Husband's reaction to finally getting a positive pregnancy test

[Anonhopingforbaby]

My (26) DH (27) and I have been trying to have a baby for the last 2 years. I finally got a positive test today and I'm absolutely over the moon, I know we have a long way to go until everything is safe but at least I can get pregnant, that's my thoughts on it.

DH has accused me of lying on Friday night (when I got a BFN and thought my period had started), to get some comfort out of him before I told him today it was positive. He thinks I lied to get a social media video of his reaction.

I couldn't care less about social media, I'm just happy I got pregnant. AIBU to be upset by his reaction, or am I being sensitive after building up this moment in my head?

What wedding? They’re already married.

Yes it was implantation bleeding.

Congratulations! 🎉🎊

Glad you have spoken to clarify things. Please don’t give your SIL another thought and try to enjoy your pregnancy. Congratulations again. It’s such a special time. Don’t let anyone spoil it.

Sil sounds like a shit stirrer.

I'm child free and have heard or implantation bleeding so it's his fault he's done no research by the sounds of it when ttc.

It's a really odd reaction from him a and I'd be talking to him about why he jumped to conclusions based on what sil said rather than his own wife.

OP, you should educate your DH about implantation bleeding. Your experience sounds similar to mine. I had been TTC for 11 months and assumed the spotting that I was getting was the start of my period, until the positive pregnancy tests showed otherwise. I now have an extremely active 16 month old.

😂

Oh wow, I can understand the social media thing because just today the Youtube algorithm sent me a compilation of husbands' reactions to fake positive pregnancy tests. So this absolutely is a trending prank online!

Imo that's a cruel prank, and I wouldn't ever be shameless enough to post myself publicly online anyway. But I see friends posting pranks/challenges on IG story, Tiktok (if you're younger), etc, and some are actually quite cute and fun. I feel like with social media these days you never know

Btw have often wondered this – you see the same posters darkly jumping to sinister conclusions and advising people to run/flee their abusive husbands at every single ridiculous thing. Not targeting anyone, it's a MN thing in general, but it's more visible with some posters. Are they projecting their own past or wishing their own misery upon others? No doubt lots of abusive marriages exist but MN is obsessed with the idea / projection

@Eyerollcentral Have you read the posts? Where did op say she filmed herself?

Might be worth actually reading the rest of OP's post, she wasn't filming. You've made some massive leaps there...

OP - sounds like your SIL is stirring.

You might want to work on your reading comprehension there.

So SIL saw you today and told your DH the same day that she saw you?

It could've been negative or buying it to try later in the week, but she blabbed.

She's a bitch!

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I did read her posts. People don’t usually pluck the idea out of the air that someone will just start filming things. Totally happy for the OP to correct me but it is really odd that her husband was wary of being filmed for his reaction and her SIL says she was filming in boots. Maybe the SIL is a stirrer, seems a huge lie to come up with though and I can’t see how someone would confuse filming with comparing prices of tests. Maybe the husband is totally unreasonable but again it’s a really strange objection to have if the OP doesn’t have a reflex to film everything and post it 🤷‍♀️

@Eyerollcentral

I wasn't filming myself, I was looking at a picture on my phone. I don't even have an instagram account and only use Facebook to keep up with my nieces

She texted him straight away because everyone knows we've been trying so desperately for a baby

@Eyerollcentral seriously about 8 people have pointed out that you misread. Go back read again and try and be a bit nicer.

Do you have a habit of filming things though? Why did your husband go to that immediately? That’s a really odd leap to make, especially if you don’t use social media. It doesn’t sound like there is a lot of trust there.

@Eyerollcentral

I take pictures and videos at family events for memories but only print out select photos, I'm not in the habit of posting anywhere because I don't have social media.

DH didn't know what implantation bleeding was, everyone in our family knew about our negative test on Friday, my SIL saw me and put 2 and 2 together and got 76, and I'm going to be speaking to her about stirring the pot.

Thanks for your nasty little rant at me though, seems like you're projecting your feelings about social media onto me

@Eyerollcentral she has literally said a thousand times she wasn't filming.. grow up and acknowledge what she is saying or stop reading

This does seem an odd thing to do from SIL is she jealous of your relationship. Maybe you did want to film his reaction just for you guys- why would she ruin that?

I'd suggest you keep things just to you and your husband for a while- seems she was determined to ruin it.

Congratulations OP, I got my first BFP this year after 6 years of trying, currently 38 weeks and Honestly DH was in shock and denial for a long time- they are just as scared as us x

I didn’t mean to be nasty and I am sorry for offending you. It is a very odd leap for your husband to go to though if you don’t routinely film things. The only advice I can give you in future is try and keep a bit more to yourself as unfortunately nosey family members will overstep the line time and again if you don’t set boundaries.

Stop tying yourself in knots trying to find a stick to beat the OP with. You misread it, leapt miles to some stupid conclusions and looked a dope, own it.

@Eyerollcentral very apt name. I know this is maybe hard to understand but it doesn't actually have to somehow be OP's fault. You can be wrong. Imagine.

Congratulations OP.