worry that this meant a bit of a hike for me and mine.

Don't block people's driveways, don't park on private property without permission. No excuse. Certainly not because of the school run and you want to chat with your mates and your precious poppets might melt if they have a combination of rain and having to walk more than 100m.

In some London boroughs run by anti-car loonies this kind of problem would be easily solved: one call to the local council, and the car will be quickly towed away and the offending owner charged through the nose for the privilege.

DaSilvaP · 25/03/2023 19:26

... They simply can't resist the slightest excuse to jump on car owners!

Pixie18 · 25/03/2023 19:31

But why does the resident need to use the visitor bay when they have TWO other spaces to choose from ? Obviously a complete random parking on someone’s driveway is totally unacceptable no matter what. there are also no rules to say that a resident cant use a visitor bay but a bit of common decency would make me feel very selfish ( towards neighbours not school mums) if i was doing this . This is obv and regular thing with the OP and if i was a neighbour living down a busy road , not lucky enough to have a driveway and could never find a parking space down my own road . Well, id be pretty pissed off . Sounds like absolute laziness to me .

Pixie18 · 25/03/2023 19:32

rwalker · 25/03/2023 19:22

You’ve got it spot on except for the fact you’ve missed where visitor spaces are for residents and there guest
entitled parents from nearby school are nether

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But why does the resident need to use the visitor bay when they have TWO other spaces to choose from ? Obviously a complete random parking on someone’s driveway is totally unacceptable no matter what. there are also no rules to say that a resident cant use a visitor bay but a bit of common decency would make me feel very selfish ( towards neighbours not school mums) if i was doing this . This is obv and regular thing with the OP and if i was a neighbour living down a busy road , not lucky enough to have a driveway and could never find a parking space down my own road . Well, id be pretty pissed off . Sounds like absolute laziness to me

NewCarOldCar · 25/03/2023 20:58

@Vivi0 credit to you if you can honestly park up, get the DC and their stuff out of the car, lock it, walk to the school, drop the kids there, walk back, get in the car and drive off in 'LESS THAN FIVE MINUTES '

You and your family must be related to The Flash if so. After 25 years of school runs, I've never managed that.

But even if I had, doesn't give me the right to park on someone else's property.

Snowpixi · 25/03/2023 21:45

Well I guess they learn an important lesson on courteous behaviour and not being so entitled and perhaps next time they park legally and they can then make their appointment.

they could also park and stride or crazy crazy - just walk and not take the car!