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To think a lot of OPs seem to cry at the drop of a hat in life?

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OldFan · 20/03/2023 22:11

I mean, I know we can't believe all we read on here, and some of them could be completely made up threads and the person claiming they're crying to add to the drama factor.

But a lot of them seem really grizzly, don't they? (I don't mean any one thread.)

I think I cried once in the last few years or something- the other week when my block was flooded and everyone was evacuated. I was storing my best friend's stuff, some of it books that are worth thousands, and thought they might be damaged/devalued. Thankfully all was ok in the end.

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DashboardConfessional · 20/03/2023 22:14

I'm not a crier. I sometimes get a bit teary over a death in a film or something but actual proper sobbing is reserved for things like really bad pain or a bereavement/job loss.

Zone2NorthLondon · 20/03/2023 22:16

Yes the ones who claim to be sick in their mouth. Cry or sob reading any human interest post on Mn
They leak fluid like a colander

JudgeRudy · 20/03/2023 22:21

I don't think crying necessarily shows the level of your distress/hurt or your resilience. Some people do cry at a lower 'stress threshold' others find similar situations more/less stressful.
I wouldn't cry if I didn't get a mothers day card. I might cry with frustration from what I believe to be an injustice. This could include a phone call trying to track a parcel. It really stresses me. The card, not so much. I don't cry at movies or hearing a sad story. I'd be more concerned about someone defining their worth by an event rather than crying over it.

Wisteriaroundthedoor · 20/03/2023 22:22

I think it’s done for sympathy. I frequently read “I’m sat here sobbing” . I find it a bit odd. I don’t know anyone who says sobbing in real life for a start.

Penniless · 20/03/2023 22:24

I don’t for a moment think they’re actually crying, any more than I think they actually spit their tea out on the keyboard or get sick in their mouths.

Karen398 · 20/03/2023 22:24

I didn't used to cry for months on end but now at 42 in perimenopause it's a weekly occurance! Always been surprised about how many posters get really upset/ crying over celebrity deaths though.

NadjaCravensworth1 · 20/03/2023 22:25

To be fair I'm not a crier at all (to the point I thought I was emotionally stunted) until I gave birth and now I can't watch the cheesiest bloody Instagram montages about motherhood without sobbing. It's insane.

Hbh17 · 20/03/2023 22:29

Yup. Apart from the occasional weepy film ("Paddington 2", every time) I probably cry no more than once every few years- it really has to be something major. Maybe I am lucky, or maybe some people allow themselves to cry more than others - I prefer to keep a stiff upper lip myself.

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OldFan · 20/03/2023 22:29

@NadjaCravensworth1 How long ago did you have your LO? Obviously if it's not all that long ago, that's normal.

I do think some women (not meaning you) might spend too much of their time with their kids and then they maybe kind of regress.

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Cardamoney · 20/03/2023 22:31

Not much of a crier here either. Even for major things. More likely to cry over really stupid things if I do, like song lyrics. And the Rainbow Bridge poem for pets- my goodness it’s so hideously schmaltzy but renders me a soggy heap. I wouldn’t dare admit that in real life! 🤣
I have friends who cry over anything and everything. They roll their eyes at me not crying, I roll my eyes at their emotional incontinence. It seems to work……..😄

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OldFan · 20/03/2023 22:32

I prefer to keep a stiff upper lip myself.

@Hbh17 I don't know if I deliberately try to keep a stiff upper lip, but if I did manage it I'd be kind of happy. I didn't use to have much emotional resilience (though I still didn't cry much) so it's nice that over the last few years I think I've developed a bit more through therapy, religion etc.

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Conkersinautumn · 20/03/2023 22:32

Just because your or my emotional range is as speedy as a plank doesn't make someone childish for crying. I rarely cry, but I don't think that makes others peculiar.

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OldFan · 20/03/2023 22:34

I roll my eyes at their emotional incontinence. It seems to work

@Cardamoney 😂

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Cardamoney · 20/03/2023 22:34

Karen398 · 20/03/2023 22:24

I didn't used to cry for months on end but now at 42 in perimenopause it's a weekly occurance! Always been surprised about how many posters get really upset/ crying over celebrity deaths though.

Perimenopause definitely has it’s effect!

HotSince82 · 20/03/2023 22:37

I cry often. Just never in public.

Mammyloveswine · 20/03/2023 22:37

Wisteriaroundthedoor · 20/03/2023 22:22

I think it’s done for sympathy. I frequently read “I’m sat here sobbing” . I find it a bit odd. I don’t know anyone who says sobbing in real life for a start.

My mam died just after Christmas suddenly. I have sobbed..

Spangasspikeywig · 20/03/2023 22:40

It’s the “crying and shaking” ones because someone skipped then in a queue that get me.

Hawkins003 · 20/03/2023 22:40

Usually more frustrated than crying , usually it will be e.g. A film clip ect that gets me teary e.g. The maverick scene when maverick gets locked on and says sorry goose, that got me teary, but usually day to day I'm usually non teary

Icouldbehappy · 20/03/2023 22:41

I cried the other day when I accidentally hurt my ds.
I had tears tonight reading about Ruth Perry and her teenage daughters.
I cried a lot at the end of the Elvis film.
I had tears in my eyes when a band I like sang an emotive song. I was right at the front.
I cry when favourite characters in tv shows get killed off.
I cry when favourite characters in tv shows realise that they love each other etc.
Not crying my eyes out or anything like that.
Just an emotional reaction.
Oh and I do cry when an actor or singer that I really like, dies.

Hawkins003 · 20/03/2023 22:41

Icouldbehappy · 20/03/2023 22:41

I cried the other day when I accidentally hurt my ds.
I had tears tonight reading about Ruth Perry and her teenage daughters.
I cried a lot at the end of the Elvis film.
I had tears in my eyes when a band I like sang an emotive song. I was right at the front.
I cry when favourite characters in tv shows get killed off.
I cry when favourite characters in tv shows realise that they love each other etc.
Not crying my eyes out or anything like that.
Just an emotional reaction.
Oh and I do cry when an actor or singer that I really like, dies.

That Elvis was a great film, such a pitty he lost his way, with the success etc

Allthegoodusernamesareused · 20/03/2023 22:42

I'm a crier! I've always worn my emotions on the outside. I am emotionally resilient, but I'm also not afraid to feel, and express what I'm feeling.
That being said... even I roll my eyes at some of the things I read on MN.

StJulian2023 · 20/03/2023 22:43

HotSince82 · 20/03/2023 22:37

I cry often. Just never in public.

Same. Didn’t cry much before DH died. I cry loads now.

maddy68 · 20/03/2023 22:44

Agreed. A lot seem to love the drama

JavaChip · 20/03/2023 22:45

There was a post about Mother's Day. Person did get a gift and they had been crying all day. Ok the H was a cock also by sounds of things but still.

ALL FUCKING DAY?

Doingmybest12 · 20/03/2023 22:45

I'm not sure not crying is a more positive way to be either. Interesting that op cried as she thought expensive books were potentially ruined. Lots of things influence if I cry and tiredness is one of them. Saying parents cry more because they regress with being around children surely is a joke ?