Did I go too far?
I took their Christmas money to replace the sweets and treats they took. We do a big shop once a month and I buy all the chocolates/ crisps and other cupboard bits for the month. These are for lunchboxes for the kids, dh and for picnics on the weekend (or pack lunches for days out) , also biscuits and breakfast bars. You know, the good stuff?
I did the shop on the 1st and by the 3rd I thought, the cupboard looked a bit empty on the 3rd (so 2 days) and by the 6th I definitely knew something was up.
The boxes of cereal bars were empty (but still stacked so first glance there is non missing), all the chocolate had gone, the biscuits had been opened and eaten.
me and dh did a big clear out of their room and moved the furniture around. We found all the evidence, evidence which included loads of fridge snacks too. Frubes, cheesestring, baby bell which the wax has got stuck in the carpet.
I was so pissed off i took the kids Xmas money and have been using it to replace the items for DHs lunch only. The kids are having no treats in their lunch and I'm only buying fruit.
The reason we do a big shop is because I don't drive so I get a taxi once a month to keep costs down. (it's cheaper to shop at aldi and pay £10 once a month than shop in sainsburies every week, so I bulk buy aldi and top up at the more expensive shop) The kids have obviously been doing this for some time as there was so much rubbish behind and under the wardrobe.
It's been 2 weeks since I took their money but I feel so guilty. They only get a little bit (it was £40 between them) and they are only 9 and 10 but, also they stole a month's worth of treats for everyone (dh works in a physical job so he gets easy bars he can stick I his pocket, sometimes he is doing a 12 hour shift, very labour intensive and no chance to nip to mcdonalds)
I'm going back and forth between
'actions have consequences' and
'kids will be kids'
I don't even know if the lesson has sunk in because they have been eating loads of fruit instead now which is better but obviously costs more than chocolate bars and the price if everything is going up I'm wondering if I'm being too harsh
Yabu - give the money back
Yanbu - they should pay for the food they took
AIBU?
I made my kids pay for the food they took
piqueen · 21/03/2023 11:24
Am I being unreasonable?
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Floomobal · 21/03/2023 11:41
This is deeply disturbing. Your children are hungry and clearly don’t have access to enough food. They’re hiding wrappers because they’re scared of your reaction.
This is one of the most concerning threads I’ve read on MN
PenelopeTitsDrop3121 · 21/03/2023 11:25
If they're resorting to having to steal food,it doesn't sound like they're getting enough food :(
PenelopeTitsDrop3121 · 21/03/2023 11:25
If they're resorting to having to steal food,it doesn't sound like they're getting enough food :(
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