Husband's reaction to finally getting a positive pregnancy test

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Anonhopingforbaby · 21/03/2023 20:02

My (26) DH (27) and I have been trying to have a baby for the last 2 years. I finally got a positive test today and I'm absolutely over the moon, I know we have a long way to go until everything is safe but at least I can get pregnant, that's my thoughts on it.

DH has accused me of lying on Friday night (when I got a BFN and thought my period had started), to get some comfort out of him before I told him today it was positive. He thinks I lied to get a social media video of his reaction.

I couldn't care less about social media, I'm just happy I got pregnant. AIBU to be upset by his reaction, or am I being sensitive after building up this moment in my head?

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Wishawisha · 22/03/2023 09:47

okaybut · 21/03/2023 22:27

Btw have often wondered this – you see the same posters darkly jumping to sinister conclusions and advising people to run/flee their abusive husbands at every single ridiculous thing. Not targeting anyone, it's a MN thing in general, but it's more visible with some posters. Are they projecting their own past or wishing their own misery upon others? No doubt lots of abusive marriages exist but MN is obsessed with the idea / projection

I agree with this, it’s a horrible side to MN. You see it on so many posts and it’s cruel and bizarre.

Anyway, I feel like it’s all straightened up for the OP a bit now. He jumped to a (weird) conclusion only because the SIL had planted the seed.

Congratulations OP and I hope all goes well. I had what I thought was a light period with my second that was implantation bleeding and I remember by DH being equally confused.

SkyandSurf · 22/03/2023 09:58

toomuchlaundry · 22/03/2023 08:18

I wouldn’t be LTB but I would be moving! Family far too involved! Do they all know you tested positive now? Can’t believe your SIL’s actions

Yes, this family sounds enmeshed and even if you don't think it's a massive problem now, just wait for how they are when the baby arrives.

Move out of town and live your own lives.

The audacity of his sister inserting herself into that situation!

zaksmum1 · 22/03/2023 10:23

I'm sorry but if I bumped into my sister in law buying a pregnancy test the last thing on my mind would be "she lied better text my brother" that's ridiculous
I would go up to you and say hi and have a little chat and ask if you were okay and if you had doubts about the negative test, be happy and excited for you
Then go home and shut my mouth while waiting for some news
She sounds the like the problem
Your husband is probably overreacting due to shock and whatever
Me and my husband tried for almost 2 years before we got pregnant and a part of both of us had slightly given up and came to the conclusion that it wouldn't happen for us
So when we got pregnant we both were in shock (obviously happy) but when you try for so long you to learn to put your excitement aside and lower your expectations
Give him time to process
I'm sure he'll be so happy

Congratulations to you
Don't stress about your sister in law or your husbands reactions
You enjoy this special time
Men usually take longer to get around the fact that their having a baby because they're not the ones carrying it
So you just enjoy these first stages xx

Zonder · 22/03/2023 12:27

Why are people trying to find holes in the OPs posts? I'm amazed anyone asks anything on MN any more - there's always so many troll hunters.

riotlady · 22/03/2023 13:06

Your SIL sounds like an enormous bitch tbh

2bazookas · 22/03/2023 13:21

Just dial it down a bit. You're in a flood of hormones and hot wired to every physical sensation real or not; he isn't.

Give him time to get his head round it. Stay off social media. This is your very private bonding time of infinite possibilities.

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