I’m in a job I don’t particularly like, high stress, long hours. DH is in a low paid career, which he loves. I am the higher earner, by a lot. This was fine when times were good and our outgoings weren’t so high but I’m really starting to resent it. He hasn’t had a pay rise in years. He gets to do his hobby job and clock off at 5 while I get to work long hours to pay our mortgage, holiday, everything. If I decide to take a nicer job in my sector, we would have to sell the house and make significant changes to our lifestyle. He did actually have a higher paid role for about 3 month once but he left it because it was boring and I was secretly gutted. I do wonder if he would still be doing his job if he had to actually try and live on his wage. If we had a baby, I’d have to go back at 3 months, cover most childcare fees and not see my baby Mon-Fri. His job is tied to central London btw so we can’t move to a cheaper area of the country either (funnily, i could).
I don’t know what I want from this post. I don’t want this to affect our relationship, he’s a wonderful man. But I sometimes feel I would be a nicer happier person if I had less pressure on me too.